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Original poster

To not invite my mum along with my dd and I to our girly london day out, to see wicked

40 replies

kandykat · 04/08/2015 22:57

Dd age 8, told mum that us two are off for a day out in london, and we are going to see wicked.

My mum was all, I wanted to see that
And got in a bit of a huff about it

But I wanted to have a special day with my girl
And if mum was there too, I know what would happen mum would start talking to me constantly and it would mainly end up as adult chat with dd tagging along

OP posts:
TenThousandSpoons · 04/08/2015 22:59

Yanbu

Bluecheese22 · 04/08/2015 23:00

Stick to your guns! Sounds like your dad is really excited about it so don't let her be the odd one out. You & your mum can do something s separate day... Mum & daughter time is important, especially when you're both!

Bluecheese22 · 04/08/2015 23:01

Dd not dad!

Original poster
kandykat · 04/08/2015 23:06

Last time I took dd to disney on ice, she got in a huff about that too, and said next time she wants to come, and invited herself.
So she thinks I should have invited her

She would just end up going on and on to me, and wanting gossipy adult chats
When I just want to spend the time giving dd lots of attention esp as she has a baby/toddler sibling

OP posts:
WickedCrip · 04/08/2015 23:16

I wanted to go and see wicked for years but couldn't get it sorted for various reasons. My parents went. I didn't invite myself along. I said I hoped they had a great time and I'd heard it was brilliant, let me know how it is.
Because sometimes family do things without other family members. YADNBU.

Wicked is one of the best shows I've ever seen and I loved it (hence the wicked in my username) - have a fab time OP!

MrsKitty · 04/08/2015 23:18

Your mother needs to get over herself. YANBU.

PotOfYoghurt · 04/08/2015 23:20

YANBU.

Wicked is my favourite show, you and your DD will have a blast.

Fishwives · 04/08/2015 23:23

Wicked has only two good songs, but YANBU at all. Have fun.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 04/08/2015 23:25

YANBU. All mothers are different. Only you know whether yours would take over the outing, as described above, or not.

I have 3 DCs and it's lovely to sometimes spend a day, or even just a few hours, with just one of them. YANBU to be looking forward to that.

PixieChops · 04/08/2015 23:26

I think it's a lovely thing to do with your dd and I agree it's so important to have time just the two of you together. I'm incredibly close to my mum as when I was little we only had each other but we did special things together as and when we could afford to and still do now. Your mum is BU and you'll just have to tell her that it's just a day for you and dd and that you can all spend time together another day.

PiperChapstick · 04/08/2015 23:27

YANBU. And I'm very jealous I LOVE Wicked!

susiedaisy · 04/08/2015 23:27

Yanbu

ProcrastinatorGeneral · 04/08/2015 23:28

Sometimes the time you can spend 1:1 with your family members is just too precious to let dramallamas mess with it. Enjoy your theatre trip with your daughter :)

0x530x610x750x630x79 · 04/08/2015 23:30

It sounds like your mum would like some special time with her dd.
Does she get much time with her dd?

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 04/08/2015 23:32

Sorry but that's MY mum your talking about op! Give her back! or not
I just let her come now tbh. It makes life easier. My mum does make a fuss of dd though.

ImperialBlether · 04/08/2015 23:33

Maybe you shouldn't tell her until afterwards and say it was the spur of the moment?

happygirl87 · 04/08/2015 23:39

YANBU

BUT

I have a win win solution....take your Mum and take me! Me and your Mum can gossip while you have time with DD, and I get to see Wicked again Grin

Spinningplates10 · 04/08/2015 23:42

No I think you'll find that's MY mum you've describedGrin especially the bit about her talking constantly and it turning into an adults thing.

I am close to her and she can be great but ive had to tell her in the past that sometimes I/We like to do things with just the DC. We do invite her to some things, she just needs to realise that she can't expect to be included in every outing.

Yanbu at all op!

StetsonsAreCool · 04/08/2015 23:49

Yanbu, I can't wait to do this with DD.

Yabu, however, to not invite the whole of MN's Wicked fans. That's just cruel.

Envy < me, channeling my inner Elphaba, and being jealous all at the same time.

Minicaters · 05/08/2015 01:21

YANBU. But any chance you could splash out on tickets for your mum separately, for christmas?

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 05/08/2015 01:27

My mum expects to be and can't handle not being included in Every. Single. Thing. Even if it is something she has no interest in. Then she takes a zillion hours to get ready and we end up being late.

Luckily we live about 4000 miles away so I only have to deal with it a few days a year Grin

TheMaddHugger · 05/08/2015 03:42

((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))

You are NOT being Unreasonable

EmberElftree · 05/08/2015 04:48

Hearts, your mum is my mum! Kandy, enjoy your day out just with dd, you can see your mum another time for an adult chat - I'd love to see wicked.

Meanandlow · 05/08/2015 08:19

Yanbu

MamaLazarou · 05/08/2015 08:27

She sounds like my mum: self-centred and childish. YANBU.