to do a joint birthday present for twins

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DD has been invited to the birthday party of twin boys from her class. The boys aren't part of her immediate circle of friends (so I don't really know them mum) but she likes them so wants to attend the party.

Money is tight at the moment plus we've 5 parties we need to buy for across the DCs this month. Would it be unreasonable to buy a joint present? I could ensure it was something large enough to be shared between them without either being short changed, but wonder if this would be unfair. Buying two smaller presents would actually work out more expensive.

As you can probably tell I have no experience of twins so don't know what is fair!!

Hmmmm. I am a twin and it would very much depend on what the gift is really. If it was something really fun for 2 players then maybe?

I would rather get 2 packets of sweets and 2 cards.

Twins are individuals and my friend who is a mother of twins hates joint gifts.

Her twins are into different things though.

1 likes pink and dress up ect the other likes toy cars and blue, they are twin girls but my friend do t gender stereotype toys

I'm a twin and hated joint presents. They're two separate people. Get 2 of something cheaper

Nooooo!

Two separate presents, two separate cards.

Home bargains, poundland? It's surprisingly easy to get a nice present for a few quid if you think outside the box.

The works

Get a 2 for 1 deal of the same thing but different like 2 books but obviously a different one each

Definitely separate. The last twin party we went to I covered all bases with a joint board game but individual extras like hair clips etc.

I am a twin and am the mother of twins. I'd much prefer two smaller gifts (just a bag of sweets, anything cheap really - you shouldn't feel any pressure whatsoever to spend money you don't have) that can be opened separately than 1 joint gift. My twins used to love getting a card with a £1 coin sellotaped inside.

I would just get two small books. Individual but will be used by both. Something like the Mr men books are nice for that age and cheap

So who unwraps it?

Wilkos sell amazing little gifts for £2 and under. Craft things/ colouring books/stickers.

YABU.

They are two separate people. Do not force them to share a present. It doesn't matter if the presents are cheap stuff, children don't notice that anyway.

I'm a mum of twins (6). Neither I nor they mind either way.

My twins always gave a present each when they went to a party. I would expect them to be treated in the same manner.

I'm quite surprised by the responses. If its something that requires 2 people e.g. a board game I personally don't see the problem. I have 2 children and sometimes get them joint Christmas presents as its something they can have a nice time with together (last year was play kitchen this year may be farm and animals )

Please get them two separate presents. No matter how cheap they are.

I would buy two small presents personally, and would make them each a bit different rather than 2 identical gifts. I can't imagine anything worse than having to share everything

My DD has been invited to a joint party for 2 friends (not related) and if she wants to go we will have to buy 2 presents. Normally I would spend about £10 on gift, but as she only gets to enjoy one party I'll probably spend a bit less per child.

I was just coming on to say nothing wrong with a joint present if it's something big that would be a joint present if they weren't twins (like a computer, big outdoor play equipment, that sort of thing).

But for attendance at a joint birthday party?

Nope. Check out pound land, home bargains, the range, b and m bargains etc. You are bound to be able to get something decent for a couple of pounds.

I have dts's and I hate when people view them as one. They are individual people and should be treated as such.

I also have twin sisters who grew up being treated as one person, they were always given joint cards and presents and hated it.

They couldn't possibly share! How terrible! - in case my sarcasm doesn't translate YANBU.

I have twin girls and am always quite happy when they get one joint present rather than having two things to find homes for!

I can honestly say they don't mind either. Perhaps if EVERYTHING was shared, yes, but they have enough individual presents that the odd shared one is fine.

And a shared present is often something like a board game which is a bit more interesting than two cheaper/smaller things.

I'd do two small gifts too. I don't like joint presents for children so won't do it for twins or siblings.

Our party invite for twins explicitly states 'please only buy one gift - we will make them share' which I suppose removes any ambiguity