Wedding gift - they ask for currency, can i jsut give then a huge champage bottle?

[BrendaandEddie]

No time to dick about with foreign exchange and they are too old to be given cash IMO
I have met bride once, H knows groom. WEedding ( evening do only ) an hours drive away etc

will huge champers thing do"?

OP I would give the evening a swerve.

Personally, I think the correct ettiquette is to wait until you are asked, then it's fine to specify money, or whatever else. It does seem rude to ask for money without being asked first.
The only problem with that is there appears to be a lot of people who don't ask, and think everyone wants to be given champagne. (or picture frames, or something else along those lines). Or they don't particularly care and just give what they consider to be an 'acceptable gift'. It's just the equivalent of giving someone one of those giftsets from Boots for Christmas, IMO. Yes, a few people will like them, most people won't.

But it remains the guests right to give a gift of their choosing, or indeed whether to give a gift at all.

Yes the guest may ask in which case it's fine for some direction. But in the same way I wouldn't tell my MIL what to buy me for christmas ( because it would be rude).

Ending up with less than suitable gifts is one of the traumas of people giving you presents unfortunately.

You don't always get what you want in life.

Agree with you there, unfortunately Goblinhat. Which is why I would specify 'no gifts' if I was getting married.
Personally I would prefer the no gift at all option.

Well today's the day. Are you all limbering up ready for The Big Reveal?

Blimey the time you've spent faffing around about this you could have....

ordered the currency and gone on a mini break with the loot yourself.

I couldn't sleep last night Brenda with the anticipation

This is why I hate weddings. Bridezillas fair enough but guestzillas...and worse evening guestzillas...

Nowt worse than a B list Zilla

Champers! Champers! Champers! Champers! Champers!

Champers V Cash/Currency....Which will win, only one way to find out............FIGHT!!!!

We had a couple (dh's friends but I knew the guy from school) who got totally sloshed all day on our dime and gave us a £1 lottery ticket which didn't even fucking win. I know it's not in the spirit of things to expect a present but honestly I found that insulting especially as they were loaded.

Loving the gangsta speak fanny "on our dime"

Thanks chinchilla, was feeling transatlantically inspired this am obvs

settles comfortably for big reveal bet its currency

lol at this thread
I haven't been to a wedding for yonks

carriage clock ? -retro gift , we got 6 !

I'm of the old fashioned ilk that could never ask for anything let alone cash ..
evening do ...just turn up with a bottle

Champagne as a gift in itself is obviously fine. But I tend to think it's an annoying gift for a wedding.

We gave a bottle at an engagement party a couple of years ago, same people gave dp a bottle at his 40th (the one they gave him was more expensive, ahem!). But when they got married we gave them £50 in a card.
I'd do that or give a JL voucher myself.

Having A bottle of champers is one thing, but having 50 is just a pita. My sister had a 25th wedding anniversary party and asked for no gifts, but got about thirty bottles of Champagne. Tedious or what? (Is Champagne the new toaster? There's a PhD in there.....).
I got her an engraved stone which was personal to them both and goes in the garden. She genuinely loves it. Being her sister I felt I needed to, especially as they have been through a lot over the years.

I'd still go with cash, even though they rudely, apparently asked for it. I find this less rude than a friend who of mine who put in her invitation "we are not accepting gifts which are not from the wedding list", over entitled cow she is.

We're getting married and we don't want gifts or cash but if anyone wanted to give us a bottle of champagne we'd be more than happy!

What did you decide on OP?

My vote was for champagne or £20. Evening do shouldn't need to be much more...

Real belly laugh at scoop

Roar at engraved stone. That's as funny as the Beatrix Potter Otter story.

Well you're pretty rude, surprised anyone wants you at their wedding. Expect they grudgingly felt they had to invite you to come along with your DH but would have preferred not to have done.

Engraved stone???? Wth?

Snigger at punishment stone.

I think champagne and photo frames are both the new toaster outtogetyou. Each perfectly nice in themselves for the majority of people, and fine to have in the plural, but not something most of us want three dozen of hanging around.