Can I ask what was your cut off age for ttc your last child?

[FragrantBreeze]

Am really interested in this!

I'm 36 and would like to ttc number 3.

Sadly I've just had a MMC so I'm wondering if ttc is a good idea. I'm do feel fit, healthy and young but wonder if my body agrees!

The miscarriage has really thrown me. I've had two straightforward pregnancies with dc1&2, now 2 and 7 months.

Would appreciate honest opinions on this.

Thanks

[OrangeVase]

42

[purpleapple1234]

40 for me. I have reached it. No second pregnancy for me. Very very sad about it. Breaks my heart really. But have one beautiful dd, so try to focus on the fact that we will probably have a closer relationship than if we'd two.

[gointothewoods]

40ish - I started ttc when I was 33-ish, ended up having trouble (m/c's, fertility treatment, IVF) so had my first when I was 38 and my second when i was 39. I would probably have kept going in order to have my second, not sure how long though as the miscarriages were soul destroying. IMO m/c seems to be a normal part of trying to conceive, I had 4 (that I know of) and 2 babies, and if I look at my close friends and family the rate of miscarriage was far higher than the published stats, more like 1-2 m/c's for every live birth.
I wouldn't allow the m/c to change your mind about trying again, it's more important to figure out if you are willing to take the risk of another one really.
Good luck with your decision.

[DangermouseandPenfold]

Probably also relavant to mention that my history is DS born aged 33, then two MCs, then DD born age 38. Hang in there if you want another, there's time yet.

[PinkSpottyHat]

I realise that this will be very much against the norm here, but for us it was when my husband was 30. I was then 26.

We have 4 children, last one arrived 6 months before my husband's 30th so that was nicely arranged.

We chose to have them all young for various reasons, it works for us and I can't imagine much worse than TTC in 5-10 years again. We're done with the baby period.

[PogoBob]

So sorry to hear about you MMC, I know how painful MC are, and how easy it is to tie yourself up in knots looking for a reason. A number of MCs happen to women of all ages, I wouldn't take that as a sign your body is able to carry another pregnancy.

In terms of me, I had DD at 30 and DS at 32 and always said I had to be pregnant before my 35th birthday. I turn 35 next month which has triggered a conversation between DH and I which made us realise we want a third (we've gone back and forth on a 3rd several times over the last 18 months so not a knee jerk reaction due to imminence of birthday!).

I'm comfortable with trying until the end of the year so the latest the baby would be born is a couple of months after my 36th birthday. This is personal to me though as there is a history of early menopause in my family, and is partially governed by not wanting to large a gap between DD, DS and DC3.

Given you are fit and healthy and your DC1&2 are still so little I would be comfortable with trying for another few years if I was in your shoes.

Good luck

[ArsenalsPlayingAtHome]

35 for me. I had DC4 at 35.

As someone mentioned UT, it had a lot to do with the age gaps between my DCs - at 35 years old, the age gaps were right and balanced for us.

If I'd have spread the last 3 DCs out more, it wouldn't have felt right and I might have ended up with 3 instead of 4, and I would forever be yearning for DC4, I think.

Couldn't imagine having a baby now, aged 40, but hats off to anyone who does.

[BifsWif]

Mine was 30, mainly due to the age gap they would have. We started TTC number 2 just before I turned 29 - I had 3 MC's before having my second DC 3 months after my 30th birthday.

[cece]

42

[cece]

I can't imagine being so grown up in my twenties to actually have a baby. huge admiration for those that do.

[Mintyy]

I had my first baby at 38 and second at two weeks before my 41st birthday. I knew for certain that I didn't want any more after that.

[Claireshh]

Sorry to hear about your MMC. I had a scan today that confirmed I have MMC and I'm having surgery tomorrow morning.

I have a 6 year old and a 4 year old and am 39 years old. This is the end of the road for us regarding TTC. I feel the age gap is getting to big between the first two and a third plus I'm not sure I can face another miscarriage.

I think if I were you I would try again. The odds are in your favour. Xxx

[PinguForPresident]

I had my first baby at 34 nad my second at 37. I had 2 x miscarriages before the first and another 2 before the second. We agreed when I was pregnant with DS (2nd child) that if this one didn't work, we'd stop. Less becasue of my age, more because another miscarriage would have broken me.

I'm 41 now and firmly into "thank all that is holy I never have to change nappies/ be up at all hours / wean / potty train again" stage. No way would I have considered another baby in the last couple of years. I was definitely done at 37.

[leccybill]

I thought about 35 but I'm 35 now and we've been ttc#2 for three years. So I think I'll keep going.

[BikeRunSki]

40

DD (dc2) was born 3 weeks before I was 41, so still 40!

[TheMightyMing]

One DS aged 16. Just never got round to having another. I am 44, my husband is nearly 51.

I still harbour a little fantasy about another and I am very fit and healthy, I think I would be fine. I don't think in reality it's going to happen though.

[nicoleshitzinger]

Had my last two at 37 and 39.

Didn't feel old when I had the last.

Not sure I would have wanted to be pregnant in my 40's.

[Frecklefacedgirls]

So sorry to hear of your loss Fragrant ,MC is heart breaking and a MMC is especially cruel.
We had DS in our twenties, DD1 and DD2 in our thirties and after an unexpected (but very welcome) pregnancy sadly ended in miscarriage when I was 44, we decided to ttc again, not to replace the baby we lost but we now felt there was definitely room for another DC in our family and I couldn't shake that empty arm syndrome.
I spoke to my GP and had my AMH levels checked first, which were low but good for my age.
I had several more losses and we decided to give up when I was 45, I was told any pregnancy at my age had a 50% of failure.
However at this point I found out I was pregnant again and his one stuck, DD3 was born when I was 46!
At 36 you're a spring chicken!

[tilliebob]

I don't know, I had our last dc at 37 but probably would have stopped about 39 due to the gap between the elder two and any new baby. As it was there were almost 7 and 9 years gap.

[ProcrastinatorGeneral]

I said I didn't want newborns past 30 but my last was born when I was 31, though wasn't planned. I have no intention of having any more and will be sterilised as soon as I lose enough weight for me to be comfortable with the surgery.

[Onecurrantbun]

We decided I would be a SAHM until school age, and that I wanted to return to work in my early thirties. We have 2 DDs and I am currently pregnant; this baby will arrive when I'm 27 and will be sadly our last. We just don't have the resources - financial, emotional, family support - for more.

I never thought I'd settle down in my 20s but met DH at 18; I don't think I'd have applied a cut off if it wasn't for our circumstances and would've just been led by mine / partners health and situation

[SpecificOcean]

I had this idea that I wanted them both in school by the time I was 40. So 36 would have been my cut off.

[ghostyslovesheep]

I was 38 almost 39 - I had 3 MC ttc - it was hard but worth it

[JazzAnnNonMouse]

Mine will go against the grain but I think mine might be 25

I have 2 dds and am 24.

[BumpTheElephant]

30 was my personal cut off. I had my last child at 24. I'm not yet 30 but don't think I'll have any more.
The reason it was 30 is because I had my first before I had a career established and I want plenty of time to persue education/career when kids are bit older. I'll have two adult children by the time I'm 42 and I like the idea of that.