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Its fine to bring my children up gluten free

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Ironfistfunkymum · 28/08/2015 17:37

I've been gf for 6+ years, not alergic or anything but feel so much better for it. People seem generally fine with this.

However now I have children people do seem to judge bringing them up gf. But why would if feed them something that I dont think is very healthy (grains hard to digest) and something that I don't think is very ethical (wheat production is causing more deserts due to its growing conditions).

Aibu to expect people to respect my choice and leave it at that?

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ilovesooty · 30/08/2015 08:09

And where did you cut and paste that from?

StealthPolarBear · 30/08/2015 08:10

Where is all that from?

thehypocritesoaf · 30/08/2015 08:13

I'm gluten free- coeliac.

Of course we all need to eat less grains and more veg. But to make your kids cut out ALL gluten makes you look weird and controlling op.

That's what you wanted to know, right?

hazeyjane · 30/08/2015 08:15

Iron, You go on your own sweet way with this, but don't bother starting threads about it, because it really is a ball ache to people who suffer or have children who suffer with allergies, intolerance and coeliacs to hear this guff.

Iamnotloobrushphobic · 30/08/2015 08:18

That copy and pasted stuff doesn't state the fact that leaky gut is very rare.
Having seen first hand the symptoms of a leaky gut I can assure you that if your children had it you would know about it. The faeces from somebody with leaky gut are unmistakable and very very foul. The fact that you say your children haven't felt great when they have eaten pasta leads me to believe that you have no idea what leaky gut is actually like. Posting a load of stuff from some anti gluten resource does not make you an expert on the benefits of being GF or mean that you have real experience of the devastating impact of gluten on those who have actual GF allergy / intolerance.
However, what you feed your children is entirely up to you. But please don't claim to be the fountain of knowledge on things like leaky gut.

waitaminutenow · 30/08/2015 08:18

OP

www.bibliotecapleyades.net/ciencia/ciencia_industryhealthiermedica90.htm

Why not just put the link up to the page you just copied word for word?? Almost like you expected us to think it was all from your own words?!!????

Bring up your DC as you will....just don't expect everyone else to follow suit!!

TENDTOprocrastinate · 30/08/2015 08:19

Yabu, controlling and daft.

CarriesBucketOfBlood · 30/08/2015 08:21

Soy sauce is NOT the poor man's Tamari.

They are different products, from different countries and your comment smacks of orientalism.

Although I appreciate that with such ridiculous views, you probably aren't going to care much anyway OP.

Original poster
Ironfistfunkymum · 30/08/2015 08:23

Whoops thought I did, was from a paleo site.

Thanks now.

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Ironfistfunkymum · 30/08/2015 08:26

Tamari is a type of soy sauce that originates in Japan.

Soy has grown rapidly as its a much cheaper product.

Tamari is vastly superior, as many people note.

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Iamnotloobrushphobic · 30/08/2015 08:33

Tamari isn't always gluten free. Tamari contains soy and soy is often grown in close proximity to wheat crops and therefore unless the tamari specifically states that it is gluten free it cannot be assumed to be so.

CarriesBucketOfBlood · 30/08/2015 08:36

They're used for different things. If you got given a bottle of Tamari to dip your jiaozi in in China you would hand it back and ask for Chinese soy sauce.

Of course, China is just the poor man's Japan really, yeah?

Iamnotloobrushphobic · 30/08/2015 08:38

www.reluctantgourmet.com/soy-sauce-and-tamari-what-is-the-difference/

The differences between tamari and soy sauce are illustrated here. Whilst tamari is often gluten free as I stated earlier, you cannot assume it to be so unless stated on the label.
I suppose when you have a child who could be killed by even the smallest amount of wheat (like myself) you become super aware of these things.

CJCreggsmyhero · 30/08/2015 08:39

"Paleo blogosphere"

Wow, that world renowned nutrition fountain of knowledge.

I personally think OP, that you sound sadly unhinged and are projecting some unhealthy food issues onto your children.

