In saying that my house is not a public loo for people on the local Jumble Trail

[MercedesDR]

Sold a few things outside for a local Jumble Trail which was a lot of fun and I made a bit of money too. What I didn't like was being asked by a few people if they or their child could use my loo. My reply was that my home is not a public convenience! Well perhaps I was a bit more polite than that in making my point, but I will not allow anyone I don't know in my house.

Was it unreasonable to direct them to a nearby cafe?

You sound a bit uptight.

Maybe you could have charged them 50p each for the pleasure to supplement the Jumble Trail income?

Yabvu, if a child needed the toliet, I would most certainly let them, you sound mean.

It's a non issue. If you didn't want to let randoms in your home then you weren't obliged to, but those parents didn't do any harm by asking.

No way would I let strangers piss or shit in my loo. I struggle letting DH use it.

YANBU. I wouldn't want strangers traipsing through my home either.

They were not being unreasonable to ask politely and take your refusal with good grace.

You were not being unreasobable to refuse.

Anyone who got stroppy with you was being unreasonable.

If you have a downstairs loo near the front door, it's easy to let people nip in, but I wouldn't want randoms traipsing through my house either. Plus, I don't want someone else dc's shit stinking up the place!

YWNBU

I wouldn't want anyone in my house /toilet either.

No, I think that is really cheeky. Only exception may be a pregnant woman, but for me kids can do it outside somewhere discreetly at the edge of the field and adults can hold it or if they can't they need to plan ahead!

I'd certainly let a child or pregnant woman use my loo. I'd be a bit raised eyebrows about anyone else.

Having said, I suffered from what the midwife called 'excessive micturation' from only seven weeks into my third pregnancy, way before anything showed or indeed before I felt it appropriate to tell anyone apart from DP!

What's a jumble trail?

I'm at a loss as to figure out what you think other people do in the toilet that is so disgusting. You do realise that no one wipes their arse with your towels?

What's with the preciousness?

will not mention the time that I had to cut up my gardeners poo with a knife

If someone comes in the house perhaps to do a boiler service or something like that, I tell them to feel free to use the loo without them needing to ask. They've got ID.

Not some random off the street though, my toilet is upstairs. And I don't care if they're pregnant or a kid, they ain't coming in!

I think you're right not to let strangers into your house. It's not so much the using the toilet part for me but if something went missing I'd be furious with myself.

A Jumble Trail is when people in an area sell their unwanted stuff outside and make a bit of cash. You just walk around and see what's on offer. There's a website about it, just google it.

I do house calling as part of my job. In all the years I've done it I've never asked anyone to use their loo. If the offer is made and I do need to go, I'll accept. But I'd never ask in a stranger's house, I find a pub or cafe and buy a drink. Not that I'm saying if people had to buy something of mine to use the toilet!

I think it's not only unreasonable to ask. it's also bad manners.

YANBU, I allowed this once at a similar style event and next thing I knew I could smell cooking. On investigation found 'Mum' scrambling eggs for her DC. When i asked her what her game was was told it was only a few eggs and to not be so tight.

Pennybun4 did you know this person?

They lived in the same road but I didn't know them well.

Mercedes you are right, dead rude.

Was my DD's tea as well!

No way!!

YANBU!!! I wouldn't let strangers use my toilet either, no matter what the circumstances.

Penny you mean you let the mum and child in to use the loo and she started scrambling eggs!!?

I'd have hauled her outside by the ears wearing the eggs!