Daily posts of baby on FB

[shebird]

A family member had a baby 6 months ago. Since the day baby was born she posts at least 3 photos and sometimes videos of baby together with updates on baby's weight, sleep and how much she's has expressed I thought this might have dwindled out as baby got older but it's not looking likely.

I'm aware that I can hide her posts and I am not having a moan about how annoying I find FB. My concern is for the child's privacy. We are not talking the odd cute photo here, pretty much all of this child's life to date has been documented on FB. Do children not have a right to have everything shared online or AIBU?

EllieFAntspoo - wow, these agencies are not worth the money firms are paying for them if they are telling potential employers not to employ someone because there are too many photos of them on the internet as a baby.

Of course, there are also agencies out there making money out of people by giving them advice on how to get the RIGHT sort of presence on the internet... Having no presence at all would look decidedly dodgy and some firms don't like employing people they can't find anything out about, because they clearly have the most to hide...

If any employer in a sensitive position could Google a candidate's name and be inundated with a page or more of links to that person's life, said employer would need to give serious consideration as to that person's employability. There are already professional consultancies specialising in socially profiling potential employees for their clients.

Ellie, yes they can do that (if they could be arsed)

And in the OP example case, what do they find? Poops, sleeps, BLW, crawling, dressed as an elf for christmas

And they think what?

I'm guessing 'cute baby', perhaps 'over enthusiastic mother'. Not 'OMG totally unemployable, bin the CV now'.

What you don't seem to get is that this is becoming the norm. Most teens nowadays live their lives online - it's only going to get more pronounced. Now, unless employers in 20 years time are content to restrict their search to the small number of potential employees who have no presence on line - i don't think a few BLW pics are going to hurt their prospects

Perspective much?

Rabbit you're being colossally naive. I work in an industry where my image matters...my public image that is. I can't go slapping pics of myself on social media pissed up and I am glad my parents didn't have the option of putting every fart I did on there! It wouldn't do me any favours at all.

Laurie actually it's going the opposite...with teens I mean. The most savvy of them are not putting ANYTHING out there other than pictures of sunsets and things on Instagram.

They know that their privacy and who they SEEM to be matter a lot. You will find that many kids in top schools aren't active much at all.

The future is in private social media. Single threads where small groups chat and arrange things.

TheHouseOnBellSt - I don't think I'm being naïve. Who said I put pictures on the internet of me being drunk, or farting?... Or indeed, did that to my children? Why don't you read what I'm writing?

Rabbit I never said you did and you know it. I used those as terms to cover the sort of vacuous shit people share.

No, you said I was being naïve.

I don't put photos on Facebook or anywhere else that I would be embarrassed for the world to see.

Rabbit yes...but I never said you put pics of you pissed or farting did I?

And I'm afraid that I would be extremely suspicious of any future prime ministerial candidate whose internet profile had clearly been carefully managed from birth. Anyone worth their salt would try to make their internet past look genuinely innocent, not secretive...

Rabbit then you're definitely naive. If you imagine that future politicians will have images of themselves from birth to 20... even at this point in their lives, all over the net...they won't.

TheHouseOnBellSt - in what way can you fail to connect the first sentence of your post with the rest and conclude you must have meant you thought I was being naïve to think it's OK to post anything you want, however compromising, on the internet? Which would be an erroneous conclusion from my posts, as I haven't in a single one of them said that you can post anything you want with impunity...

"Rabbit you're being colossally naive. I work in an industry where my image matters...my public image that is. I can't go slapping pics of myself on social media pissed up and I am glad my parents didn't have the option of putting every fart I did on there! It wouldn't do me any favours at all."

Present politicians have all sorts of compromising photographs of themselves in the press and floating about on the internet.

And as I say, I would be very suspicious of any future candidates who have nothing posted about themselves on the internet from the age of 0 to 20.

