12 yo DN and makeup

[StillFrankie]

Maybe I'm just getting old but I feel uncomfortable with the amount of makeup DNeice is wearing and how much she (or her mum) are spending on it (SIL doesn't wear any makeup, never has, so its all on DNeice).

DNeice has not long turned 12.

She wears a lot of makeup, she wears it well, but its still clear she's wearing makeup iykwim.

She was talking to me about brands. She uses MAC, Urban Decay, Benefit, Zoella stuff etc.

She also gets HD Brows, wear fake lashes, has french tips, GHDs, Babyliss curler thingie, wants a tongue piercing, uses teeth whitening gel.

AIBU to think this is too much at her age? Maybe as I said above, I'm just getting old and things have changed. I think at that age I just wore a bit of Rimmel concealor although I did get my eyebrows waxed every so often.

My own DD is only 7 and I'm already worrying about her 'keeping up' with her peers - eg she wants her ears pierced and I am refusing until high school, but 'all her friends' have it done so I feel like a bad mum. So this high school stuff with my DNeice really makes me worry!

Make up doesn't destroy the skin - most of it has an spf which protects it!

My DD is 12 and has better make up than me! 99% of her friends wear it-a lot of them not very well-and she banged on about it for ages before I gave in.She ended up using her friends stuff,which I don't like, so I let her buy her own.I made sure she bought natural looking stuff,good quality and drummed it into her that she must clean it off every night, which she does. She follows Youtubers who do make up videos (and she wants all the pricey stuff that they use too!) and I'm afraid it's a sign of the times.

I've not read all replies so sorry if cross posted.

IMO I think yabu. Your sil has clearly made a choice about what she thinks is acceptable for her child to wear, so who are you to question it? This does not automatically mean that your daughter has to wear the same stuff/ have the same routine. You will make a choice about that, just as she has.

YANBU. Make up on children is vile. And a 12 year old is a child. Possibly a slick of mascara and lip balm at a push, but contouring, French tips, falsies and expensive make up is ridiculous. Why is everyone so obsessed with fakery?!

So glad DN isn't Dear Nephew.

I'm a bit clueless about makeup as I don't really wear it myself. My 13 year old isn't remotely interested in anything girly, but my 11 year old is a bit girlier. She had a bit of sparkly eyeshadow and lip gloss from Claires for the end of yr 6 disco, but hasn't asked for anything proper yet. If she wanted to experiment a bit for a party or disco I'd be fine with that, but I'm hoping her friends will teach her what to get and how to apply it. I wouldn't allow it for school.

But who looks at a 12 yr old and thinks "so fake"

if a man posted on here he thought his date was guilty of "false advertising" as she looked so different without the clothes ir make up he'd he crucified.

so why would you apply the same thought process to a child

and if someone has the money fir it, and has bought brands they feel are good quality and the child has learnt to apply it properly then that's up to tehm surely?

and even if it was caked on orange with huge pencilled eye brows surely you'd still just think, she's going through a phase, we can tease her about it on her 18th. I'd just inwardly smile and think myself lucky I'd escaped it.

not think "vile"

that's a child your talking about who's done nothing wrong to anyone.

Giles

She said the make up was vile not the child.

DD is 13 & wears it for parties, but cba for everyday stuff. She started an interest when she was 12 so I think that's normal (as did I in the 80s!). I bought her a Benefit starter kit. Her make up is better than mine! She buys nail varnish when out with friends or me sometimes and got her ears pierced recently & is talking about other future piercings she wants, plus having a nose job!!. She looks more teenage now than a girl so it looks fine on her. I think wanting teeth whitening is a bit ott for that age, as is wearing it all the time, but some girls are much more looks conscious than others.

Exactly, I said make up on children is vile, and as you say yourself, 'that's a child your (sic) talking about.'

Yes, a child. As an adult, I wear minimal make up but do so because I usually want to make myself look less of a zombie at work - mascara and concealer. Boom, done.

It worries me that young girls are trying to make themselves look like perfect little Barbie dolls. As I said, a slick of clear mascara and lip balm is not going make me recoil in horror, but dyed hair, extensions, full make up, false nails, false eyelashes, and all this Kardashian-inspired shit makes me feel sad for young girls. There's a different between a twelve year old going to a birthday party wearing glittery eyeshadow, a hair clip and and tinted lipbalm and feeling like GODDESS because it's so out of the ordinary, to wearing a full face of Mac make up with styled hair and french tips.

I don't blame the children, I fully blame the parents.

*difference

Dd talks about MAC and other brands. She wears mascara and eyeshadow to school, keeps buying false nails and tried out contouring the other day. She's 11! I find it staggering but am just letting her experiment for now because I think it is a bit of a phase and don't want to make a big deal of it. I banned eyeliner for school and foundation whenever, on the basis that she will wreck her skin, though.