To be absolutely sick of people bragging on social media

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It's reached ridiculous proportions, people 'checking in' at posh hotels, sipping glasses of Champers in spas and even documenting new car purchases (that seems to be the new thing with a hands over eyes emoticon denoting the 'worrying' amount of money that they'll soon be spending.)

I am happy for people having nice times - but it's the ones who document every single sneeze of good fortune that I'm absolutely sick of.

Do these people not realise that a lot of people have nice times in nice places but just don't wish to ram it down other people's throats in a continuous stream?

Time I took a break I think. And breathe.

yanbu and the reason I deleted my account

I think locally (i.e. other mums from playgroup) I'm seen as being a bit of a stick-in-the-mud for not really doing FB properly. I post fairly derogatory remarks about my life and generally take the p* a bit, but my humour seems to be lost. I don't do the 'hun' thing or 'little man eating his breakfast' photos. I do think I get left out of a lot of stuff because it's arranged as a result of a social interaction on FB that totally passed me by.

I also don't wash my dirty laundry in public or post anything when I'm feeling negative (which I do feel, a lot) because my parents are FB friends with me and I couldn't cope with their reaction.

To the outsider it seems like I don't have much going on and have nothing to say, but I'm very careful now what I put out there online.

I was an early adopter of Facebook and it didn't used to be the way it is now (t'were all green fields round here once).

If they really are bragging, then YANBU and why would you want to be friends with them. Lots of my FB friends post pictures of themselves and their dc in nice places or on holiday, or pics of improvements they've made to their houses or whatever. I don't find those posts bragging at all. It's nice to see what they've been up to. And sometimes it inspires me into things to do or places to go. It's entirely harmless and what FB is all about.

To reprise previous post: If your facebook is full of check-ins at Chanel, a bazillion selfies, 500 pictures of booze, hourly sports updates, 20 grim business promos, guess who decided to look at stuff like that on there? Yes, You. You made online friends with these people, you keep following them. Facebook didn't come pre-loaded with these cretins, you put them on there and now keep reading their tedious boasts. You really don't have to, there's lots of ways to filter them.

Perhaps you didn't realise these people were like that when you 'befriended' them, fair enough, but now you do, so do something about it like unfollow or hide them. They may/may not notice, who cares if they do?

To be fair to DaphneClarke - she's already said she's unfollowed the bar & booze poseurs and feels lots better for it.

Just had a scroll down my feed and there's a load of interesting news and views from one person's take on Syrian refugee children, to another woman who kept her own name at marriage and has been quizzed about it this morning, several posts from hobbies groups I belong to (many of which are directly relevant to stuff I'm trying to do), someone asking for renting advice and getting a lot of good info, someone's picture of a squirrel flying leaping towards some nuts in her garden this morning, someone's 5 pictures of a night at the greyhounds last night (looks like they had a right laugh - good for them), 1 picture of a beautiful thing from a friend who has a business making beautiful things.

Zero (actual) bragging, selfies, shopping etc. But then there wouldn't be, I'm not friends with people like that. Facebook 100% represents what you want it to.

A scientific study showed that the people who brag most on social media are insecure/ unhappy - Totally agree with this statement.

My cousin who lives on the other side of the world has spectacular form for "I have the most amazing job/#blessed shite" - she's lovely hence why I tolerate it...however I was totally taken in by it and shocked when on a visit to the UK she told me how crap things were...arguing with her parents/developing a bit of a drink problem etc.

Most of my FB friends are lovely after a massive cull of dead wood about 2 years ago but there are one of two like the aforementioned cousin who go in for the unnecessary "look how in love me and DH are!/I'm on yet another fab expensive holiday" and I know for a fact they are massively insecure and boring in real life. Why don't I delete them? The fallout isn't worth it!

oh my goodness, so many bitter jealous moaning people here! If you don't like FB, don't use it.

I post photos of lovely walks in beautiful woods. Maybe I shouldn't in case it upsets those who don't live near the woods? or get a chance to visit them? I post photos of beautiful beach walks/children bodyboarding/having fun. Maybe I should't in case it upset those of my friends who don't live near the sea? or who don't own a bodyboard? I post photos of my children climbing high up a tree? perhaps I shouldn't in case some of my friend's children can do that for some reason?

I mostly post to easily share life experiences with my family and friends who don't see me in person very often to share directly.

The only think I really can't tolerate is continuos photos of people's average dinners. 'today I had a lovely plate of fish and salad' 'sunday roast! (just a plate of veg and meat). 'after a long run, a lovely healthy salad! (just salad).

I'm fascinated to know what bothers you. Is it that these people are sharing moments of their life, or that these moments are nicer than your life?

Is it wrong to want a digital trail of your own memories? It adds so much more, like times, dates, places, which would be impossible to manage and remember yourself. And some people do just have more money, them spending it isn't showing off inherently.

Do you feel more put out if it's a photo of a Mercedes than a Corsa?

And ultimately, how would you feel if someone told you how to post on Facebook? It's their profile, their life, nothing to do with you. unfollow them.

Pavlov your posts sound great, I love it when my friends post stuff like that. I totally agree it's a great way to keep up with people you don't see regularly enough.

What gets my goat is people (like aforementioned friend) who post "OMG my DH is soooo fabulous, truly we have the most amazing relationship" (read: better than everyone else's despite only having been together for less than a year).

Yes I am aware this makes me sound hypocrytical...

OP doesn't like the apparent change in our culture beef.

