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to send a bill for the gas/elec/water/etc in return?

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Tinklewinkle · 26/08/2015 10:25

We live in a popular holiday area and had some friends staying with us for a couple of weeks. They went home on Sunday.

They've always been really good friends, and we've always got on really well, their kids are the same age as ours and get on well too. We've been on holiday with them before and it was fine, although this is the first time they've stayed with us for more than a weekend

Anyway, one evening they'd been out and they rang to see if we needed anything from the shop on their way home. I asked them to grab some milk and a loaf of bread.

When they came in I was given the receipt - for about £2.50. I didn't have any cash in the house so apologised and said I'd sort it out the next day. Then, I'll be honest, completely forgot about it. Nothing more was said until they left on Sunday when they reminded them I owed them the £2.50. I had about 70p in cash in the house so apologised and gave them that.

I got a text this morning to remind me that I still owe the remainder and giving their bank details so I could do a bank transfer.

I've transferred the money as I can't be arsed hearing any more about it, but I think they've got a thunderingly massive bloody cheek.

They've pretty much got a free holiday out of us. They've stayed in our house for free, used water, gas, electricity. They ate breakfast here every morning, we fed them about 50% of evening meals, they used the washing machine and tumble drier, they've had tea, coffee, cold drinks, snacks, etc, etc, so I'm somewhat miffed that they've quibbled about £2.50 and feel like sending them a bill for 2 weeks worth of B&B.

We didn't actually invite them, they wanted to come here and asked if they could stay with us. We nearly always have people staying in the summer holidays, we don't mind in the slightest, we enjoy having guests and are happy to look after them, but I now feel like a mug

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Sistedtwister · 28/08/2015 23:10

We stay with friends regularly, at least once per year. We buy additional luggage allowance so that we can take things to them that they can't get out there.

We buy at least one shop and pay for at least one meal. We Rosehill the petrol tank at least once.

arethereanyleftatall · 28/08/2015 23:12

There are definitely lots of people like this out there. I wonder if their conversations once they get such a text is ' oh fuck we've been rumbled. Time to find new friends then?'
It's stealing isn't it? Law-abiding stealing.

arethereanyleftatall · 28/08/2015 23:15

Another vote here for fb shaming too. I don't think you will hear from these 'friends' again, so you have nothing to lose.

bloodyteenagers · 28/08/2015 23:18

Fuck me..
I would so want to be a fly on the wall when the cheeky fuckers get in touch again. Just before the summer holidays. When they want to stay and free load...

And now I would so comment on their fb pictures.. They deserve being outed for freeloading users..

There is no excuse.. Simply none.
My guests at the moment are all skint students dossing at mine.. They have clubbed together to buy
Me booze. Have cooked more than once. Done all the washing all and countless other stuff.. They crashed here 2 years ago. And when finances picked up again a bit
Later, they sent me a huge hamper and flowers.. Plus booked me a cheap weekend break via a newspaper . They said it was the least they could do..

rollonthesummer · 28/08/2015 23:22

I would so want to be a fly on the wall when the cheeky fuckers get in touch again. Just before the summer holidays. When they want to stay and free load...

Yep-you can so see that happening unless you say something now!

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 28/08/2015 23:26

If all those texts are being ignored, you might need to get the cheapest £8 mobile you can find in tesco/Argos...
Note the number and post it to them. You know the new one works!

BillyDaveysDaughter · 28/08/2015 23:37

With 21 pages since the first post I was convinced that the cheapskates would have replied and was prepared to be (even more) aghast. I would be crippled with embarrassment to ask for £2.50, let alone accept 70p and follow that with a request for a bank transfer. A bank transfer for £1.80? Oh fuck off.

Is anyone going to start a fresh "what other things twatty friends do" thread, I have lots aside from meanness? Although my husbands friend wins that one...

traceyalice · 28/08/2015 23:44

I have read through all 21 pages of posts, utterly gripped! Best thread ever. I'd love it if you shamed them on Facebook (for the original sin as well as the breathtaking rudeness of ignoring text unless of course their silence is because they want the flowers to arrive first), but you found much more measured and calm than me!

traceyalice · 28/08/2015 23:45

*sound

BumpAndGrind · 28/08/2015 23:47

I have aspergers and I wouldn't do this.

