DTD and found out he had shaved legs and tribal tatoos - run away?

[Margaritapracataz]

I'm dating someone a bit younger than me.

Now found out he has a lot of tribal tatoos on one side. I just don't get them, it shows no creatively or individuality and I do think less of him now.

Once I'd got over that I realised that he shaves his legs. I've never heard of a guy doing this before.

Run a mile or are these normal things these days?

No difference between a snog and a shag?? mmkay
I didn't 'think less of her' because of her appearance. I just didn't find her attractive so didnt sleep with her.

I cannot lie. I read the thread title with this exact face.

Sometimes you just can't tell if you've got proper chemistry with someone till you're in bed together so I don't find the OP shallow.

Cheesy

mileend2bermondsey......have to agree with squoosh. I thought it as soon as I read your comments, as I remembered your thread.

Thats true enough squoosh

mileend2bermondsey - you are far far worse than me. I'm not critical of looks, I'm critical of the choice to get a generic tattoo. Totally different.

The legs thing was weird, oh well we have chemistry but probably not going anywhere. Wasn't sure if the legs thing was something people in their 20s do these days

my ex started to shave his armpits as he felt it was cleaner

I found it very off putting I could still manage to enjoy sex

was not the reason we split up

If, for whatever reason, you don't fancy him it's ok to call it off. Especially of you feel that way AFTER shagging him. I had an ex who I wasn't overly attracted to, but then I slept with him and it was amazing and he instantly became attractive to me. We ended up seeing each other for 6 months.

Seems like everyone here is missing the most important point.

How was he in bed, OP?

Yes I'm definately a worse person than you who 'thinks less of a person' because they have a tattoo. Sure thing maragrita

But mileend, the bits you didn't find attractive where presumably on display when meeting her, whereas the tribal tattoo might have been in a place typically covered by clothing until you get down to business? He could have hardly told the OP beforehand. "I've got a tribal tattoo in my pants" would make the most intrepid dater run away.

A lot of my male friends are sports people and they all shave their legs. It's actually more common now than it was.

Personally I wouldn't sleep with someone unless I liked them a lot, if I liked them a lot a naff tattoo wouldn't put me off. Especially since they don't obviously display said tattoo (as you would know already).

It's ip to you OP. I think Yabu, but it's not my relationship.

Is he Gavin Henson?

Years ago - before manscaping became popular - I was getting down to it with a new man. Just before the clothes came off, he said
"I shaved my balls for you" !!

Wasn't sure what the correct response to this was...
"Uh....thanks?" or "You didn't need to..." (really didn't need to!)

He sounds like a silver tongued devil Alison.

I have to agree with the op to be honest. If I got into bed with a fella and he'd shaved his legs it would be icky for want of a better word.

As far as I'm concerned unless the op is running a charity (not sure what it would be though - give shaven blokes a chance.org) then she's well in her rights to ditch him as she's not attracted to him anymore.

Don't many athletes shave their legs?

Bit of a non issue if you ask me. Not a deal breaker.

Shaved legs wouldn't bother me, tattoos wouldn't bother me, unless of course they were misspelled or meaningless phrases.

I don't shave my legs but I also don't know what a tribal tattoo is either? God this makes me feel old! It must be down to preference surely? As I grew up and got friends and girlfriends etc I always felt odd as I have a hairy chest and most of my family and friends don't (not overly hairy, just hairy) It seemed to be smooth chests and waxing etc and I was very embarrassed about it really. Then a girlfriend told me she liked it and at a party one of the other girls there asked me if she could "have a flash" of my chest as she liked "men to be men". Cue my confidence going through the roof and realising that we all have very different preferences. People change their appearance quite often now I think Margarita - do you think this is something that really bothers you, or are you looking for reasons to end the relationship? (sorry to ask if that's not the case).

I didn't know what it was either Geoff

this explains it

They usually look something like this.

Oh yes I have seen this sort of tattoo. God forbid you lose any muscle tone as they won't stay looking like that (God I sound like my Dad)! My brother and my cousins have a lot of tattoos - some even have there whole arm done "to look like a sleeve!". Not my kind of thing and my great uncle says tattoos are one of his biggest mistakes (he's nearly 90 now). I think OP maybe looking for reasons to end the relationship and apologise if I have got that wrong.

YANBU on the shaved legs. YABU on the tatts.

Seriously tho, you don't owe him a second fuck out of politeness.

Shaving/tatts/small dick/whatever. You can stop fancying him whenever you like. It's your life.