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Original poster

Its fine to bring my children up gluten free

582 replies

Ironfistfunkymum · 28/08/2015 17:37

I've been gf for 6+ years, not alergic or anything but feel so much better for it. People seem generally fine with this.

However now I have children people do seem to judge bringing them up gf. But why would if feed them something that I dont think is very healthy (grains hard to digest) and something that I don't think is very ethical (wheat production is causing more deserts due to its growing conditions).

Aibu to expect people to respect my choice and leave it at that?

OP posts:
ilovesooty · 30/08/2015 09:10

So are you prepared to answer the comments that this attitude of yours makes life and attitudes harder for people with genuine allergies?

BertrandRussell · 30/08/2015 09:10

" Its is however very gluey, and many studies say not good for people. Great for putting up wall paper"

Very gluey? Hmm

FithColumnist · 30/08/2015 09:14

Ok, so I think we've clearly past the point where OP is BU, and are now firmly in the territory of OP being exhibiting all the symptoms of being a smug, pretentious twat.

Blu · 30/08/2015 09:16

The glue thing has always struck me as bad science. Gluten is a protein and loads of different proteins make the basis of good glue, including many from meat / animal products. And much stronger glues than wallpaper paste, too.

greenwichjelly · 30/08/2015 09:16

I never said it was dirty , you do know what speach marks are supposed to be used for? Its is however very gluey, and many studies say not good for people.

"Speech" marks, hon. There's no such word as "speach".

By "many studies" I presume you mean "crackpot websites I found on the internet" ?

Spartans · 30/08/2015 09:18

The fact that you don't use soy sauce does not mean you are better or even correct. You don't appreciate the differences.

Nor do you grasp the lifestyle you have chosen.

Again I think you are annoyed that your mil is complying and found an easier solution to the diet you have chosen.

Reubs15 · 30/08/2015 09:24

I think it's hilarious that you have failed to answer anyone with genuine allergies.

The attitude you can expect to encounter is that people think you're a knob. And probably uneducated about food, not to mention precious.

SuburbanRhonda · 30/08/2015 09:47

Of course, China is just the poor man's Japan really, yeah?

Grin
Northernlurker · 30/08/2015 09:58

I don't think there's much point continuing this thread. The OP was clearly hoping for validation which she won't be getting. I feel very sorry for the poor kids who are at the mercy of her crackpot thinking.

Original poster
Ironfistfunkymum · 30/08/2015 10:04

Avoiding wheat is hardly crackpot...

Anyway my poor children, no shit factory made bread or cake and have to put up with eating one of the best cheescakes in the south www.mynewroots.org/site/2011/01/raw-cashew-dreamcake-2/

Their friends always want my cheesecake too, I've lost count of the amount of times I've emailed someone the recipe.

OP posts:
thehypocritesoaf · 30/08/2015 10:06

I hope you don't feed them rice, you know it's full of arsenic now, right?

I'd love your cheesecake. I love a variety of foods, most people do.

NettleFarseer · 30/08/2015 10:08

Op:aibu?
Majority of mumsnet:yabu
Op:...no....I'm not...
Hmm

bruffin · 30/08/2015 10:10

That recipe has coconut oil in it. You do know the benefits of of coconut oil are a marketing myth.
and yes avoiding wheat is crackpot if yiu are not coeliac.

Original poster
Ironfistfunkymum · 30/08/2015 10:10

The thing is soaf people that have a high wheat diet don't have much variety. I have a wide variety of stuff, I eat fruit and veg that many have never heard of thanks to my love of Asian shops and my veg box.

They have brown rice, I just have cauliflower rice. Thanks for the heads up, I bought in bulk a while ago from a traceable brand. I will check if there is any problems with it.

OP posts:
trixymalixy · 30/08/2015 10:11

That cheesecake would put my kids in hospital, as would shit factory cake.

Original poster
Ironfistfunkymum · 30/08/2015 10:11

avoiding wheat is crackpot if yiu are not coeliac.

Nice how you people are so right in your heads and I'm wrong. Yet I'm the arrogant one..

OP posts:
Reubs15 · 30/08/2015 10:21

"I have a wide variety of stuff, I eat fruit and veg that many have never heard" implying if you eat gluten you don't have variety? Also, with the multi cultural society we live in there are world foods in supermarkets and lots of independent shops such as eastern european and asian. You clearly think you are above everyone else because you choose to be gluten free (but only when it suits you ). I on the other hand wish I didn't have to be gluten free. I can't even go for a meal without ringing up restaurants beforehand to check if they prepare gluten free. That doesn't just mean gluten free products, it means a separate work surface etc due to cross contamination issues because of the severity of my allergy.

bruffin · 30/08/2015 10:22

You havent provided any evidence that wheat free is healthier, other than some quack websites. Even you cheesecake recipe has complete nonsense about the health benefits of coconut oil evidence paper on coconut oil
and my ds couldnt eat your cheesecake either because he has genuine allergies.

Jollyphonics · 30/08/2015 10:23

How old are your kids OP?

Roonerspism · 30/08/2015 10:32

I think you were brave posting this OP!

However YANBU to feed your children as you see fit.

My DD developed tummy issues a few years ago which my enlightened GP put down to a gluten issue, even though coeliac tests were negative. So we restricted gluten for a year or so and she is much better now.

We all feel SO much better for avoiding gluten. DD's tummy has improved significantly.

So what I now do is let the kids eat what they want at school and parties and play dates. At home, I restrict their consumption of wheat. They might have a proper bread once a week or so at home but that's it.

I don't give a toss what anyone else thinks of this. My kids - I did the reading - made my choices.

My biggest worry is an eating disorder in the future which is why they can eat what they want out the house. However, I feel there is now enough balance in their diet.

I never eat wheat now myself.

Gileswithachainsaw · 30/08/2015 10:38

People are free to feed or not feed their kids what they like aren't they?

no one sees business really.

I don't know about anyone else but I don't ask fir medical documents every time I'm faced with a dietary requirement to cater for. not my place to determine if it's genuine need or not, any more than it is my place to decide if someone else's is less serious just because I k ow a person avoiding it.

SuburbanRhonda · 30/08/2015 10:53

The thing is soaf people that have a high wheat diet don't have much variety.

They have brown rice, I just have cauliflower rice.

And some of us eat both.

OP, I think you need to open your eyes to what people are eating these days. You are not carrying the flag for eating a "wide variety of stuff". We're all doing it.

Kickedinthetits · 30/08/2015 10:54

You asked and we have opinions. I think you are passing on a dangerous obsession to your children. You have chosen to ignore anything which doesn't confirm what you already believe so good luck to your children. I really hope you don't scree them up like my mum screwed me up with her obsessive attitude towards food groups.

Oh and you sound like a real snob. Try not to pass that along to your children as well if you can.

Spartans · 30/08/2015 11:02

giles that's not the ops point. The op isn't actually on a gf diet and does feed the kids gluten occasionally. Yet expects her mil to provide gf meals.

MissDemelzaCarne · 30/08/2015 11:12

YABVU
I agree that, when other people adopt a GF diet as a fad, everyone takes it less seriously which is very dangerous.