A friend of mine bores me to tears with multiple daily posts and photos of her baby. I know why she does, though - she had an ectopic pregnancy first time round and lost a Fallopian tube, so I understand that this child has an extra special element. As she's a dear friend, I put up with it and like it most of the time. If I didn't know her so well, I'd just hide her from my feed. I've hidden a lot of boring and stupid people from my feed, and I'm sure I've been hidden from other people's for the same reason.

I agree you're more annoyed than concerned about privacy, but you've got a right to be annoyed. That's Facebook. Just hide her, and wish you had a similar mute button for real life.

I expect she will timehop them next year, so you get to see them a second time in case you missed any.

Spud even that's too much. grin It's up to you of course...but for many people it's really not needed...but if you like doing it that's all that matters. My friend does the same...one or two a week....too many.

Probably not needed no but then again neither are pictures of drunk people on nights out, people's dinner, holiday snaps, checking in at the local supermarket.. I could go on

Two choices OP- either hide her posts/unfriend/unfollow her so the baby updates aren't clogging up your news feed, or if you're genuinely concerned about privacy tell the woman to stop. I'm guessing if you were genuinely concerned about privacy, you would've already had a conversation with her about this over the past six months and wouldn't be posting about it here.

I post pictures of my baby on facebook for my family and friends overseas, along with mundane updates about how she's getting on. If my facebook friends find this boring or irritating they can unfollow me. It's just the same as someone posting loads of photos of drunk nights out, or whining for sympathy- if you don't like it you don't have to read it. To be honest though, those kind of things would worry me more than a few baby pictures in terms of privacy.

Laurie

As I said, it's irrelevant for most people because they will never consider careers outside of regular 9-5 salaried positions. The fact that most people can't even imagine why posting your child's life from birth online could compromise their future says more about their perceptions and the limitations they place on their child than any restrictions society may impose.

For that reason, those children are not likely ever to have a problem. They will no doubt have already been preconditioned by their parents to limit their ambition in life to 'something realistic'.

The greater concern is people's apparent complete naivety of how to keep their personal economic life secure. But then it's not like everyone doesn't know this stuff. I've always been of the opinion that those defrauded one way or another deserve it, on account of their own stupidity.

I just don't like the idea that someone might have that inflicted upon them because their parents didn't care about protecting them. That just doesn't seem fair to me.

rabbitstew
And as I say, I would be very suspicious of any future candidates who have nothing posted about themselves on the internet from the age of 0 to 20.

However, you don't live in a world where privacy and image control are factors in employment, and you cannot wrap your head around the possibility that there is a glass ceiling there that you clearly do not see.

The working man's road to success has always been celebrity, be it in sport, music, glamour, whatever. In these arenas it does not matter what your public image is, all publicity is good publicity.

The fact that you cannot even imagine how the world outside of the paradigm that has been presented to you works, is testament to how discreet and unassuming those with influence are.

Ellie I think it is a bit unfair to assume those that have been defrauded are somehow at fault? I mean many years ago before I used social media in any way (I was a late starter) my credit card details got taken after a visit to the supermarket and it took me two months to get my money back. So are you saying I was at fault because I used my card instead of cash to get my shopping???

I totally see where you are coming from on this although don't necessarily agree with everything you say.

I think it is a very hot topic where nobody is wrong or right, and perhaps we all have to agree to disagree as it would be awful if it ended up in a free for all row x

I agree Ellie it is unfair and just so unnecessary as there are so many ways to communicate these days.

What kind of jobs are you talking about then Ellie?

shebird - YANBU

I'm actually really glad that someone else isn't posting pictures of their children on the internet. I agree there's an issue with privacy and I understand that parenting is imposing your stuff on your kids, but that can be limited. Posting pics on Facebook is something that doesn't need to be done - pics can be shared with friends and family in other ways.

I'd be tempted to ask your friend if she really understands how Facebook works. someone posted recently that she had lost access to her FAcebook account and didn't seem to have the pics anywhere else, which rather threw me