To be absolutely sick of people bragging on social media

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It's reached ridiculous proportions, people 'checking in' at posh hotels, sipping glasses of Champers in spas and even documenting new car purchases (that seems to be the new thing with a hands over eyes emoticon denoting the 'worrying' amount of money that they'll soon be spending.)

I am happy for people having nice times - but it's the ones who document every single sneeze of good fortune that I'm absolutely sick of.

Do these people not realise that a lot of people have nice times in nice places but just don't wish to ram it down other people's throats in a continuous stream?

Time I took a break I think. And breathe.

RhondaBull it's like a diary to me and the beauty of it is you don't have to bore anyone with it because you don't know whether they've bothered looking or have whizzed over it unlike the hideous showing of holiday photos years ago where you have to endure.

IHaveBrilloHair if I were your friend I would have loved to see your Michelin starred restaurant photos as well as your cat on the mat . That's because if you were a friend of mine I would be interested in your life and would be happy to see you happy.

I agree that selfies are completely grim though.

Yes the duck face, why why why?! Who in the history of the world has ever looked better by sticking their lips out like a sink plunger?

Seagull, because we had a tasting menu, there are many courses.
I took a couple of photos before I went too, wearing what I think was a nice outfit.
Last time I left the house for longer the about half an hour was in July, that would be my illness at play, I adore my silly cats too, all four of them.
My friends are happy for me, as I am for them even if we don't share the same interests.
I had to laugh to myself at you mentioning yesterday about it being crass to check in at Monaco, if I ever get the chance, damn sure I will, but then I'm a huge F1 fan, so again, my friends would be happy that after 20 odd years I'd been able to go.

Too right re Monaco! I'd plaster my FB with pictures for my entire visit!

I made this shit. Damn right I showed my friends.

Among the acquaintances on my friends list it's the pouters and the duckfaces who are responsible for the stealth boasts and the conspicuous consumption posts. They aren't posting about Michelin starred restaurants they've visited because they're too busy spending their money on the stuff they think they others would envy. Some neighbours of mine would go to Tesco but pack all the shopping into Selfridges Food Hall bags. It was strange and amusing. They lived for brands regardless of quality. They'd also tell each other how great they were #blessed #bezza etc over FB when clearly they were often sitting next to one another.

Now that made me smile Keletubbie how can that be a bad thing?!

Keletubbie
I love that, it's really cute.

Yesterday I posted a photo of a chupa chup lolly, not a special one, just a bog standard 25p lolly.
Interesting, no, probably not, bragging, not quite sure how it could be but the sentiment was that my Mum used to always get me a lolly when we were in the chemists, and I do the same now, even though DD is 14.
I've done similar posting a photo of a chicken wishbone.

Actually hollieberrie, my dignity went right out the window years ago, but that was more to do with being desperately unwell and nothing whatsoever with how I use my Facebook - that, I'm perfectly fine with, so save your cringeworthy embarrassment for people who need it.

Maybe people who are unnecessarily nasty about people who they profess to be 'friends' with or barely know at all but use to bump up their friendship list numbers

Haven't rtft but the (family member so can't unfriend) that annoys me most posts things like 'So lucky to have a happy and healthy family' #myworld #soblessed. I feel like posting 'Spare a thought for those whose family aren't so healthy and could do without the reminder' (but I might be oversensitive on this one?) Also posts 'miss you so much' to Grandad who died 10years ago. But the most recent thing I have noticed amongst the 'best kids in the world posts' and repeating comments about them that I will hear ad nauseam next time we meet, is that said family member now comments and likes old pictures, maybe five a day, to bring them back up again for more comments and likes-what is that about?

And don't get me started on people liking their own status updates, wtaf?!

And breathe. . This thread is very cathartic. I have long fantasised about making honest comments about ridiculous posts under an anonymous pseudonym eg 'I would think most mums 'love their amazing sons' under the 'like I you livlove your amazing son posts' and 'Is your 2yo on fb then?' Under 'Happy birthday darling mummy and daddy love you so much. Looking forward to your cake later xxx' Aaahh!

