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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think that an hour late is taking the piss?

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CloakAndJagger · 24/09/2015 11:57

So, how long would you wait to meet someone before you gave up?

Arranged to meet a friend at 11am. They're always a bit late, so I got here for 11 rather than earlier.

At 11:20 they text to say they were on their way. They live 10 mins from where we were meeting. It's now nearly 12 and they're not here yet. I only put 2 hours on the parking, so have about 50 mins before I gphave to get back to the car.

How long would you wait before giving in?
What's the longest you've waited for someone?

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iamanintrovert · 24/09/2015 11:59

Go now. That's too rude. I'd probably wait half hour.

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CloakAndJagger · 24/09/2015 12:00

I'm just fuming a bit. I've driven to her town to meet her, hence the parking.

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OneDay103 · 24/09/2015 12:00

Very rude, they should have texted you before 11:20 to let you know.

shutupanddance · 24/09/2015 12:00

If was on my iwn half an hour. Tbh whats the point now?

OneDay103 · 24/09/2015 12:00

And yes I would leave now.

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CloakAndJagger · 24/09/2015 12:01

I'd have given up earlier if they'd not text me at 20 past to say they'd be there In 10 mins.

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TheSkiingGardener · 24/09/2015 12:01

Leave. Don't text her to tell her though.

Gottagetmoving · 24/09/2015 12:01

I would wait 20 minutes but longer if they text me to explain they would be longer and why.
Your friend is always a bit late because people wait for her, so probably best to tell her in future you will wait 5 or 10 minutes in future and then leave - and do it!

mojitomother · 24/09/2015 12:02

Thats not on. Did she sound apologetic when she texted?? I agree with the others, go home and tell her why

Pedestriana · 24/09/2015 12:02

I'd go. I know someone who does this. We don't meet up any more.
although we should do as she has some of my stuff and I want it back before I cut her out of my life as she's so rarely in it

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CloakAndJagger · 24/09/2015 12:02

Oh heaven alive! They're here!!

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exexpat · 24/09/2015 12:03

I would have been tempted to text back at 11.25 saying sorry, I've already left…

If it were someone who is not normally flakey I would probably have stayed until at least 11.30, but if this person has form, it's time you did something to make them realise it's not on.

BoyScout · 24/09/2015 12:03

Is she always late? She's probably the type to be massively offended if you leave.

What had you arranged to do? I will go ahead - order the coffee or the lunch or do the shopping, whatever it is. And leave at 1pm as planned.

mojitomother · 24/09/2015 12:03

I would say text before you leave because she may then use it against you and accuse you of not having been there in the first place Either way, it's not your fault

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CloakAndJagger · 24/09/2015 12:03

Nope txt just said "on my way, see you in 10"

I'm just going to settle down with a coffee and listen to the excuses now. I don't think I'll be doing this again.

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NotMeUsNotIWe · 24/09/2015 12:04

What does always a bit late mean? Is that 5/10 mins? I'd find that annoying anyway but an hour is taking the piss.

Haven't you tried calling since you got the text though? I wouldn't sit around for an hour waiting but would have checked by now to see if something had happened. If she's not been in an accident or something I would be having strong words.

TwoDrifters · 24/09/2015 12:05

They texted at 11:20 to say they'd be there at 11:30. Already half an hour later than arranged, so very rude. Did they apologise? Did they have a sufficient reason for their lateness?

You have now waited an extra half an hour on top of that! With no further communication, explanation or apology! Yes - leave. Leave NOW.

If they text to ask where you are, the only possible response is: "You are joking, right?!"

stepmad · 24/09/2015 12:06

Know some like that gave her thirty minutes then switched off phone hid my self in a coffee shop and watched her wait then went to see a film has not done it since

lovelyupnorth · 24/09/2015 12:06

My record is wednesday, they text to say setting off on the Sunday afternoon and picking up a takeaway curry to re-heat as about 3 hours drive away, finally arrived wednesday night... cury was a bit moldy but we just picked that bit out and had a drink.

TwoDrifters · 24/09/2015 12:07

Ah, cross posted. Oh well. Enjoy your coffee!

hellsbellsmelons · 24/09/2015 12:08

OMG that is sooooo rude.
Why is her time more important that yours?
Does she think she's better than others.
I hate lateness unless there is a very good excuse.
In business courses etc.. you are taught not to be late.
It says a lot about you and how you think of yourself. It also gives a very bad impression to colleagues about professionalism etc...
Crickey - it's basic manners.
I'd listen to the excuses and then tell her I have to go as you have other things planned.
Only give her 20 minutes of your time now.
I'm raging for you.

hebihebi · 24/09/2015 12:09

Enjoy your coffee but I'd leave at 12.50 on the dot.

InimitableJeeves · 24/09/2015 12:15

I suppose in your shoes I'd have waited till 11.40, then texted them to say "Sorry, couldn't wait any longer" and left.

PassiveAgressiveQueen · 24/09/2015 12:23

i would have waited till i finished my drink, cake, food, chapter.

Always best to meet flakes somewhere you want to be anyway.

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