To ask how much your wedding cost??

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Was it a big or small affair and did you have any/much financial support from parents/ family?

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Fishwives we spent over £20k and planning it wasn't stressful at all. Actually it was fun, as I was basically organising to have all my favourite things for all my favourite people. Don't recall feeling a single moment of stress. We were living abroad when we planned out wedding (which was in the UK) so it was mainly done via email, so wasn't particularly time consuming either!

Getting married next week. Two witnesses, register office, lunch and hopefully champagne on the beach in the evening. £200 new dress, £150 for ceremony fees, new suit, £450 for wedding ring for me ( dh to be has his father's), lunch about £200 so about £1000 without guests.

I can see how people spend tens of thousands. Just not for me.

Been together 20 years so just need to get it over and gone with.

Our wedding wasn't stressful at all, I loved organising it.

At £39k I think it erred on the side of costly (though in comparison to some we've been to it was a drop in the ocean), but it was all our own money and we both earn good salaries so had no reason not to.

I don't subscribe to the who Most Important Day Of Your Life thing; for me it's just a party. I've been to so many wonderful weddings, some huge, some tiny, some obscenely expensive, some done on a tiny budget and not one was "dull" or "samey", none of my friends have been bridezillas beforehand and none of them have done the whole diva "I must have x, y and z" because we're just not friends with people like that. I love watching friends and family marry, I love celebrating people's commitment and vows. The cost is secondary to the fact that it's a wonderful day regardless of other people's tastes or choices.

About 7000.

£5k in 2007 (including avery generous £1k from my parents). Registry office wedding & meal for 8 immediate family afterwards. Honeymoon in Iceland. Lovely party for 100ish when we got home - most of the money went on this. We had sit down meal, band, dance floor, pre-party punting. Loved it & glad we spent the money.

Saved money doing our own flowers, buying wedding dress for £40 from Coast sail rail, making our own invitations. It was fun!

Sale rail, even!

Registry office do in 2008. Done it on a Friday as was cheaper. MIL bought indian suit for me and our jewellery ( I also got a necklace, earrings and bracelet as part of the tradition). ILs paid for Sri Lankan food to be delivered to our garden after for a pig out.
I paid for a cheesecake, my Primark flip flops, an Indian scarf, a lilacy lippy and a clutch bag (as I felt I needed to hold something and didn't want flowers.
Wedding etc probably less than £100.

Adding to earlier post - we spent £22k a do didn't get stressed at all because my Mum organised the whole thing (she's retired, she offered, I have a busy job) and did it brilliantly. I have a very large family that I love and am close to which is why guest list ended up at nearly 140 people and we wanted to make sure they had great food, plenty to drink and great entertainment so that was what we splashed out on. We were not extravagant with the sundry details - they were not important.

We were lucky that between ourselves and our wonderful generous parents we could afford to throw a good bash without it crippling us. Brilliant day, but it was definitely not more important than the marriage - only three years in, but going splendidly, in case you were wondering :)

~£25k - mostly down to our epic venue and amazing food and open bar.

Approx £25k for 80 guests. Parents contributed £10k in total.

Ours cost £18,000 back in 2002.
Both sets of parents gave £5k each, DH £5k and myself £3k.
This was for 70 people.

£12k for 120 people all in (from engagement ring to honeymoon) in 2004. Fantastic day but I would have changed one or two things (to make them cheaper) if I had my time again. Probably one of the cheaper weddings we've been to.

20-25k as my parents have done well and I am their only daughter. It was amazing and I think dh and I spent their money well (gorgeous venue, amazing food and booze). Could have been done very nicely on a much smaller budget though quite easily.

80 ish guests for the whole thing, and extra 20 in the evening.

Ours cost about £2,500 in 2009.

Register office, followed by 3 course sit-down meal for about 25.

Massive evening wedding party pissup for about 200 with cheesy disco, dancing round handbags, hog roast and cold buffet.

Generally people don't spend £20k just for the hell of it - if you have family coming from all over the uk and abroad, you kind of have to make a big day of it and feed and entertain them properly. If you haven't got family nearby (except your own kids in our case) there isn't really anyone to help out so you have to pay other people to do everything. This does take some of the stress out of it (but there's no way that £20k would pay for a wedding planner to do all the planning!!)

Ours was about £7,500 in 2013. We had about 75 guests, didn't really have a honeymoon as such (went to Edinburgh for a few days), paid for bridesmaids' dresses etc.

It was a fairly informal thing but I still hated organising it. I am very easily stressed by these things though!

Ours was

The key of course is that whatever the scale, the marriage, the important bit, is quite cheap.

I got married abroad, my actual wedding was about £800 but we also had two weeks away with it and paid for some family and friends to come so bumped it up to about £20k.

About £14k for everything which included a sit down meal and drinks for 100 and evening food for 150. This also include honeymoon. Both parents contributed £2k each and we paid for the rest.

'It also explains something about the (to me) bizarre levels of annoyance expressed on that 'getting married in jeans' thread'

I remember that thread, or threads rather! As I remember it though 99% of people were very supportive about her getting married in jeans. I didn't notice any princessy 'oh you must get married in a big posh frock' advice.

It only fell apart because the OP was being very brusque and offhand and she then started a thread on the FWR board claiming that everyone was being mean to her because she didn't want to wear a wedding dress. Which was untrue.

So there was annoyance towards the end but none of it had anything to do with her choice of wedding outfit.

About £22,000 in total with rings and honeymoon
Big day everyone we could have wanted was there.
Split bill into 3 equally with us my parents and Pil.
We had no debt and great earnings
Still v happily married with no regrets

£20-25k all in. Mostly paid for by us. I wanted to buy dinner for all my friends and family and have a giant party. We could easily afford it by saving for a year.

The inverse snobbery on these threads is hilarious.