to be UPSET with one of my best friends re gift

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Background: Been good friends (lets call her Alex) since Uni so approx 12 years, every birthday we have always (both of us) exchanged gifts and nice card 20 pound ish. Never been forgotten on either sides.

Alex was 30 this year and I got a gift voucher for treatment I knew she would like a little bit more than the usual amount due to a special birthday. She was working late on the actual day so I dropped it off at her house and her sister took both the birthday card and voucher envelope (both seperate, due to sizes) and said she would give it to her when she got home. She had a girls night out the previous weekend which cost about 50 pounds each (this is relevant).

A few weeks later a group of 8 girls also went on a mini break abroad for 3 days (another 350 pound) to celebrate the special day. I was more than happy to go/pay as I had arranged something similar 2 years earlier.

Fast forward to my birthday last week, I got a card from Alex 1 day late and no gift. I must stress that I am not a person who expects gifts etc, however I am very considerate when buying a gift what the person would really like. I thought it was a bit odd really and a little upset.

Just found out that Alex did not receive my gift this year, only the card and therefore it wasn't passed on from her sister.

AIBU to be UPSET that because she thought I didn't buy her a gift she missed my birthday. Money is not the reason (I know that).

WTAF re 14 less 100mg blah blah? I'm completely lost here.

ptumbi
I don't believe it. I don't believe you've been to Uni - and you don't know the difference between 'of' and 'have' hmm and you can't spell 'definitely' either.

My cousin has most definitely been to uni....and his spelling and grammer is still crap at times.

Smell that's the point, it doesn't make sense because it is ambiguous. Fewer than 14 tablets means 1 - 13 tablets. Less than 100mg means 1-99mg of . If nurse says he needs 'less than 14 of 100mg tablets', I'd assume she means 14 tablets of 'less than 100mg '. When in fact, in an example of bad grammar, she actually means 'fewer than 14 tablets, (so, 10 tablets, maybe) but still of 100mg each'.

My point is, that Other Languages place huge value on proper grammar - in lots of languages, the proper grammar is the difference between being understood, and not! Just because English grammar means you can put the words in any order, and use text-speak, and write 'could of' instead of 'could have' doesn't mean that we should.

And schools should teach English properly, and mark down any piece of work that is grammatically incorrect, rather than ignoring it as of no consequence.

Honestly, I think it will not be long before the only people who speak English correctly, will be foreigners. Because they are taught correctly, which English native-speakers are not!

Anyway, enough of the hi-jack.

ptumbi Bet you're fun at parties.

I personally put more effort into worrying about teenagers dropping their "Th"s and using "like" every 3 words, or saying "LOL" and "sadface" out loud. I worry much less (or is it "fewer"?) about minor grammatical errors.

'Fun at parties'? It is actually much harder to worry about 'could of' in spoken English, as most actually people say 'could've' which is correct, being a contraction of 'could have' (even though it sounds like 'could of' - which is why they think it is the correct form).

Same with words like 'accept' and except' which sound the same (nearly). And 'their', 'they're', and 'there'... Written down it is much easier to notice.

Things like 'fewer than' and 'less than' do bug me; I don't know why the difference is not taught in schools. You were right the first time, BTW, 'worry less' about the errors, because your 'worry' is a single thing, not countable. If you had lots of worries, (ie a countable number of worries) you could maybe 'not worry' about one of them and then you'd have 'fewer' worries, about which to worry. Like traffic - less traffic, fewer cars.

Honestly, English has so few rules of grammar, compared to other languages, it is unbelievable that people go through school and University and can't use them to communicate properly. Their own language!

Her sister is a sly shit. I'd sort this out with Alex honestly and openly because if her sister ruins your friendship she's won.

WTAF ptumbi - way to derail the thread!

Oh ptumbi for the love of all that's holy, quit derailing the thread. If grammatical errors offend you that much, start your own thread. This is not the place for it.

Sarcasm going right over ptumbi's head there.

Anyway, get it out in the open, ask the sister where the gift went.

Pedants corner is that way >>>

YABU to be upset with your friend, she's not responsible for her sister. Have you managed to resolve this now, OP?

Anyway, enough of the hi-jack. - me, shortly before you commented on it, tenforward.

The OP is not coming back anyway. I guess 'she's' worked out the answer to her problem.

I'm lost as to why the OP is hurt about the lack of present. It's perfectly clear why Alex never bought a present and 1 day late is hardly ignoring it.

I think the wrong issue is being focused on here