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No thank you for baby gift

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Jellylorum · 04/08/2015 17:11

I knitted a small blanket for an old school friend's second baby, nothing fancy but took a fair amount of time. The friend has moved across the country so I rarely see her but do stay in touch by text and phone. All she's done to thank me is send a brief text; this was six months ago. AIBU to expect more or should I just accept she's been busy and forget about being upset?

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PLUtoPlanet · 06/08/2015 11:58

Oh, dear. If you think you might be upset by not being thanked nicely enough, don't give such a personal and time-consuming present.

If a gift is too extravagant for the circumstances/ relationship, it can really be quite awkward for the recipient, whereas the giver feels unreasonably crushed, which is sad, too.

olympicsrock · 06/08/2015 12:03

I have been brought up to write thank you letters. However after DS was born my head was in such a post natal fug that I even when I wrote thank you cards I mislaid some, couldn't find addresses, stamps, lost them on the way to the post-box etc. I felt terribly guilty about it. If she has said thank you by text then she received and appreciated your gift.
Cut her some slack please.

Reubs15 · 06/08/2015 18:52

YABU! So much! If I had to write thank you cards for everything I received for my son it would have taken a full day. Might not sound like much but it is when you have a newborn! We said thank you via email or text and sent photos of baby in the clothes or whatever. She sent a text which is all she needed to do.
Tbh you sound like you only gave a present to get some gratitude. Don't give to receive!
The fact that you are still thinking about it 6 months later is a little strange and rather sad. Move on!
You don't need to stop sending them just because other people don't - but from this post you sound like you only do it to get them back!

crustsaway · 06/08/2015 18:54

Another one saying she said thank you, what on earth do you want?

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