AIBU?
To not want to take Mil on holiday with us?
CatthiefKeith · 13/08/2015 13:07
Dh and I renewed our vows abroad last year, and really want to go back to the same resort for a holiday with dd next year.
Last year was lovely, but it was a bit exhausting making sure all of our guests (20 plus us) were enjoying their holidays and having a good time. The up side though was we did get a fair amount of time to ourselves while dd was off on sleepovers with mil, my parents and my dsis and her children. This time round it will just be the three of us, and we will hae time to really make the most of the resort. (It is an all inclusive Holiday Village)
I mentioned the holiday to Mil last night, and that we were really looking forward to it. I've just spoken to DH and apparently Mil rang him this morning and has asked of she can come too. 
DH thinks this would be a great idea, she has apparently offered to babysit dd for a couple of nights so we can go out.
AIBU to think that actually, this sounds like a really bad idea and say no?
.TheHumourlessHarpy · 13/08/2015 13:09
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CatthiefKeith · 13/08/2015 13:17
SSCSD - At least it won't be fucking Tunisia this time!
Actually, to be fair, mil was much better behaved last year than my family.
It gets better. Apparently DH has said yes. And that it is his treat for her looking after dd one day each week (For which I am very grateful, obviously)
FFS.
That pushes the price up considerably!
Ohfourfoxache · 13/08/2015 13:28
Oh for the love of all that's holy.......
Sorry Keith but I think that, after this, you and DH need to make it very very clear that you intend to holiday by yourselves. Forever.
I've got nowt else to suggest I'm afraid but I will keep my eye open for your live holiday thread! When are you going?
4seasons · 13/08/2015 13:31
Having spent years on caravan holidays with the dc and the PIL , followed by a 5 week fly -drive holiday in Australia with both 83 yr old PIL , followed by a holiday each year with widowed FIL ( a man who always got his own way about which activities / visits we did ) for 3 consecutive years .....on balance I would say you are quite mad to even consider this !!! You will set a precedent for the future believe me. What is it with men and their parents ? Why can't they just say no to requests like this ? You can be pleasant and polite about it surely? My guess would be that if you object he will say that you need to tell her....or perhaps that's just my DH !! And just in case you were wondering , I liked my PIL but liked my DH a little less each time we had to go on holiday with them. And as for babysitting ... we used to get one evening out of about 3/4 weeks holidaying because .... " it's our holiday too you know. " Priceless. Do not do it.
averythinline · 13/08/2015 13:32
And when ur family says that's not fair we want to come as well?... He can go back and say no...can't believe he didn't talk to you about it first....or is that cos he knew you'd say no?... I'd be furious if do did that too me ...I love my family holiday real quality time together.....
If he wants to take her on holiday he can do that himself another time.....this is your family...he can lie say it's full if he needs an excuse
RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime · 13/08/2015 13:41
It's odd to invite yourself on someone else's holiday. Given that many people would say yes out of politeness, you could easily be going along unwanted and muscling in on their break... Why anyone would want to do that, I do not know. Unless she can't imagine why you wouldn't want her to go?
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