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AIBU about Ben Affleck?

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AlwaysSpoiled34 · 27/07/2015 03:47

What is it about guys like him? You obviously know he will never be a great husband but you stay together for so many years? Guys like him love to have forgiving wives but only appreciate them when it is too late. All this drinking, gambling and girls - because he needs FUN, his life was not supposed to be so boring. He will always find another woman but he needs Jennifer in his life. Without her he will be in trouble.

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ZacharyQuack · 27/07/2015 03:54

Have you met him?


AlwaysSpoiled34 · 27/07/2015 03:56

It does not matter. I know this type.

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Koalafications · 27/07/2015 03:56

I don't know enough about Ben Affleck to decide if YABU or not.


AlwaysSpoiled34 · 27/07/2015 03:59

Surely he is great at what he is doing. But there is a reason he didn't have a family with J.Lo. They were too similar.

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FixItUpChappie · 27/07/2015 04:32

"I know his type"

How can this possibly be true? Know one on here will know the man personally and thus will not be able to do anything but speculate wildly.


yakari · 27/07/2015 04:35

Going to take a stab in the dark and guess your 'one that got away' was this type, and you could have saved him??
Trust me you - and Jennifer - probably have a lucky escape (if the media portrayal of him is even a wee bit accurate)


ZacharyQuack · 27/07/2015 04:37

YABU for judging someone based on gossip.


TheDowagerCuntess · 27/07/2015 06:16

I think people are taking you a bit too literally, OP.

Of course you don't actually know Ben Affleck, I'm sure you just wanted to have a wider discussion about the type of man/person he is.

I don't have any direct experience of his type - mainly, I suppose, because I have no desire to. Maybe I am just too dull to want someone like that as my children's father.

I get what you mean, though. What is the appeal of that sort of man, long-term?

I hate being made a mug of, and you just know you'd be made a mug of, if you were partnered-up with someone like him, so it's that which would put me off someone like him...


Spartans · 27/07/2015 06:20

I am really confused, how do you know exactly what happened in his marriage?


mari100 · 27/07/2015 13:01

Do you know Ben Affleck personally or are you just judging him based on tabloid rumors that? Don't you realize that there is a difference between gossip and reality as in based on proven facts? Is there any evidence out there to suggest that Ben excessively drinks and gambles and cheats and by that I mean photo, video or real people acusing him publicly of engaging in that type of behavior? NO. Did his wife ever publicly accuse him of any of that? NO. Has he ever confessed any of that? NO. Then you shouldn't make those assunptions about him. If you wanted to open a discussion about a certain type of man, like you assume him to be, that would ok to just do that bur don't refer to a person you don't know acusing him of things that mignt not be true.


19lottie82 · 27/07/2015 13:08

YABU - You know nothing about him, or his marriage. You are basing your assumptions on speculations (and that alone) from tabloids.


CatMilkMan · 27/07/2015 14:41

YABU you know nothing about him that you have found out personally you have no connection or experience with this person.
You are taking what you have HEARD not experienced and judging him on it, you are reducing him to a profile you are assuming is correct.
You have taken away all the humanity from this person and are complaining about him.
"I know his type" you know his type from magazines and newspapers which make money by writing about him, I know your type from your direct words that come straight from you.
I don't like your type.


FannyFifer · 27/07/2015 14:44

Are you Jennifer?


AlwaysSpoiled34 · 27/07/2015 14:50

Thanks for your suggestions, I will try to be a dull person in the future and completely avoid men with huge ego.

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CatMilkMan · 27/07/2015 14:52

You could try being less judgemental especially when you know very little about a person. Also less mean.


19lottie82 · 27/07/2015 15:04

Thanks for your suggestions, I will try to be a dull person in the future

So not judging people who you don't know, based only on tabloid gossip, makes you "dull"? The mind boggles.....


AlwaysSpoiled34 · 27/07/2015 15:11

There are some really honest "Jennifers", one is a good friend of mine. All they say is: "I was very young and naive when I met him. Learn from your mistakes".

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AboutTimeIChangedMyNameAgain · 27/07/2015 15:13

Guys like him? And you're basing this on what you've read in Heat magazine?


BackInTheRealWorld · 27/07/2015 15:23

This is so ridiculous. You know nothing about him or his relationship. How silly.


RonaldosAbs · 27/07/2015 16:03

What on earth? You are the dull one love...

I believe he has been in recovery for his addiction issues for quite some time now, been to rehab and things. Don't be so judgmental, you don't know him. Jennifer Garner could be some abusive nightmare for all we know.

Also, as for "boring", I wouldn't say people like that;s lives were ever boring, they're A-list millionaires, they aren't going to be living the normal family life anyway.


RonaldMcDonald · 27/07/2015 16:16

This is utter tripe



Spartans · 27/07/2015 16:19

Your friend is a Jennifer? Seriously?


CatMilkMan · 27/07/2015 17:09

I just remembered a Jennifer I went to school with who was really mean, do you think I can get a refund for the friends box sets?


KatelynB · 27/07/2015 17:13

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WaggleBee · 27/07/2015 17:22

JLo had fertility treatment to have her DC so that's a reason she didn't have children with BA rather than they were too similar.

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