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Called "unprofessional" for doing the school run in PJs

393 replies

Pollyisnthere · 24/09/2015 18:24

Snide comment from someone else. Wtf should i wear for a professional school drop off? I do live in my PJs and love it while I'm not working. Often have two pairs a day so its not dirty. Aibu to do this?

OP posts:
Lweji · 26/09/2015 14:53

Where do you get Jurassic Park pjs? I'm sure those are allowed out. Grin

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 26/09/2015 14:59

Sproketmx - it is lazy logic to suggest that, simply because we are discussing a fairly trivial topic, that is all we have to worry about. You do realise that it is possible to discuss a range of different topics, of varying levels of importance on here (other web fora are available), all whilst living a life that has real challenges in it?

BastardGoDarkly · 26/09/2015 15:35

I've lived, and I'm honestly on the other side of the stratosphere than uptight (trust me on this) I still get dressed though Hmm

BreadPitt · 26/09/2015 15:43

Lweji
Primark. They also have Jurassic Park knickers. Life is 20 times better in JP knickers I'm telling you. Grin
Their range of nightwear this season is outstanding. They have Harry Potter PJ's as well which are quite awesome.

catkind · 26/09/2015 16:39

lweji, me neither. (And I insist bras should be comfortable too.)
That was more for the posters who were wearing PJs at home because their prepared-to-be-seen-in clothes were not as comfortable.

Lweji · 26/09/2015 16:43

I got it.
Just reinforcing that it's possible to do it. :)
Some of us already are.

sproketmx · 26/09/2015 16:52

Haha. Naw I meant some of them, 'I'd suspect mental illness' or 'did suspect alcoholism' or 'no self respect'. Genuinely it's just can't be fucked. Not mentally ill abusing alcohol just having a bit of a slouchy morning. What gets me is the double standards. I'm common as muck but I don't judge mums for turning up to the school in a big fancy suit, I'm not claiming mental illness on those who can't open the door without a bra and makeup but it's fair game for the rest. I know loads of folk who go to the shop in their jammies or take the kids out in their jammies and it doesn't make them any different from folk who don't.

Sparklingbrook · 26/09/2015 16:57

There are lots of reasons someone might do the school run in their pyjamas, some understandable, some less so.
'Can't be fucked' is most likely one of them I guess.

sproketmx · 26/09/2015 17:27

There are often 7 kids in this house between kids and step kids. Getting myself seen to is the last thing on my mind

Sparklingbrook · 26/09/2015 17:30

Great. Whatever works for you.

merrymouse · 26/09/2015 21:04

People turn up in a variety of outfits at my children's school including overalls, gym clothes, jeans, muddy riding gear and sometimes suits. It's not really about looking smart - more about giving the impression that you managed to hit the basic targets - teeth brushed, breakfast eaten, suitable clothes on, bag packed and ready for the day.

Giving the impression that you can't be arsed shows a lack of respect for others and generally makes life harder.

thegiddylimit · 26/09/2015 22:30

Dying to know where you are

There's a festival here this weekend (not in the naice part of town).

asstnitoma · 27/09/2015 18:07

Someone at my daughters school was actually reported to child services for taking the kids to school in pj's!

Amy0039 · 27/09/2015 18:27

Personally I don't openly go out in my PJs, and I'm baffled by people who do. If I;ve remembered something I need from the supermarket late on that can't wait I'll swap the trousers over to jeans/trackies and put my coat on over my PJ top, but I wouldn't feel comfortable going outdoors just in my PJs. Where I live people reguarly go out to the shops/do the school run in various combinations of PJs, slippers and I've seen the odd dressing gown.

This being said, it's none of my beeswax, and although I think it's a bit slovenly, I'd never dream of saying anything to people who do feel it's acceptable, any more than I would go up and tell somebody that I thought their outfit was unflattering/mismatched/ugly etc. It doesn't affect me, so each to their own I suppose.

reni2 · 27/09/2015 18:28

When people say "I don't give a fuck what people think" they usually assume they are thought of as bohemian and unconventional and everybody else is Hyacinth Bucket.

Almost everybody cares if people think they are alcoholic, struggling with life or unwashed.

TheDowagerCuntess · 27/09/2015 18:33

Yes. Someone out in public in PJs just comes across as incapable.

If you're happy with people thinking that, then fair play.

pigsDOfly · 27/09/2015 18:34

Just can't imagine leaving the house to go anywhere in my pyjamas.

I think it's probably the modern equivalent of women who used to wander around in the street with rollers in their hair in the 50s and 60s.

Armi · 27/09/2015 18:35

Wear what you like.

Personally I think it's slovenly to leave the house wearing pyjamas, but then I don't get the modern fixation with wearing pyjamas at all times unless one is actually at work.

nixxxi · 27/09/2015 18:40

I haven't bothered reading this whole thread (which I guess makes me lazy) but if I have to nip out in the car somewhere (to pick up children etc) and don't have to get out of it, I happily do it in my pjs. No one is going to tell me what I can or can't wear. If you're comfy in them, wear them. Don't let anyone's comments stop you being you.

TheDowagerCuntess · 27/09/2015 18:44

Nobody can tell anyone what they can or can't wear - it's a free country (for most of us), but likewise, you can't stop people's thoughts on the matter.

The first thing I do every day on getting out of bed, is get dressed. Even at the weekend. I don't see the appeal of slobbing around in pyjamas even at home, so taking it out in public is just so odd to me.

Badders123 · 27/09/2015 18:44

I suppose I would be concerned my children would be bullied about me dropping them at school in my pjs.
I also think it smacks of a complete lack of self respect tbh....
Is anyone really so so busy they haven't got time to get dressed!?
I suppose my other thought would be that they could be suffering from depression/MH issues.

Badders123 · 27/09/2015 18:46

Pigs..oh god! :) my mums old neighbour did this when I was growing up! She would stand at the front gate in her curlers and pinny :)
Another one would go to the local co op with her curlers and settin lotion on! :)

Pixi2 · 27/09/2015 19:09

Y'know, if you sleep naked its so much easier to get dressed immediately in a morning and avoid the whole 'pyjamas are comfier' issue.

I agree it shouts lack of self respect but I know my own attitude is because if my upbringing. There was no lounging in pyjamas even in an evening. Now whilst I'm happy to pop on yoga pants and a hoody after a shower in an evening, I'm still not prepared to venture outside without looking like I can look after myself.

notinminutenow · 27/09/2015 19:18

Nasty! Have a wash, get dressed and act like a bloody grownup.

StampyMum · 27/09/2015 19:27

You can wear what you like, but it does look scruffy... So you can't be bothered to get dressed - but what people are thinking is, what else can't you be bothered to do? Wash? Feed your kids properly? Make sure their homework is done? Teeth brushed? Getting dressed before you go out takes 30 seconds if you're in a rush. Really glad no one does it round here, tbh, I think the school would have a word with any parents who turned up in nightwear.