To tell DP our relationship is not a RL porn movie?

[betenoire2012]

DP has been recently saying over and over that he wants a threesome and that he'd try and find a girl who'd be up for it.
Well, the thought of it makes me feel queasy. I'm the mother of his two young DC and having someone else involved in our intimate lives would seriously mess things up for me emotionally.
He's also obsessed with anal sex and is never just content to have "normal" sex.
I'm regularly made to feel like a complete prude even though I do partake mainly just to keep the relationship going. He often remarks that men have affairs if they're not given what they want in the bedroom.
There's no romance in the buildup to our sex and I feel like I could just be anyone.
I can't imagine being with DP for the rest of our lives as he wouldn't know what "making love" was if it came and bit him on the arse. For once I'd like sex to be more than him attempting his own amateur porn video (he doesn't film it thank god!!!).
I told him that he should have more respect for what I want in the bedroom (a fun, romantic experience) and for me I general since I'm the mother of his two children. Which went down like a lead balloon.
Oh, and last year he ordered me an Ann Summers hamper for Christmas four weeks after we'd had our baby son and I had the baby blues. Total disregard for my feelings, as sex at the time was the last thing on my mind.

Is it just my man that's like this or are all men like this to some degree?

My husband's comment on your initial post:

'he's a fucking disgusting tosser and a disgrace to men'

OP you deserve so much better than this sexually abusive brat.

This is horrific. Please do not stay with this man. You are worth so much more.

expectations raised

Altered perhaps.

So sorry to hear the is happening to you OP.

Men are not like this and if he had an ounce of respect for you then he wouldn't treat you like this.
Just to give you some perspective, we've only had sex a handful of time since I had my MC, after repeated IVF, about 6 months ago. DH loves me and not just the bits he can stick his cock into.

OP, he is a disgusting individual

you can have a much better life than this....without this inadequate twat in it

He sounds awful OP. Very manipulative.I bet he's a shit shag as well, given he's so selfish.

All men are not like this. In fact I'm the more adventurous out of us two, DH has tried a few things out which I was keen too but he hates the thought of anal so despite wanting to try I've completely removed that one. He's compromised and tried and enjoyed a few- I'd hate to force him into something for my pleasure only. We're a team, it's no fun if one gets all the pleasure and one doesn't enjoy.

would bet my arse that if you left your DH and met a decent man then sex would be far more pleasurable and you'd feel happier and more respected.

Christ alive do you even need to ask?! Why are you doing these things to keep the relationship going? Why would you WANT to keep it going?

LTB

From All your posts, leave the bastard, he is disgusting .

You're not a prostitute, it certainly is NOT your fucking job to 'look after him' in the bedroom. And if it was, it would be just as much his job to look after you in that department. He is a disgusting cuntish arsehole. I can't imagine anyone wanting to fuck him, especially you since he's shown you such contempt. Perhaps he needs to buy a wank-cup/fleshlight, instead of attempting to use an actual person as one. Please get rid of him OP. x

Hope this is the wake up call you need to get rid off this horrible man.