To allow someone who lived in our house 60+ years ago to come back here to film a documentary?

[mumofsnotbags]

Story is around a month ago we received a letter addressed to the current owners, it was from a lady who was making a film about her grandad's life and to cut a long story short he had opened up about a terrible time in his life than none of her family knew about.

This terrible time apparently happened in our house so she feels it would be fitting and cathartic for him to come back to the place to put any issues to bed.

Dp's has mixed feelings, what if they are coming to case the joint (believe me if they did they'd leave a donation!) and also they live at least 200 miles away so would seem a bit extreme.

I said yes and have spoken to the lady and vetted her through google/ facebook, all seems genuine, and they are coming week after next, but now i'm wondering what the hell happened in this house and would you want to know, and how it will affect me knowing what has actually happened here, and then on the other hand i'm so bloody nosey I cant not know! what would you do?

I'd allow it but I'd want some kind of written agreement in place for insurance purposes, in case any damage occurs. Your insurance company probably won't cover damage done by a crew.

I would have said yes to this too.

I think I would say yes because I would want to know. looking forward to an update!

CuttedUpPear "Tell them where to stick their wine and biscuits."

There's no need for that! It's not as if a film crew is going to turn up. It's just a woman and her grandfather, so why be so rude and obnoxious? Money isn't everything.

What will you do if it's the room that is unsafe and out of bounds that they have come to see?

A few years ago I was loitering near a remote place that I spent a lot of time in when I was young. We were approached as we obviously looked suspicious but they showed us around and we spent quite a while reminiscing as they knew the people we did too. It was lovely but I had no demons to exorcise

I think that is a lovely thing to do, we let the grandson of the chap who built our house come and look roind and take phtots about 10 years ago. He did promise us some old prints and they never materialised Our house was also scouted to be in a TV production and we got all excited, then at the last minute poor house got put on the subs bench and never used

I'd be too nosey not to. But I'd maybe ask them to agree that it cannot be broadcast after the event without your permission.

I am pretty sure this is going to be sold to TV. They should pay.

This woman is in the broadcast industry and your home is a location shoot.

I would be absolutely happy for someone to some and reminisce about their happy early life in my home. But to those of you who are being so encouraging of the OP, the time being discussed was a terrible time for the person who lived there previously.

To come

I am too nosey to say no but I'd also find it really interesting!
I took my children to the place I grew up and we parked up outside the house I grew up in-I would love to have gone in and had a look around x

So the room you don't like is the no go room?
Have you told them this?
Looking forward to seeing the update tomorrow. Hope it isn't something naff like "she put a bowl on my head and gave me a haircut I got bullied for" or something

Something terrible happened to this man in your house and you have a room, the only one yet to be renovated, which has a creepy atmosphere. It sounds like a plot for a horror story. I'd actually be slightly freaked out by that, but at the same time desperately curious to find out what had happened. Please keep us posted - from what you've said I'll be astonished if the one room you place out of bounds isn't the one he wants to see.

Marking place!

We looked at a house this past week with an interesting atmosphere and history...I am fascinated by this stuff.

I agree it shouldn't be broadcast without them telling you though. Did you get a feel for what it was that happened? I suppose I would have asked about that first. I bet it's that room with the weird atmosphere too.

I think Lillian has hit the nail on the head - what you've said I'll be astonished if the one room you place out of bounds isn't the one he wants to see.

OP, you must update! And let him see the room!

I would say yes and be fascinated to know the history.

Sounds fascinating.

A few years ago we lived in a little Victorian cottage and came home one day to find two elderly women peering through the front windows. It turned out they had lived in the house as children (one was visiting from Canada) and they were chuffed to bits when I invited them in for a little tour.

Even though the layout had changed quite a bit it still stirred up a lot of memories for them. And we found out a lot about the house that we didn't know - the layout of the kitchen back in the 1930s, for example. Where the outside loo used to be, the laundry copper, and the chicken coop. There was a hook a few feet up on the back wall which apparently was used to hang the tin bath when it wasn't in use - all really interesting.

This reminds me of Not place marking, nope, not me...

How exciting!

Mum and dad had a similar experience to some on here. A couple of months ago, mum noticed a lady and teenage boy stood on the road looking at their house. After watching them chatting and pointing for 15 minutes, she invited them in. Turns out the lady lived in the house between the early 1940s and mid 1950s, and she was showing her grandson where she lived as a child.

She told mum lots of lovely stories about her family and the neighbours (some of whom still live in the village - or at least have done in mum and dad's time there). She followed up the visits with lots of old photographs. Fantastic.