BabyGanoush · 30/08/2015 08:39

Reminds me of my bookclub. We used to cook dinner. One vegetarian, one no-carber, one wheat-free, one dieter....that was fun to cook for! Grin

Eat what you like, feed your kids what you like, but try to be aware that if they go to a friend's house you need to give the parents a bit of advance warning, that's all. Cooking gluten free mains is easy enough IMO. As you can eat potato and rice, no?

greenwichjelly · 30/08/2015 08:41

Oh, OP, bless your socks. You're utterly ridiculous. Stop feeding your poor kids bullshit fad diets and believing everything you read on the internet; you'll be much happier.

People like you are why people with genuine allergies have so much trouble being taken seriously; you should really be ashamed of yourself.

BertrandRussell · 30/08/2015 08:47

Particularly if you have girls, anything which adds any emotional baggage to food is a seriously bad thing. The aim is (real allergies and intolerances excepted) to make food an enjoyable thing we need to live. No more, no less.

ilovesooty · 30/08/2015 08:50

I don't suppose she gives a stuff about people with genuine allergies. She wouldn't be pursuing this attention seeking twatty thread if she did.
Still AIBU has seen plenty of these goady food control freaks...

sleeponeday · 30/08/2015 08:52

Yes I've heard of that. I'm assuming its that new word invented to claim people that eat a clean diet have a medical condition...

Yes I don't feed traditional bread, cake or pasta. That must be a medical condition. I'm wasting away as my non gluey buckwheat pasta isn't clogging up our insides.

Orthorexia is actually when someone is so obsessed by how and what they eat that they lose sense of proportion and balance, OP. They will often refer to perfectly normal foodstuffs as being disgusting in some way, with graphic references to what these demon foods may do to "insides". (I once knew someone who would refer to milk as "cow pus" for example.)

Clearly your posts show that couldn't possibly apply to you - right?

Gluten is not "dirty". Faddy obsessiveness about food is not "clean". And your thinking is muddled and not well-informed, to put it as politely as I can. I am also concerned that neurotic attitudes to food don't encourage balance on the topic in children.

Spartans · 30/08/2015 09:00

Op you are funny.

I am not reading your cut and paste from the paleo site. I investigated the primal and paleo way of eating, because it's gluten free and so recipes suit me.

Most also advise that communal eating is part of it. Paleo and primal is a lifestyle which includes eating in a group. Most also advocate occassionally eating gluten in small amounts occasionally , especially when not doing would socially exclude you. This in particular is applied to children.

I use many paleo and primal cook books and my kids diet is generally gluten free and I can't be arsed making several meals. However I don't label them as avoiding gluten as there is no need. I don't expect anyone to cater for them as gluten free. Especially when they eaten gluten at home.

There is no need for anyone else to have to feed you children gluten free meals.

Dd would rather have salad in her packed lunch, so does. Ds like sandwiches so has them. There is no need for me to say no, not for me to request someone else feeds him gluten free when I dont.

You seem to have a poor idea of foods and their uses for someone who has done this for 6 years. Maybe that is causing some confusion.

multivac · 30/08/2015 09:02

Some experience of the attitudes I will encounter

What, while you are "never ever" telling anyone that you are raising your children gluten free (even though you aren't, at all)?

Do you live in a community of mind-readers?

Are you Prince William?

trixymalixy · 30/08/2015 09:03

YABU, my kids have multiple severe allergies and have quite a restricted diet. They can never eat the cake at parties or have an ice cream at the park or eat at a Chinese or Indian restaurant. Why you would choose such a life for your kids for no good reason is beyond me. By all means choose it for yourself but you are being unfair to your children.

Faddy eaters like you also make it much harder for people with genuine allergies to be taken seriously which really pisses me off.

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Ironfistfunkymum · 30/08/2015 09:07

Gluten is not "dirty"

Wtf. I never said it was dirty , you do know what speach marks are supposed to be used for? Its is however very gluey, and many studies say not good for people. Great for putting up wall paper.

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Ironfistfunkymum · 30/08/2015 09:08

You seem to have a poor idea of foods and their uses for someone who has done this for 6 years. Maybe that is causing some confusion.

In all honesty I can't think of any time I'd use soy sauce over tamari.

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PrimalLass · 30/08/2015 09:10

your comment smacks of orientalism

Ha ha ha. Now I've heard it all on MN.