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...to ask a question about who buys your sanpro?

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LadyPlumpington · 12/08/2015 16:02

TAAT, sort of.

Posters were saying that lots of men buy their wives sanpro and are totally unfazed by the topic. Is that generally the case please?

It's never occurred to me to ask DH to do that, ever, partly because I'm a better judge of what suits me and partly because....well.....he's a MAN. My dad would have been mortified at the very suggestion that he buy such things for his wife or daughters, and in the intensely patriarchal country we lived in, he'd have been looked at very oddly by the pharmacist.

What happens in your house?

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GnocchiGnocchiWhosThere · 12/08/2015 16:17

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squigglehead · 12/08/2015 16:17

If I need some picking up DH will happily do it for me. If need be he'll call me from the aisle to check which option I want! But he's completely unfazed by it. Would hope that DS grows up to be as relaxed as his dad!

ProjectPerfect · 12/08/2015 16:18

Whoever is going to the shop.

My mind boggles at all these capable men who are in sexual relationships who find this in someway "too much" Confused

LunchpackOfNotreDame · 12/08/2015 16:18

I usually buy it but if I run out and DH is out the house he's happy to pick it up for me

Dynomite · 12/08/2015 16:19

Yes,I do wrap them up. I'm not embarrassed for people to know I'm on my period but I don't want to open the bin to throw out my floss and see blood....

SqueezyCheeseWeasel · 12/08/2015 16:19

Sometimes DH does. It's not a big deal.

YellowTulips · 12/08/2015 16:20

Whoever goes to the supermarket.

That simple, it's on the shopping list the same as baked beans etc

BitOutOfPractice · 12/08/2015 16:20

I wrap mine in the wrapper from the next one iyswim - I thought that's what you were supposed to do - that's why there's that sticky tab on - so you can roll it up and stick it together with that.

Indole · 12/08/2015 16:22

I do if I'm doing the shop. DH is happy to buy it for me if I ask him when he is shopping - sometimes he says 'have you got enough Tampax' or whatever if he thinks of it. Mind you, he did once buy me incontinence pads in France by mistake because he couldn't read the packaging.

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LadyPlumpington · 12/08/2015 16:23

So are kids less squeamish about periods now? Someone on the other thread mentioned every 14yo girl's fear of spotting and I could entirely relate; we were in a school with very frequent exams and you had to walk down a long hall under the bored gaze of several hundred boys to get out at the end of the exam session. We lived in fear of spotting and being totally unable to hide from the gaze and subsequent ferocious mockery.....

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Indole · 12/08/2015 16:23

I don't bother to wrap anything up. It's going in a bin liner so no issues with getting the bin all bloody. DH doesn't mind as far as I know. He's certainly never said anything and he empties the bin more often than I do.

wigglesrock · 12/08/2015 16:23

My husband buys them if he's doing the shopping that week - I write it on the list if I'm doing a list or I text him. My dad was always sent out to get tampons when we were younger - it was never a big deal. God love him, he used to bring home a shop load of sweets as well Smile

spiderlight · 12/08/2015 16:24

DH will quite happily buy it, but he isn't the most reliable. I asked him to get some Lil-lets last week and he came back with a packet of Tena Lady. Hmm

ginmakesitallok · 12/08/2015 16:24

DP is happy to buy for me, but he gets the wrong type, so it's easier if I get them. My dm was another who was really embarrassed about periods. Sanitary towels were referred to as "things", so I'd have to ask her if she had any "things" I could use if I'd run out.

howabout · 12/08/2015 16:27

My DH does the online shop with the 2 teenage daughters who have just started to need sanpro. I think they have a great Dad because he is making it his mission to make it all just a normal part of life and they have detailed discussions about the different options - he does have 5 sisters though!

We have lidded bathroom bins and I don't wrap towels now they come with disposal wrappers. Gone are the days of wrapping in newspaper and sneaking out to the outside bin.

Also I have a lidded basket of sanpro in the bathroom should anyone ever need anything when visiting.

WhatWouldBlairWaldorfDo · 12/08/2015 16:27

I dont use anything now as the pill im on stops periods, but dp would happily pick them up previously.

Generally i would just get them in with a big shop, but a couple of times ive text dp to pick some up when hes popped to the supermarket.

Though i did have to text him a photo of the box so he got the right ones. He was a bit thrown by the amount of variety!

When i lived at home we were open about periods. My mum always kept our bathroom stocked with tampons/pads. It was never seen as something to be hidden away. Its just a fact of life.

fourtothedozen · 12/08/2015 16:27

I usually buy them, but that's only because I do most of the shopping.
OH does buy them for me and teenage DD sometimes and doesn't bat an eyelid. I have to tell him exactly what to buy though- there is a huge range and he has no personal experience.

bettyberry · 12/08/2015 16:28

My OH knows all the ins and outs of my periods. I flat out refuse to be quiet about it because growing up periods were something to be feel ashamed about, teased for and the butt of all jokes. Often 'ugh, she's on the rag that's why she's being shitty' kind of remarks.

Just over half the population has them so why hide it?

OH buys them (tampons) and will happily hang up my washable pads to dry. He has no issue either with me using washables, honestly Im very lucky compared to exes, and even in the supermarket I will ask my DS to grab a box so he is comfortable around them because one day he may have a GF or a daughter and need to get them himself. Tbh my DS has been comfortable since the day he found my disposable pads and stuck them all over his bedroom windows Grin

SaucyJack · 12/08/2015 16:28

I buy all my own toiletries.

ThatBloodyWoman · 12/08/2015 16:30

Generally me as I'll seek a bargain.
Sometimes dh.He's completely unbothered by it so long as he knows exactly what to get.

FrancesHB · 12/08/2015 16:31

I've always bought my own mostly because I am terribly disorganised and always get caught short (am nearly 40 and you'd have thought I'd have worked out how long a month is by now...) so end up stuffing a wodge of loo roll in my knickers and nipping to the nearest chemist or supermarket to stock up for the month.

The one time I sent my husband and son for some I gave detailed instructions and they were both unscathed. Although they bought the scented version itch...

HighwayDragon · 12/08/2015 16:36

I do it.

I asked him once, he bought what can only be described as snow shoes they were that big, and incontinence pads. Bless him.

Moodyblue1 · 12/08/2015 16:36

I mostly tend to buy my own but that's because I do the shopping so just pick them up from the supermarket. DH will get them if he happens to be doing the shopping or if I run out but he always phones from the aisle as he is never sure which ones to get (mostly because I keep trying new ones then moaning I don't like them)

DressingGownFrown · 12/08/2015 16:37

My DP is like an inquisitive child, I've had to explain each type of protection to him and how to use a tampon. I'm on the pill and take it before bed, so he knows when I don't and I'm going to get my period, so he always asks if its started and how my uterus is. It's quite funny really. Admittedly I ask him things too, just things from a mans perspective that you can't really ask a male friend, or a male family member.
He will also happily buy stuff with instruction and is very proud of 'knowing' that I use tampax pearl.
In a similar vein, we were doing a food shop and I asked him to pick up toilet roll whilst I got something, I then went to the frozen aisle and saw him walking towards me with a big grin on his face holding an 18 pack of toilet roll - the big grin was because 'the price per sheet was really good'.
Grin

WorraLiberty · 12/08/2015 16:37

Whoever's going shopping buys them.