...to ask a question about who buys your sanpro?

[LadyPlumpington]

TAAT, sort of.

Posters were saying that lots of men buy their wives sanpro and are totally unfazed by the topic. Is that generally the case please?

It's never occurred to me to ask DH to do that, ever, partly because I'm a better judge of what suits me and partly because....well.....he's a MAN. My dad would have been mortified at the very suggestion that he buy such things for his wife or daughters, and in the intensely patriarchal country we lived in, he'd have been looked at very oddly by the pharmacist.

What happens in your house?

Whoever goes to the supermarket will buy it. Me or dh. Really I don't think men who've got kids are squeamish about this sort of thing.

I buy all the bathroom stuff, includes shampoos, shower gels, Sanpro stuff, toilet rolls etc - I work near a home bargains and get it all in there. Never had to ask dp to get any for me, not sure if he'd have a reaction or not to be fair.

Dh will buy anything that needs buying, including San pro.

I buy it online.

My husband has no problem buying it, but I don't use disposable stuff and so there's no need.

My dad always used to nip and get it for my mum.

Me. I once asked DH to get me some towels. He asked what size, I gave him a withering look.
He thought when it said 10 or 12 on the packet that meant dress size.

He brought home panty liners.

I buy my own now.

I buy mine because I go food shopping so get it then. Having said that if I ran out unexpectedly DH would have no problem getting any.

When I was in hospital after having ds my sister and dh went to mother care for some last minute bits and according to my sister dh flagged down the nearest shop assistant and said loudly' I need breast pads , we've just had a baby!'

I buy it because OH is useless, if I ask him he asks me to text him the details of the product, and still comes back with the wrong one. I think he does it on purpose

DH often buys them for me, he buys a buffet of flow rates and I swap between them as necessary. What's there to get worked up about, he is a macho man - it's not like the sales assistant is going to think they're for him!

I buy it, purely because I have such awfully heavy periods I only use very specific products and whilst DH is fine about periods generally he just wouldn't know which ones to get.

My Dad always bought it for my Mum as she was such a prude she couldn't face buying them. That's weird.

Mostly I buy my own, I know what I need and prefer using.

But if I'm caught short then DH will nip to the supermarket to get some for me without batting an eyelid.

I've never put pads on our shared shopping list. It's usually me doing the shopping and I think "Oh, I'll remember." I tend to stock up when running low anyway so there's usually an abundance.

I can't even write it down FFS it's a perfectly legitimate household item!

Our DSs have seen me changing both pads and tampons and their minds remain unscarred, so I'm all over the place with the gender discrimination here.....

DH bought it if I had forgotten it (I'm in the menopause now so no need any more yippee!) and he was going by a supermarket/pharmacy. My Ex H used to buy it (same reason) and my dad used to buy for my mum and us three daughters if mum knew he'd be passing the shop on the way home. Mum used to suffer badly from migraines when she was on her period before we were born so if dad didn't get what she needed if she ran out, no one did.

My husband has bought pads, breast pads, and panty liners for me. He also bought Tena Lady for me when I was pregnant. I use a Mooncup regularly though, so there's little need for anything else.

I buy my own mostly, as I do the main weekly shop. Dh has bought them for me in the past, but he goes by the colour of the pack.
He did survive a trip to boots all on his own to buy maternity pads and wasn't at all phased.
But I doubt my dad even knows what sanpro is!

Personally I find it pathetic that a man wouldn't.

Luckily I grew up in a house where periods were not taboo.

I usually buy my own but DH has bought tampons for me on occasion if I get caught short. He's pretty good but will ask for very specific details a picture of the box the first time I asked he was a bit but he got over it!

I still feel a bit daring for keeping some of my pads in the bathroom near the loo and used to silently admire how liberal DH was for not minding

My mother once presented me, tight-lipped, with a wad of tissue that she'd found on top of a cupboard (it turned out to be a very old pad, thoroughly disguised with tissue paper around it - I'd clearly been on the way to the bin and forgotten it for some reason). She glared at me and said "Well I HOPE the WORKMEN didn't see it." We'd had the window replaced in that room, ages ago.

I still remember the feeling of helpless shame that MEN may have seen an old sanitary towel

Dh has no problem with it requires a detailed description of which ones to get and then will come home with the wrong ones anyway, it isn't as though he has ever had to use them himself. Problem solved with combination of cup and cloth pads.

By the way, do other people thoroughly wrap their old pads/tampons/pantyliners up in tissue so that other people using the bin don't have to see them? I was told that's what I had to do.

I remember my mother going mental at me for asking my brother to buy tampax when he was going to the shop. He was totally fine with it but she was horrified.
My DH buys it if needed. Even my ten year old ds could pop out for some if necessary. It's just another product, we're a very open family and its nothing to be ashamed of.

I buy my own. I don't think DH has ever been down the sanitary products aisle in his life. I've always had fairly simple preferences (regular non-applicator tampons but not Tampax because they're shit) but I'm not sure if he could tell the difference!

I think it is difficult overcoming hangups from your own upbringing. I was lucky in that regard, mum kept a big cloth bag hanging on the radiator by the loo and it was always filled with towels for me and my sister and anyone who got caught short. There are other things which I know perfectly well I shouldn't be ashamed of though that I do feel awkward about because that's how I was brought up.

Yes, I roll them in tissue and put them in the bin.

I buy them but that's because I'm very picky and the supermarket doesn't always have what I want so I need to judge what to get instead. He has bought them in an emergency though. And they sit outside, on a cabinet next to the toilet for all to see when I'm on my period, I don't bother hiding them. My mum kept hers out too. My dad never blinked, it comes with the territory when you're living with 2 women.