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to send a bill for the gas/elec/water/etc in return?

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Tinklewinkle · 26/08/2015 10:25

We live in a popular holiday area and had some friends staying with us for a couple of weeks. They went home on Sunday.

They've always been really good friends, and we've always got on really well, their kids are the same age as ours and get on well too. We've been on holiday with them before and it was fine, although this is the first time they've stayed with us for more than a weekend

Anyway, one evening they'd been out and they rang to see if we needed anything from the shop on their way home. I asked them to grab some milk and a loaf of bread.

When they came in I was given the receipt - for about £2.50. I didn't have any cash in the house so apologised and said I'd sort it out the next day. Then, I'll be honest, completely forgot about it. Nothing more was said until they left on Sunday when they reminded them I owed them the £2.50. I had about 70p in cash in the house so apologised and gave them that.

I got a text this morning to remind me that I still owe the remainder and giving their bank details so I could do a bank transfer.

I've transferred the money as I can't be arsed hearing any more about it, but I think they've got a thunderingly massive bloody cheek.

They've pretty much got a free holiday out of us. They've stayed in our house for free, used water, gas, electricity. They ate breakfast here every morning, we fed them about 50% of evening meals, they used the washing machine and tumble drier, they've had tea, coffee, cold drinks, snacks, etc, etc, so I'm somewhat miffed that they've quibbled about £2.50 and feel like sending them a bill for 2 weeks worth of B&B.

We didn't actually invite them, they wanted to come here and asked if they could stay with us. We nearly always have people staying in the summer holidays, we don't mind in the slightest, we enjoy having guests and are happy to look after them, but I now feel like a mug

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NotMeNotYouNotAnyone · 26/08/2015 20:04

They are being increadibly unreasonable! They had a free holiday from you!! They should've given you a nice thank you gift and not quibbled over a couple of quid for household goods! I do want you to send s bill just to see if it makes a dent in their version of reasonableness

DiscoDancer · 26/08/2015 20:12

ShockShockShockShockShock Marking place to hear their response...

whattodohatethis · 26/08/2015 20:17

What absolute nobs.
Shamelessly marking my place ha

TheOneWiththeNicestSmile · 26/08/2015 20:18

If they don't have the bottle to reply/apologise, OP really really should send them a link to the 3-bed holiday house at £2750 for the week of the event.

With or without a comment suggesting they stay there next year.

Fluffycloudland77 · 26/08/2015 20:21

You probably wont hear from them until they want the next free holiday.

Marcelinewhyareyousomean · 26/08/2015 20:33

Meaness is an absolutely a game changer for me. I'm happy to subside friends as and when but this kind of tightness boils my piss.

We went out with a group of other families and everyone paid cash plus a tip. The last family settled up with a card (fine) but we found out later that they used the tip to subsidise themselves. Their kids were really unruly and they left a terrible mess. I'm mortified to think that the waiting staff thought we hadn't tipped. I couldn't be friends after that. The dc see each other and their kids are lovely and good fun.

I love my sibling, but if they bring wine, they take it home if it isn't opened. This just makes me laugh.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 26/08/2015 20:36

Cheeky cheeky cheeky fuckers. Mean with money and now mean with words. And keeping hundreds of MNers waiting with baited breath. Humph.

KitKat1985 · 26/08/2015 20:39

Wow. Just wow. TBH I'd be pretty miffed at the fact of them staying for 2 weeks without even offering to buy you a round of drinks at the pub or to take you all out for dinner. But to actually ask for a measly £2.50 back for bread and milk is really taking the piss.

I agree they're not going to reply now. Do not let them stay with you again.

RandomMess · 26/08/2015 20:44

Hmmm it wasn't the Fringe Festival was it...

Can I come visit next year, I'll pay for some food shopping Grin

Dumdiddlydum · 26/08/2015 20:46

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Blueandwhitelover · 26/08/2015 20:48

I'm actually gobsmacked at their cheek!

llhj · 26/08/2015 20:56

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arethereanyleftatall · 26/08/2015 21:00

Marking place for response. Absolutely bonkers.

arethereanyleftatall · 26/08/2015 21:02

I had a similar friend once. I called her out on it and haven't seen her since. I think she moves from person to person using them, and moves on as soon as they twig.

arethereanyleftatall · 26/08/2015 21:03

We went on a pub crawl once -9 pubs - she hung back at every single bar so that I got the drinks.

Sl0wlyGoingINSAINIA · 26/08/2015 21:05
Shock
Gruntfuttock · 26/08/2015 21:07

arethereanyleftatall you let her get away with that at 9 pubs? Why? You should have just said "It's your turn to buy".

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guinnessgirl · 26/08/2015 21:10

I agree that it's unlikely they will reply. Either they will take umbrage and go off in a huff, or they'll be mortified and too embarrassed to respond. wish we knew which though

Tinklewinkle · 26/08/2015 21:12

Dumdiddly. I did wonder if that what it meant.

Anyway, no reply and I'm knackered and have a horrible stiff neck so I'm off for a bath an an early night.

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tunnockt3acake · 26/08/2015 21:15

I am speechless ...

Even if they had little money getting the children to draw a picture to say thank you would have been a good way of saying thank you !

Who quibbles over such a small amount ?

reallybadidea · 26/08/2015 21:16

People who invite themselves for two weeks Shock and don't cook/take you out for dinner/buy thank you gifts were never going to understand why asking to be reimbursed for £2.50 is taking crass to new levels of crasness. They won't reply. Do you have any mutual friends OP who they might talk to?

wafflyversatile · 26/08/2015 21:18

Buy yourself a massive bouquet of flowers,bottle of wine and box of chocolates as a thank you to yourselves and send them the receipt and your bank details.

Or text them 'just a quick reminder for you to buy us flowers chocs and wine to thank us for our generous hospitality for a week.'

TheOneWiththeNicestSmile · 26/08/2015 21:19

It was TWO weeks Shock

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