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Bridezilla strikes again!

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Daffy10 · 24/09/2015 11:47

Right so my friend is getting married on Saturday.

She asked would I stay over on the Friday night before the wedding and I told her I couldn't as I have 3 kiddies to sort out and the minders are not taking them until 11 Sat morning.

Anyway I got a smart text from her saying "I'm not being smart but the whole point of a bridesmaid is to help the bride out. I'm going to be up to my eyes and will need help with the kids".

I'm flabbergasted. Is she wrong?

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Lilaclily · 26/09/2015 15:52

How is it going op??!

Lauren15 · 26/09/2015 16:00

Bit worried for Op that she has apparently 'outed' herself as Glasgowlass guessed who she was talking about. What if Bridezilla gets wind of it?

WhatchaMaCalllit · 28/09/2015 12:31

How did it go OP? Did WW3 nearly break out or did everything go according to plan???

SquinkiesRule · 28/09/2015 13:22

I need an update too. How did it go?

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Daffy10 · 28/09/2015 14:18

Ok well a bit of an update.

Got to her house at 11 after a few texts asking where I was.
When I arrived nothing was organised, she hadn't got her bag back for the following day or the children's bags for the day or following day. So rushed around doing that. Fed the baby, got her dressed, minded her until we had to get into the car. In between helping the bride into her dress & getting her whatever she asked for! All was fine but was starving! There was no food there for guests arriving at the house. (is there supposed to be??)

She handed me a bag and said nothing so I just assumed it was a present a guest had given her so put it down. When we were leaving she said do u not have your bracelet on and I was like what bracelet?! It was the bag that she handed me without saying a word.

Anyway church went ok, get to the reception (still starving) there was no food or drink on arrival, eventually got our dinner at 6.

Anyway I was good, didn't flip out or say what I wanted to say but now the wedding is over she will certainly being seeing & hearing less of me.

Apart from that it went ok, it just made me realised what a selfish git she really is. Went down for breakfast the following day and the 1st thing she said was "Well don't think we will get a honeymoon out of that wedding, we hardly got any cards"?!

I said said Goodbye & good luck and went on my merry way.

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helenahandbag · 28/09/2015 14:24

She sounds like a fucking dick and your life could only be better for washing your hands of her. Well done for not pushing her into the cake table.

regenerationfez · 28/09/2015 16:37

So the reason for the wedding was to drum up the cash for a holiday? Bad karma there!

Zucker · 28/09/2015 17:16

She sounds like a charmer

Narp · 28/09/2015 17:32

Did you wipe her arse for her too, OP?

Honestly! Are people really like this about a wedding?

specialsubject · 28/09/2015 17:58

blimey. Good luck to the bloke who married this one!!

Pedestriana · 28/09/2015 18:30

What. A. Tool.
At least you can put this all in the past now and move on with your life, away from prima donna twats like this.

CrapBag · 28/09/2015 21:23

Thanks for the update OP.

At least you can be well rid now and not feel bad.

Jux · 28/09/2015 21:29

Sounds like you're well rid of her.

Only1scoop · 28/09/2015 21:35

Where's the husband to be? Can't he look after his DC. It hardly needs the can't possibly see the blushing bride all in white before the wedding does it....3 kids later.

I think she's very rude

Done be a bridesmug

Only1scoop · 28/09/2015 21:40

Sorry Op just read update.

Glad it's done and dusted

Groovee · 28/09/2015 21:44

Groovee · 28/09/2015 21:46

Oops posted too soon. I got married 17 years ago. My bridesmaids stayed with me. We had a meal out then back to do nails etc. Up at at hairdressers for 9am then to my mums where she provides lunch and champagne before getting ready.

It sounds like she needed a babysitter. Glad it's over for you X

glasgowlass · 28/09/2015 23:16

Glad you survived the day Daffy. You're well rid of her.

glasgowlass · 28/09/2015 23:28

Lauren15 no one has been "outed" so no need to worry. Even if it was the same bride, which I'm really not convinced it is, then if you read my posts you will see that I'm not a big fan of hers so would never speak to her to 'tell tales', therefore she wouldn't get wind of it from me. Only a twat would do that & I'm not a twat.

Marilynsbigsister · 29/09/2015 07:53

Have read all the thread and one thing stands out like a sore thumb. Where the hell were the men in all this ? Op couldn't go over night before (even if she wanted ) because she 'had kids to sort'... Bridezilla getting more stressy because she 'needed a hand with the kids'.. Really ? Op had a husband around because they both went to the wedding. Bride had a groom around because she married him ! Why do women do this to themselves ? If I was a bridesmaid and friend was getting married, childcare for either would be last on the list and firmly handed over to husbands who quite frankly have nothing to do except climb into wedding clothes. Can you imagine a man having an 'event' to attend and being EXPECTED to look after the kids whilst getting ready, whilst the woman stood around doing fuckall. ( which lets face it, is pretty much a male guests input at a wedding and not much more for the groom)

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Daffy10 · 29/09/2015 15:40

Marilynbigsister my Dh was working all day Friday evening hence why I couldn't go and stay over. The following morning her dropped me to the brides houseand then dropped the kids to the minders, he then cleaned the whole house so I didn't have to do it hungover on the Sunday. Such a sweetheart he is.

Her DH to be on the other hand, went & stayed over night in his parents house overnight cos they were not to see each other as tradition goes. His parents made a big fry up & he had a grand ole time while silly old me picked up the pieces.

I am definitely well rid of her. Have barely heard from her since bar a text asking me did I have her lipstick?!

How do I act with her now if and when she asks me to do something??

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 29/09/2015 16:39

You tell her you can't do it and leave it at that.

Don't wobble and give in, just say no that doesn't suit me, don't fall for any flannel off her.

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Daffy10 · 29/09/2015 16:44

So should I have it out with her or just let things fade?

The mad thing about it all is she sees that she has done no wrong at all.

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regenerationfez · 29/09/2015 17:06

It's u unlikely she will see she has behaved unreasonably even if you do confront her. You will in her head be the selfish one for not helping her on her wedding day. If I were you, I'd just leave it and ignore her. Lol at the 'tradition' of not seeing the bride before the wedding! No traditions about not seeing the kids though!

Marilynsbigsister · 29/09/2015 18:45

In which case you may plant a big fat smile on your face knowing you were smart enough to marry a prince amongst me She however seems to have tied herself with a selfish twunt. Remember that and you will never have a moment to worry about !

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