Genuinely not sure about this one, and can't work out whether I am just feeling sensitive/worried anyway in general about DS or whether this is U. I genuinely am rarely precious about this kind of thing, but may well have totally misjudged this.
DS is a new reception starter. He has had a real struggle with the transition. He still cries every day, on and off all day, had really struggled to make friend s and fit in. HIs teacher says that at playtime he sits on the bench and watches the other kids and cries, rather than joining in. At home he is becomign increasingly anxious and upset and his personality outside school has gone from happy and confident to withdrawn and anxious. I am very worried about him, and have had a meeting with the teacher etc etc and am trying to do all I can to help him adjust.
I had the idea to organise a weekend meet up for his class in the park (whoever wanted to come), with some fun outdoor toys, snacks etc which I think DS would love and would help him to make friends etc. I mentioned this to a friend who also has a boy in DS's class- her son is settling in very well and making friends easily. She is not a great friend, but definitely a good acquaintance- our kids were are preschool together, we have met up a few times for coffee without the kids etc etc. I told her that DS was having a really hard time, and how worried we are, and told her that I wanted to organise the meet up for the kids, saying that I would send out a class email to all the parents tomorrow (this was last night) She suggested a couple of dates she could do, and several that she couldn't do, all fine. I told her that we could do any date except for this Sunday, when we have an unmoveable arrangement and we left it that I would send out an email tomorrow and organise the whole thing and she would help.
Then when I wake up this morning, I realise she has sent out an email already to the whole class, introducing herself as their "room parent" (she isn't- not that this matters, but seems odd) telling them that she was organising this event and setting up a poll for when it should happen suggesting two dates, one being the only date that I said we couldn't do. I emailed her to ask say that I was organising this specifically because I was so worried about DS and wanted to make sure he could go, and she replied saying that she and the other two room parents (they are the actual ones, she is not) had talked about doing this separately before we talked about it (she hadn't mentioned this before) and that they had all decided togehter these were the best two dates. Now everyone has voted for the date DS can't do, and I am devastated that he can't go, that everyone will be even more bonded than they were before and he will be even more left out, etc etc.
AIBU to be upset about this? Was her behaviour U? Or am I being weird and precious?