Hi,
this is more of a WWYD than an AIBU.
My brother (let's call him Tom Smith) is about to celebrate his 11th birthday and has sent out party invitations to 12 friends. He came home from school today and, after finishing his homework, said that he wanted to look up one of his friends who had a youtube channel. His friend, (lets call him Adam) has been uploading vlogs about all sorts of things (mainly gaming). Tom has been friends with Adam for years and has always regarded him as one of his closest friends - I've met Adam several times at school, birthday parties etc. and his family are lovely.
Tom and I are just relaxing, watching youtube videos on Adam's channel when we come across one 'interesting facts about me' video. Adam's first fact was that he had Asperger's Syndrome (Tom didn't know this before watching and asked me what that meant- I did my best to explain). Towards the of the video Adam said the following:
'Tom Smith, if you're watching this "I dislike you"....I don't know why I just have a massive problem with him'
We were both quite taken aback and Tom is really upset. He thought Adam was one of his closest friends and he's invited him to his birthday. I tried to comfort him and told him not to take it too personally. Our mum heard all of this going on and got quite angry...she wants Tom to uninvite him from the birthday party. I feel this is too drastic and that she should speak to Adam's mum (they're quite friendly though not close).
They're both 10 years old and I don't think things should be blown out of proportions. That said, I feel what a child that young uploads to youtube should be monitored quite closely. Just to clarify, he said my brother's name in full on the video....it's a very unusual name so it's definitely him.
What would you do in this situation? My mum tends to be quite brash and OTT in her judgements, I feel she may be be being unreasonable...any advice?
Thanks!