Accusations of being bitter and jealous are unfair in the absence of anything else to suggest the OP might be. Classic MN divide:

sticklers for manners are either considerate or uptight, judgmental and no-fun,

posters complaining about bragging are either self-deprecating and down to earth or bitter and jealous

Beefthief, OP has said she doesn't feel bitter or jealous, but was brought up nicely to consider all "bragging" "vulgar" and "uncouth" and therefore cannot abide such 'classless' behaviour.

She believes it's much more polite to sit at home steaming over all these "fucking rude" posts, while making no effort to hide or unfollow these 'friends' of hers or these posts she really can't abide, in case they notice.

She cannot see the point at all of recording "every SINGLE nice day out you go on with the kids!" perhaps like Pavlov, as that's 'bragging' - so the fact I might see those lovely sounding bodyboard posts and think, 'ooh there's Pavlov having a nice day out with her kids! How lovely I can see that as I now live overseas!' or 'ooh bodyboarding, that's a top idea for this weekend', is utterly pointless you see

Quite what OP thinks facebook is for or how it should be used, we don't know.

Bragging is very dull. So are endless pics of your dinner/baby/dog/glass of wine. Those people get deleted. I use Facebook for politics, news, weird down-the-rabbit hole internet stuff and communicating with friends. On the flipside, I'm sure a few people have deleted me for stuff I post, and that's cool.

I don't see that it's worth getting annoyed about, why do you care if someone on the internet who you've never met thinks pictures of days out are dull?

Well on the surface people assume my life looks pretty tough. I am a lone parent of two DC with SN. It's not though it's fine and I am sick of head tilts and "oh it must be so hard!" from coupled up people with NT kids who only look at the surface. So yes I do post most of the days out I have with my DC, we do loads, though mainly it's to keep kind of a diary of their childhood and also to let people know that actually we are doing FINE, thanks very much

This is too funny. My friend describes it as comparing your pyjama day to their Sunday best. Do try not to worry.

Rusty - so true.

Some people would post about their Chanel PJs though #luxelounging

I don't thing all the kids stuff is necessarily bragging just mind numbingly boring. Why have 1000s of women posted pics of their children returning to school today? Who cares? If they are in Reception or maybe Y7 then fine but do they look different from last year? No! Do they perhaps just look like every other child returning to school today? Yes! Nobody is interested in pictures of your children that show nothing else other than they being cute (to you).

You can use # on FB for searches/collation, etc. Just add the # followed by the word(s) you're searching and it will collate a whole load of posts including that hashtag

My news feed right now

I have an interesting political debate going on.

Some pics of children going back to school.

100's of supportive posts to a friend who just lost her daughter.

Some funny videos.

No bragging or nothing. I have good FB friends. I won't keep people who annoy me on there though.

That's lovely re. supportive messages.

I know people are wanting to know why I haven't hidden. Worst bragger (by far NOT the worst think to be in the world!) is a close friend - another is a colleague that sits next to me at work!

They're both lovely people. But I feel this bragging thing is just clearly something they must have learned as being okay as children.

And checking in Monaco as celeb watching IS bragging - I don't care what you say. As are new luxury car pics.

If someone was bragging does it really matter?

People who brag all the time are annoying. But if someone has saved up for a new car etc wants to post about it to brag about it what matters?

I posted when I passed my course I worked hard at. Partly because I knew some people would want to know and partly because I was proud of myself and wanted people to know what I achieved. Is there anything wrong with that? Again, I'm talking about the rare posts, not people who do it all the time.

Bragging is rude. Particularly when it's about material possessions. Very rude.

I have absolutely loved my newsfeed full of back to school photos over the past couple of days, and the feeling of high hopes and fresh starts and new chapters. It's exciting to see what friends and family are doing and to share these experiences with them. I think that's what Facebook is for, that's certainly what I use it for.

I used to be one of those who said well, if you don't like it then don't look.

Im not like that anymore and I completely agree with you OP. I don't have a huge friendslist, majority are people I know in real life. & that in itself is a problem - its made me realise that some people I thought I knew well brag to a sickening level. & in a way I wish I wasn't aware of it.

1 friend has 3 children but only ever posts up pics of 1 - her beautiful daughter as she calls her..& Im sitting there thinking what about your other 2 children since you are boasting about one? It truly is several pics of daughter every day.

Another I know drops boastful hints about his job & lifestyle, and starts each morning with a daily quote. But, I know him pretty well. He doesn't read & used to joke about not being able to get to the end of a newspaper as his attention span for reading is zero he just doesnt enjoy it. He gets the quotes online, and copies and pastes them...he doesn't take the credit for them but it does make him appear well read. Can't drive, in & out of work (his choice) yet on FB he appears to have a fantastic life and he has lots of followers too.

I still have friends who are entirely normal on FB but a good number are over the top. Its pics of food?! , Jesus quotes and those bloody memes that patronisingly tell you that if you are angry about something YOU are the problem, just quietly turn the other cheek and let karma deal with it. & endless pics of their children. It simply isn't interesting to me its all a bit relentless. Id avoid people who brag all the time in real-life it doesnt make it better that its on FB. Just...I hadnt realised some friends bragged quite so much. Id probably have been better off not knowing that.

People I see are "braggy" I stick them in acquaintances so I don't see their posts in my newsfeed. The option is there for everybody you can leave them to their boast-fest pretty easily. & Im quite sure some must do the same to me anyway. Thats the nature of FB