to think there's nothing wrong with hoops on buttered toast for lunch?

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It's not great, wholesome nutritious food is it. But it's nice, and comforting, and the weather's shit outside and they like it! And it's hardly a bucket of KFC.

Well, DH disagrees, and has just had a huff at me on the phone because I'm 'feeding the children crap all the time'

He's been on a health kick for the past month - homemade raw muesli for breakfast, the works. This has prompted a few discussions about the family's eating habits as a whole recently and he feels we could all do better. I agreed, and we've been reigning in the sugar, adding more veg etc.

But apparently these devil-hoops and the shepherd's pie I made for dinner last night are just a couple of examples of how I'm not really listening to his concerns. I don't really understand how a plate of homemade shepherd's pie and a pile of fresh veg doesn't constitute as at the very least wholesome food, but maybe I'm dead wrong.

So AIBU in thinking a can of spaghetti hoops on some buttered toast is the food of Gods?, along with a varied and healthy diet (aside from the plainly unhealthy shepherd's pie ), is perfectly fine, and that he needs to unbunch his Y-fronts?

green :o Nope, from what I remember it was just an ice cream sundae with salted caramel (first time I'd tried it and realised it's worth the hype... I'm hooked!) and nuts and little brownie cubes, the cocktail was a virgin one, but had mint leaves and passion fruit seeds and such. I have no idea what it cost (thanks mum :o)

Damn, now I'm hungry.

Kelly's do a fantastic clotted cream and salted caramel ice cream, you can get it at Sainsbury's. I had it after dinner last night.

YANBU.

I feed my children spaghetti hoops, bachelors packet pastas, noodles, nuggets, fish finger sandwiches and all other carby abominations for lunch on a daily basis.

dinner is full of nutritious protein, slow release carbs and veg.

I can really only be arsed to 'cook' once a day, especially during school holidays.

none of my children are sufferers of scurvy, ricketts et al.
all four are perfectly slim and healthy with immaculate dentition.

does your husband really have no more pertinent matters to turn his attention to? I bet he's just a delightful barrel of laughs.....

I wonder if its a northern thing. I don't think hoops on toast is weird at all. We tend to go beans instead but hoops or beans were pretty interchangable when i was growing up, with the odd tasting smash on the side. Totally normal. Espec with a fried egg on top. I did give my kids it the ither day. Its once in a blue moon but its yummy. I home ed and spend half my day cooking meals. So i do the best i can.

You're amazing hibble. I'm in awe.

Oh bollocks, I meant to put underneath!

And all you none fish finger lovers need to try birds eye haddock ones. Ooo they are expensive but a food of the gods. We buy the kids regular pollack ones and keep the haddock for ourselves

Well I asked him this, and 'the mashed potato is fatty and salty and empty of goodness'.

He would love mine then! I do not cook with salt, I add carrot and swede to the mashed spud and add an egg instead of butter or marg!

He would moan like hell about loads of other things though, in which case he would be invited to cook himself in future!

Depends? Was it wholegrain bread that you baked yourself? Or was it... white sliced bread and margarine??!?? If so, YADBU
There's no zealot like a convert eh? Why doesn't he do some of the cooking?

I have hoops arriving in my Asda order later thanks to this thread, can't wait to eat them.

Oh green I almost wish you hadn't told me that! :o But thanks

Pah. It is DSs favourite. He sometimes has beans. Tbh his diet isn't great though. He eats veg only if we have a big row about it. So leave him to it now. Veg goes on the plate and he then ignores it and eats the rest! One day he will eat it. I hope.

Ooh... fish finger sandwich. Mayo on one slice, ketchup on the other, and some form of token greenery. Bliss.

Mine had speghetti on toast for lunch today. Tbh it is a strugfle to get anything other than fresh fruit in them.

I believe I lived solely on spaghetti hoops and findus crispy pancakes for my entire first year at uni. Perhaps longer actually, but discovered alcohol in year two, and can't really remember. Bizarrely, the act of enhoopulation makes them taste delicious, whereas tinned spaghetti is horrible.

I also refused to eat pretty much anything but chips as a teenager, and went through a phase of only eating dry, preferably stale, bread (white, obviously) as a toddler.

I'm still a size ten, very active, very healthy, very good balanced diet (in which spaghetti hoops feature every year or so ), and no food issues, with my own teeth and hair, and well into my 40's.

Ooh to French bread pizzas though , I loved them!

My kids love pasta shapes or beans and toast every now and then. Usually when DH has sole responsibility of dinner

But they also have proper cooked meals full of veg, protein and carbs. They also have a biscuit most days too.

Surely it's about everything in moderation?

I'm glad I've just had lunch or I'd be hot-footing it to the shop to buy white sliced and a can of hoops! Food of the gods indeed.

If your DH is suddenly so concerned about the children's health, maybe he'd like to come home and feed them himself.

Salem it is a birthday today, and we are having healthy home made cake, at least far healthier than anything available in the shops. It has carob instead of cocoa, low sugar, plenty of hidden fruit, and no butter. It is yummy, you can have the recipee if you want

What kind of flour did you use?

Didn't think anyone had eaten carob since 1986.

I'd have added an egg, too, but only because I find a meal stays with me longer if there is some protein to add to the carbs.

It is just me, but I find that having a meal that is really easily digestible (like hoops on toast, yum!) will have me rummaging for something again mid-afternoon. Add an egg and I am good until dinner.

I last ate carob in Cranks. Do they still exist? I've got all the cook books.

Until I read the op properly I thought you meant hoops as on fruit loops

I am a Nurse, currently working in children's mental health. I genuinely worry about the messages we send our kids about food these days. Your DH clearly means well but sending the message that certain foods are wrong/forbidden and that we should be aiming for dietary perfection 100% of the time is far more damaging than one bloody tin of spaghetti hoops. Children can be very literal in the way they understand and interpret information about food. Not long ago I saw a 7 year old girl who, following a talk on "healthy eating" at school, had started to refuse any meal that contained carbs or fat and didn't want to attend birthday parties because they usually involve cake and cake is "bad". I'm seeing this kind of thing more and more. I try to explain to kids that there are no "bad foods". There are "everyday foods" and there are "once in a while" foods. I tell them that yes, fruit and veg are a very important part of a healthy diet but pizza and ice-cream have their place in the world too and are fine as an occasional treat. If you teach kids that fat, sugar and carbs are "bad" how will they learn moderation? Honestly, spaghetti hoops on toast once in a while is not a big deal in the great scheme of things. Your DH's ranting about homemade shepards pie being junk (wtf?) and trying to control the family's diet really could be detrimental though. I'd keep an eye on it OP if I were you.

How on earth is carob healthier than cocoa? (unless you're my kids who throw up if they have anything with cocoa in)