Well, certainly not ask for the bank transfer.

MackerelOfFact · 28/08/2015 23:55

Reply to one of the photos saying something like "I found this story online that mentions you, you're famous!" (making it sound like a website had included them in their event write-up). And then post a link to this thread.

arethereanyleftatall · 28/08/2015 23:56

This thread is actually on Facebook already, on the mumsnet page. So, if they follow it, they'll have seen it.

bloodyteenagers · 29/08/2015 00:01

This thread is actually on Facebook already, on the mumsnet page. So, if they follow it, they'll have seen it.

Lol mnhq. That is really awesome.. Wonders now how long it will take to hit the media

CallieG · 29/08/2015 03:54

Send them a bill for all the freeloading they have done at your expense over the years, OMG what a hide free accommodation for a weeks holiday and they are being fuckwits over 1.73p, They obviously do not value your friendship only what they can get from you for nothing, The are not friends they are parasites, tell them to FUCK OFF.

Mermaidhair · 29/08/2015 04:07

It would have been entertaining if you didn't transfer the money. I wonder how many texts you would get chasing it up. It amazes me what their thought process must be like. How do people justify it to themselves?

lunar1 · 29/08/2015 04:13

Bloody hell, cheeky sods!

adiposegirl2 · 29/08/2015 04:30

My mind does not allow me to compute such nonsence!

However,
I suspect that their behaviour could be in retaliation to something you MAY have done which they took offence at but were not mature enough to bring to your attention?

DirtyMugPolice · 29/08/2015 04:53

I think the OP would be well within her rights to tag them both on facebook now seeing as they are ignoring her texts and the DH's calls. I'd assume their phones aren't working - what other possible reason could there be for the silence, hmm?

CruCru · 29/08/2015 07:54

You know what? Every now and then you realise that you aren't friends with someone. This is just the catalyst for this particular couple. You won't have them to stay again.

Lweji · 29/08/2015 08:23

Share the MN page with friends and them and offer a sincere totally fake apology for the story having got out of hand.
Send a photo of your best DM sad face too.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 29/08/2015 08:39

I would post on their photos:-

"Glad you had fun! I've just looked up what it would have cost you to stay around here, if we hadn't put you up for the entire fortnight, and it would be £2750 for just one week, let alone two! Probably more since you had full room and board here (passive aggressive smiley).

Can't wait to see what thank you gift you decide to send us (unless you left something that we haven't found yet, in which case, thanks!) (passive aggressive smiley winky face).

Can you believe we could have made more than £2750, instead of being out of pocket?! I'm still flabbergasted by it.

Anyway, glad you had such a good time. The pictures are really lovely. Being friends with dh has lots of perks, doesn't it? (Passive aggressive grin) hope you received the £1.70 you wanted me to transfer you for the bread and milk you picked up for us all. I have texted, but you haven't responded yet (don't worry, I'm not glued to my phone either, just giving you a heads up)."

And then wave the friendship goodbye. Oh and copy the message for when they delete it, so you can stick it back up on every one of their photos.

suzannefollowmyvan · 29/08/2015 08:42

It would have been entertaining if you didn't transfer the money. I wonder how many texts you would get chasing it up

Yes, dammit OP, next time think through the ramifications before you pay up, ask yourself 'would this make a good mumsnet thread'

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 29/08/2015 09:54

Another FB option

Ask them if they need you to transfer another 1 or 2 pence to cover the interest on the £1:70, as you were a few minutes late in paying?

After all, you would HATE to see somebody out of pocket, especially after paying all,their expenses for a fortnight...

suzannefollowmyvan · 29/08/2015 10:01

I think it is now their move

OP will have to sit tight and wait

Loss of dignity would result from making a move out of turn ?

prettybird · 29/08/2015 12:53

Think you should comment on their Facbook pictures about the event:

"Yes, it's great to live in [x locality]. Glad that [dh's name] was able to get you closer access to the event. Hope you enjoyed the 2 weeks you stayed with us. Accommodation during the event can be soooo expensive and you obviously couldn't have afforded it as you chased us to repay £2.50 for milk and bread that you also ate "

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