to think DP is disgusting for doing this?

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I have suffered from OCD in the past so I'm aware I could be overreacting here and your perspective will be taken on board.

DP does (or fails to do) a number of things which I see as disgusting, but he thinks I'm being a nag and there's no issue. For example, in the past 24 hrs:

I asked him to run a bath for the kids. He knows I always clean it first but thinks that's unnecessary. It hasn't been cleaned for a week because we've all had showers all week, but the shower is over the bath so I think it needs cleaning because there are hairs etc from showering. He then takes the baby's nappy off and puts her straight in the bath even though she's done a poo. The other dc are asking to get out because there's bits of poo floating around, DP shouts at them when they say he should have wiped baby first saying the point of the bath is to clean her.

He uses the same cloth we use for the highchair and worktops to wipe the floor and bin.

He doesn't use a sponge or cloth to wash up, just dunks things and gives it a quick rub with his fingers.

He doesn't wash baby's hands before giving her food.

He doesn't think 3 yo needs to wash her hands after going to the toilet.

Last night we had our dog, cats, rabbits and chickens out in the back garden who obviously all poo. DP put the crawling baby on the lawn this morning to crawl around without doing anything about the poo. I just arrived to find her putting grass with chicken poo in her mouth.

I could go on. Aibu to think he is disgusting?

You know he does not wash his own hands properly after shitting and after touching raw meat etc? He can't possibly be doing that. I'm no Kim or Aggie but this is would be a near deal-breaker.... In fact I have had similar (but totally different in scale) issues with my own DH which we've had to iron out. Had to iron out because it was that or break up.

I was thinking YABU as I read the bath cleaning thing, but given the rest of your post I can see why you would want to clean your bath before use. Your DH is grim grim grim.

I am very lazy but your DH sounds foul! Aren't you all getting sick all the time?!
You can't bath in poowater! I feel itchy thinking about the kids coming out of the bath covered in poo germs and wandering around the house touching everything and making the whole environment dirty and germy.
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How on earth can a man get to adulthood without realising those things are wrong?

Next time he has a bath or shower, empty the baby's nappy in the bath. See if he is happy with that.

I am a slattern who regularly at all the people changing towels every day and I HAVE A LOO BRUSH. However, the poo in the bath and the finger-wash for dishes? Very grim.

I wouldn't be able to stand bits of hair floating around my bath water, that would disgust me, let alone bathing with bits of poo . The rest is gross and unhealthy. He is dirty and lazy.

I have very low standards of hygiene and I still think that's gross.

I don't normally read posting history but recognised your username - he really is vile and the other issues just make it worse. You'd be better without him.

YANBU.

Aside from the scrubbing of the bath prior to bathtime - ours is cleaned once or twice a week - even my DH would be horrified at the rest. And, though I love him dearly, I am under no illusions, my DH is a lazy slob regarding housework & standards of cleanliness. I have chilled a lot since living with DH & feel quite sick at reading all that.

I'm quite chilled when it comes to cleaning but seriously your post made me sick.

YANBU

He is BU, filthy swine.

Poo in the bath is really really grim - how on earth is anyone supposed to get clean in that!

Neglectful, dirty and dangerous. This on top of everything else Op? (I think I have read another thread of yours - 350 per month?) How much more of him can you take?

Wow. I consider myself to be just on the slattern side of centre and even I rinse the bath before running it. As for the rest of it none of it is anything close to what I'd consider acceptable. Given what PPs have said I might just go and read your other threads. He sounds pretty awful so far :(

I'm another with really low standards but what I have read is terrible, especially all the poo.

You don't need to have OCD to be a bit freaked out by half of that.

He's being a lazy minger.

What a loser!

A couple of those I don't find disgusting at all.

Not cleaning the bath before running it...I don't do that. Nor do i make the dc wash hands before eating (unless really dirty because they've been digging in mud or something.

Using the same cloth for the bin and high chair or not wiping off poo before dunking a baby in a bath...that's pretty grim.

Im fairly lax with hygeine buy that is utter grim.

Next time he has bath hope baby poos and put her in with him... Sure he wouldnt like it

I too am generally laissez-faire about germs and cleanliness - but even I can see he's quite wrong.

I wouldn't clean the bath before having a bath. I've never tried to wash the hands of a small baby (if they are old enough to feed themselves then that's different.)

He sounds disgusting though. Is he saying you have OCD to justify him letting a baby crawl through shit?

He is absolutely disgusting. I'm in shock that you would even need to ask.

God, I'm pretty slovenly and am usually at what most MNers deem necessary, but your DH is totally yeuch.