To not see this girl again due to her looks?

[mileend2bermondsey]

OK so this is going to sound super shallow but I am genuinely confused as to what to do.

I met a girl through online dating about 2 weeks ago, we chatted everyday, one day til 4am! She seemed so lovely and we just connected immediately. We met for a date last night and as soon as I saw her I felt like just saying 'this isn't going to work.' Her pictures must have been very old or taken from a good angle. She is very, very overweight. On her pics she looked a little overweight but not flat out fat.

I decided to just give the date a chance anyway and we went for dinner. We got on pretty well and I enjoyed myself. But by the end sure I wasn't going to see her again but at the end of the date she kissed me by surprise. She was so soft and tender with the kisses and I really enjoyed it and we spend about 20 minutes kissing. We then went for another drink before going our separate ways.

Now I am confused. I DID have a nice time but I am not physically attracted to her so I can't see the relationship going any further. Shall I just tell her now? If yes should I bullshit a reason or be honest and say I'm not attracted to her? Will she believe me since I spent 20 mins making out with her?

So kinda WWYD really I guess?

I think you're really sweet to be so concerned about her feelings.. Most people wouldn't think twice about potentially hurting someone they met online.. So, that alone means she has been lucky meeting you. :)

Did you message her back and decide on a date or no? Either way, you have done nothing wrong IMO.. Loads of luck meeting someone, and ita that some of the replies are pointlessly unkind : /

Am really at people who assumed op was a man or if they knew she wasn't assumed she'd been hacked. Talk about heteronormativity!

You don't have to burningly fancy someone just by looking at them to go out with them. I assume you want an adult relationship not a term crush? Getting to know a person and bonding with makes them more attractive. Real relationships are not about looks. I've met people I'm not interested in them, got to know them and then that amazing person is attractive.
If you decide not to see her again then learn and Don't get off with people you don't like and don't tell her you don't like her because of her physical appearance. That's your problem not hers.