Wherethefuck I don't know anything about you or your illness - I was referring to people who brag on Facebook, as per the OP. Never mentioned anyone by name at all

And I don't have a Facebook account, so no need to suggest I'm being nasty about my own Facebook friends. I left years ago for the very reason that I couldn't stand the bragging. Which is what this thread is all about. No need to be so personally affronted.

mikado1 yes the wishing of your infant children happy birthday etc on FB drives me nuts. I have one acquaintance who loves her family 'to the moon and back xxxxxxx' on a regular basis. Her H we suspect strongly to be shagging about yet he is showered with sickly PDAs on FB. It makes me sad.

'So lucky to have a happy and healthy family' #myworld #soblessed.

Vomit-inducing.

And I suppose as well as vomit inducing, it's as if it suggests that others don't have such a grsat family/don't feel blessed, but no, they just don't have the need for likes on fb about it!

If you can't stand facebook, you don't have to be on it.

If there's aspects of facebook you like and find useful, but some people do your head in, you don't have to be friends with them.

If you feel a social obligation to be FB friends with family members, work colleagues, particular friends etc, but turns out what they post on facebook annoys the crap out of you, there are several ideas for avoiding these posts on this thread while still being 'friends' so you don't offend. Shift them to acquaintance list, unfollow them, hide individual posts, just scroll past, etc. Several people on this thread have said they have done extra filtering and feel much better for it.

If you keep reading posts you find cringey, vomit-inducing, sickening, and that make you sad, you need to have a good think about why you're doing that, IMO, when it's so easy not to. If it's to get more ammunition to judge a particular person for example, that sounds deeply unpleasant.

If you then take that a step further and start criticising the whole site and the many people who harmlessly use it for sharing the people, places, things that make them happy, when you personally haven't done anything about making your version of it work for you, you're a muppet. Not in a good way.

Hang on Brillo, you're not bragging on FB then posting about every FB post on Mumsnet, too, are you?

I'm so pleased with myself that I deleted my FB account #blessed

I think we're mainly having a harmless vent here - no-one is getting hurt. Could always take your own advice and hide the thread if it annoys you.

I'm so pleased with myself that I deleted my FB account #blessed

I just spat a bit of diet coke on my keyboard. Thanks for that.

To me? If so, thread isn't annoying me at all. Loving hearing that some people have found advice about filtering has really worked for them, loved hearing about Brillo's joy in her lunch, loved Keletubbie's pride in her very different lunch, totally with you that duckfaces are just what?! and would bump them and people putting tesco food into Selfridge bags straight onto an acquaitance list!

But yes, I am sad for OP's work colleague who she describes as lovely, sitting next to her and posting stuff that would be a big deal to anyone, like getting a new car or going on holiday to Monaco, or going out for a special meal, and being completely oblivious to the fact that OP finds this 'absolutely sickening' and 'fucking rude'.

That sounds pretty viscious to me. I don't think it's massively better colleague is not aware of OP's judgements. I'm not a big fan of such two-facedness. If this thread makes OP or anyone who uses facebook like that take more responsibility for how they use it, lovely.

I think people have always boasted bragged or shown off about stuff and things its just with facebook its so in your face that it can be irritating, i have an uncle who always says the make of his car out loud, he had a jaguar for a while and he would say well its time to go wife i will get you in the jag atm its an audi so he is on fb we see pictures of the just valeted Audi . Just scroll past the checkins and updates and tut or hide them

I have a friend who is always in airport lounges she checks it at not for plebs lounge at international airport heading for island for rich people its hilarious she is a lovely person but gawd she is so annoying we get it you are loaded

We did a road trip in a California this year ( holiday of a lifetime, not usual).
I checked in at all six hotels with photos etc. if I'm honest, it was partly a brag, but we didn't have phones with us ( just iPad) and my family could check our progress, my Df particularly enjoyed looking up our hotels and looking on google earth.
I wonder if any of my Facebook friends were sick of me

Kellie, I am so doing that for my dd ( she is nearly 17)

Agree, Mrsjayy. FaceBook is the Christmas round robin gone mad. It has validated boastful, immodest behaviour and has given people the idea that they are important and interesting.