To not invite my mum along with my dd and I to our girly london day out, to see wicked

[kandykat]

Dd age 8, told mum that us two are off for a day out in london, and we are going to see wicked.

My mum was all, I wanted to see that
And got in a bit of a huff about it

But I wanted to have a special day with my girl
And if mum was there too, I know what would happen mum would start talking to me constantly and it would mainly end up as adult chat with dd tagging along

[Twentyninedays]

YANBU.

Mummy that is really insensitive of your mother!

[littlejohnnydory]

YANBU. Tell your mum she is free to take dd by herself to a different show if she wants to but this is your special day with dd. Surely she can go with friends if she wants to see it?

My mum's the opposite, she monopolises the children, ignores me and can't have a grown up conversation in their presence. She also interferes, chips in and talks over me if I have to discipline them. It's a whole different dynamic and your dd needs time with just you.

[Floralnomad]

YANBU , you shouldn't feel the need to always invite your mum , that said I took my dd to see Wicked a few years ago and I hated it so if I were you I'd let your mum take your dd to the show and do something more interesting on your own .

[ChristmasZombie]

No good deed goes unpunished!
YANBU
Offer to arrange another trip with your mum later in the year. You could see the matinée performance and then go for dinner (and wine).

[Downtheroadfirstonleft]

Why not arrange to go with your Mum on a second trip?

[mrsdavidbowie]

Why do people want to muscle in on things?
Have a great time..seen Wicked five times. Great fun.

[BathshebaDarkstone]

I'm NC with my mum, but my aunt does this. DC's school had a Mothers' Day lunch this year and she said she wished she'd been there. It was for mums and grannies. Also I really want to do these things with my DC myself, I don't want her always there.

[middlings]

Is your Mum my mum?

YANBU.

Ignore the sulks and have a lovely time with your DD.

It's a wicked show by the way

[TattyDevine]

Definitely don't invite. You can just say you already have tickets if she gets more than hinty.

[Faffandnonsense]

yanbu - sounds like a lovely trip for you and your dd. maybe ask your Mum for suggestions for another day out that the 3 of ye can go.

[mummyrunnerbean]

My Mum is still going on about not being invited on the first only evening out DH and I have had together since DS was born over a year ago. Because she wanted to see Jurassic World too and we knew that (disclaimer- I didn't) so WHY WASN'T SHE invited?!

[happystory]

Yanbu. I feel your pain. My mother would do exactly this. My turning point came when it was dd's 10th birthday there was a special place she wanted to go to lunch, my mother invited herself and talked incessantly about her neighbours, her ailments etc and dd sat there looking miserable. I've never made that mistake again. Enjoy special time with your dd, and do not feel guilty (that's an order!)

[RachelRagged]

YANBU

Enjoy your day out and your Show , sounds "wicked"

[kandykat]

Mum does mean well, I think, but can try to be domineering
I know for a fact she would try n talk about adult stuff all the time, or at least 90percent of the time

I wasn't going to mention it till after/ just before but dd was excited
So I guess blurted it out

She never suggests doing anything just us or anything.

[plipplops]

YANBU but can you arrange to do something separate with your mum it sounds like she just wants to hang out with you?

[MamaLazarou]

She sounds like my mum: self-centred and childish. YANBU.

[Meanandlow]

Yanbu

[EmberElftree]

Hearts, your mum is my mum! Kandy, enjoy your day out just with dd, you can see your mum another time for an adult chat - I'd love to see wicked.

[TheMaddHugger]

((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))

You are NOT being Unreasonable

[HeartsTrumpDiamonds]

My mum expects to be and can't handle not being included in Every. Single. Thing. Even if it is something she has no interest in. Then she takes a zillion hours to get ready and we end up being late.

Luckily we live about 4000 miles away so I only have to deal with it a few days a year

[Minicaters]

YANBU. But any chance you could splash out on tickets for your mum separately, for christmas?

[StetsonsAreCool]

Yanbu, I can't wait to do this with DD.

Yabu, however, to not invite the whole of MN's Wicked fans. That's just cruel.

< me, channeling my inner Elphaba, and being jealous all at the same time.

[Spinningplates10]

No I think you'll find that's MY mum you've described especially the bit about her talking constantly and it turning into an adults thing.

I am close to her and she can be great but ive had to tell her in the past that sometimes I/We like to do things with just the DC. We do invite her to some things, she just needs to realise that she can't expect to be included in every outing.

Yanbu at all op!

[happygirl87]

YANBU

BUT

I have a win win solution....take your Mum and take me! Me and your Mum can gossip while you have time with DD, and I get to see Wicked again

[ImperialBlether]

Maybe you shouldn't tell her until afterwards and say it was the spur of the moment?