To ask how much your wedding cost??

[Anxiousanne01]

Was it a big or small affair and did you have any/much financial support from parents/ family?

15K for the wedding itself last year, 100 day guests and 140 evening guests + 5K for honeymoon.

No debt, paid for with our own with savings/bonus + £5K from PIL although this was a completely unexpected gift that we hadn't accounted for.

Most expensive items were venue, food, drink and photography but it was all worth it as these were the most important things to us. I didn't spend much on flowers, decorations or cake etc.

20k. I paid 10, PIL paid 10. I know the fashion on MN is to get married for £50. I wonder if anyone has posted 'the bigger the wedding, the shorter the marriage' crap that always comes up on these threads.

£1,500 all in.
We had a registry office wedding followed by an afternoon buffet of sandwiches (catered by subways) and a selection of deserts (from Iceland). Then we had an evening reception with a band and a buffet done by professional caterers followed by chocolate fountain or choice of deserts.
It was fantastic if I do say so myself.
Then our honeymoon was £300 for a week in Devon with DD.

Forgot to say we paid ourselves, and then we're chauffeured around by the besttman in his Audi.

Oh and no financial support from anyone. His parents wouldn't contribute as this was their son, and the bride's family had to pay. Plus they got wind of the fact my lovely blended family weren't paying a penny. Mine paid nothing because my mum was dead, dad remarried and dad's second wife declared it wouldn't be fair to pay for my wedding because then she'd have to pay out the same for her 4 daughters. 30 odd years on, not one of her daughters ever got married anyway.

£24,000 ish, mostly paid for by me and DH although dress and flowers were paid for by parents.

Not married yet and technically not even engaged but we know what we will do and when.
The price is going to be fucking astronomical but it's what we talked about doing years ago and we didn't know if we would be able to afford it but now we know we will be able to we are both druelling over the thought.

For all these expensive weddings- is everyone still together? No divorces?

£27k including honeymoon. Paid for mostly by DH and me from savings and not having holidays/luxuries for two years. My parents contributed cost of sit down meal for 50. 50 at day and 125 at evening. Quite a smart wedding and lots of gifts/treatments for bridesmaids and groomsmen. Worth every penny to us. It was fab smug

April this year, about £2k without honeymoon.

Got £250 donated off inlaws
£200 off Gran as pre wedding present
and my parents contributed around £500

35 day guests
100 eve

Was lovely

For all these expensive weddings- is everyone still together? No divorces?

I don't know what you're counting as "expensive" but what on earth has people's disposable income/savings/family help got to do with how strong the marriage is?

Are you implying that those with expensive weddings are papering cracks? That's pretty nasty.

Why not ask those with "cheap" weddings too?

15 years ago (2000) - paid entirely by our parents as we had no money. Total budget around £3,500. 120 people.

£1,200ish for a buffet meal - by having the ceremony at 4:30pm we didn't have to feed people more than once.
£1,200ish for initial drinks, after which it was a pay bar
Reception venue was £300 (room in a civic building)
Church was £200 (well it was actually "free but donate what you wish" as a non-CofE church that we were members of, and we donated an amount similar to the standard CofE fee)
Each of us wore outfits that were circa £150 (from ordinary highstreet shops not bridalwear)
Wedding rings were £50 each (plain white gold bands)
We each had one best friend supporting us, who we asked to wear their own nicest clothes rather than dictating what they wore.
Flowers were limited to a corsage and tiny arrangement for my hair c£50
Rest of the decor was helium balloons - hired a cannister for £50
DH's mum made the cake
My dad made the invitations & order of service booklets
We paid a university scottish dancing society £100 to run a Ceilidh for us
Photographer's time was free but we had to pay £300ish (?) towards materials

Oh and YY to the previous poster who mentioned all the pre wedding grooming. I'd never been so well prepped aesthetically!! Wish I had time now to even get an eyebrow thread!

About £40K I think (not sure exactly what my engagement ring cost, just know the insurance value) including all rings and honeymoon. About £5K of that was parents, the rest was us. We got married at our old college, then had a reception at a medieval abbey nearby for all the guests (about 80 people) that included band, booze for everyone all day and a meal that lasted well into the evening. We honeymooned in South Africa at a private equestrian game lodge and then at a resort on Mauritius. Looking back I'm a bit to add it all up but it was a magic and unforgettable day and we don't regret a penny.

maidofstars Are you implying that those with expensive weddings are papering cracks? That's pretty nasty.

Your words not mine.

I am simply asking because divorce rates are nearly 50% in the UK.

YY to the grooming. I thought I'd hate it all but in the end I LOVED having the hairdresser. I looked and felt like a movie star when she'd finished - no wonder the slebs look so much glossier than normal people when they have minions to do that for them every day!

£3k, small (immediate family on both sides only). My mum paid for my dress (£140) and guests paid accommodation (except my auntie who is skint so we paid) as we got married 200 miles from home. It wasn't a traditional wedding by any stretch but everyone said it was the best wedding they've been to and still have very fond memories of the day. We did a lot of DIY using skilled family members (e.g. invitations) and contacts of contacts. Our photographer was a young photographer who was keen to build his portfolio so only charged £150. Small, informal, quirky, innovative and the best day of my life - a real reflection of dh and I as partners rather than an exercise in placating guests.

£3000. We paid £1000 ourselves and got £1000 from each set of parents. We had around 25 guests for the ceremony and the wedding breakfast, and 60 for the evening with a hot buffet.

It was absolutely brilliant.

Yep, all fine here thanks fourtothedozen. It's all relative. Probably spent as much again on the honeymoon(s) and we spend that sort of money on holidays each year. And my engagement ring is a 5 carat knuckle duster.

Your words not mine

Your implication, my inference.

I am simply asking because divorce rates are nearly 50% in the UK

You weren't "simply" asking that, otherwise you'd have put your question to the entire cohort.

About £20k, £5k over budget but arranged it all in a few months. Got a £10k venue for £4k (not including food and wine of course), I think someone had just cancelled their wedding! My parents paid £2.5k for wine and bubbly other than that we paid for ourselves. The original budget was totally unrealistic for where we live but we hadn't done much research. 100 guests.

7000, 25 people on a yacht in Cyprus, including 100 contribution to everyone's trip, and a 2 week holiday. Best 2 weeks of my life

How much did my wedding cost............not as much as my divorce ????

Also in Ireland as previous poster as said Weddings are BIG here. I am in the Weddibg Industry so wanted the best we could afford, 32k all in. That was 250 guests, 5*Hotel, designer dress, honeymoon, rings & everything you can think of including an Ice-cream cart & fireworks. We had the best day we had hoped for & everything was paid for before the Wedding. The only thing I had to pay was the Hairdresser & makeup artist in the day. I wouldn't do it any differently & would never tell anyone in RL how much it cost unless they asked. I have seen weddings at all budgets and each one is just as beautiful & no more/lessmeaningful.

My marriage has lasted 20 years and is rock solid, that has nothing to do with how much our wedding cost other than perhaps we had shared values although I would have loved a big wedding and did sulk a bit at the time.