to do a joint birthday present for twins

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DD has been invited to the birthday party of twin boys from her class. The boys aren't part of her immediate circle of friends (so I don't really know them mum) but she likes them so wants to attend the party.

Money is tight at the moment plus we've 5 parties we need to buy for across the DCs this month. Would it be unreasonable to buy a joint present? I could ensure it was something large enough to be shared between them without either being short changed, but wonder if this would be unfair. Buying two smaller presents would actually work out more expensive.

As you can probably tell I have no experience of twins so don't know what is fair!!

DTDs have never minded too much about whether it was one large to-share present or two small ones, but they did mind, and still do mind, being called 'Twins' and sharing cards.

Up until last year, they've always shared their birthday events - party/mass swimming/going en masse to a movie type stuff - however, they're now 16, and finally developing a distinct social network each. They're all still friendly with each other's friends - and the person who fell out with one of them was cold shouldered by the other in sympathy - but DTD2 is a total emo, whereas DTD1 still has One Direction posters all over her walls. Also DTD2 has had a girlfriend for some time now, whereas DTD1 has only just starting seeing her first boyfriend. So next birthday could well be all change.

I don't have twins, but my two (15months apart) have always enjoyed joint presents, both big, like garden toys, or smaller board games.

If money is tight then go to pound land and make up a wee goodie bag for them. However if you want to buy them a joint pressie then do it. I don't think I'd be up in arms of someone bought a joint present. People are nice enough to go out their way to buy a present and that is what should really be appreciated.

springydaffs Please tell me where I have stated any of those things? I don't claim to speak for all twins or twin parents. Also how do you know whether I am a twin or not? I haven't said. Not that it is relevant since everyone is different and a gift is still a gift.

If you're going to make nasty digs at me at least have the respect to post my name properly and quote things I have actually said please not your made up rubbish. Thank you :)

springy how rude. Away you go.

Away I go? Away I GO??

Like where? The kitchen?

Does anyone understand what springydaffs meant with her strikeout bits? I'm confused!! It's a bit early in the day to be on the , (unless she's from another timezone of course)

Yes. Go. Away.

You're rude.

No one cares about your "stfu"

Rattle your cage elsewhere

No one cares about my "stfu"?

I'm so hurt by your insult! I mean, so insulting

Just ignore Springy. She's possibly having a really bad day/got a lot on or something and is looking for a fight here. Don't give her one.

If you are having a hard time Springy I hope it gets better soon

And if you're just being goady and unpleasant then I agree with Prettyeyed

I think you didn't say it in the right way springy but I get your point (as a twin). It is very difficult for anyone to understand how it works being a twin, how you feel on all manner of things unless you're one half of "The Smith Twins" for 40 odd years or whatever.

Sorry, haven't RTFT.

Mum of identical twins here. When they get invited to parties they each take a gift for the birthday child as they are two separate people. Similarly, if people choose to bring them birthday gifts I prefer it if they are each given something. Each twin writes their own thank yous for their own gift.

At school the children tend to call either of them eg adamandjake to cover themselves whereas I strive to promote their individuality. As for the people saying they have to learn to share - they have had to do that from conception, so I don't think it is excessive to let them have their own belongings, it's not their fault they share a birthday!

Ahem
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