Daily posts of baby on FB

[shebird]

A family member had a baby 6 months ago. Since the day baby was born she posts at least 3 photos and sometimes videos of baby together with updates on baby's weight, sleep and how much she's has expressed I thought this might have dwindled out as baby got older but it's not looking likely.

I'm aware that I can hide her posts and I am not having a moan about how annoying I find FB. My concern is for the child's privacy. We are not talking the odd cute photo here, pretty much all of this child's life to date has been documented on FB. Do children not have a right to have everything shared online or AIBU?

YANBU.

As per facebook's user agreement, all photos posted become the property of Facebook & for all you know could become part of their next advertising campaign. In my eyes there's also a difference between posting the odd photo here and there and posting every little detail, where's the privacy if every tom, dick and Harry on the person's Facebook knows the ins and outs of their lives? I've got people on my Facebook i know from school, but haven't seen in person for over 10 years, and yet I know a hell of a lot about their lives because of the amount they post online... I find it all a bit weird to be honest.

No, a baby has no right to privacy. They also have no concept of privacy. I doubt anyone is paying attention to the information now let alone storing it for the future.

What business is it of yours anyway? Not your child, nothing whatsoever to do with you. Weird of you to be talking about it tbh.

YABU. As long as she's not posting daily pics of the child's poop or other intimate details, I can't see the issue.

But before FB surely people sent regular photographs and letters to update family and friends? Would you have considered that as invasion of the child's privacy?

We had a friend that ran a daily bitch fest re her son. I thought it was poor show and de friended her.

Hide her.

These posts she is putting up can in future be deleted and how do you know her FB isn't private?

This has to one of the more ignorant posts I've read this week. Nothing you post on the internet is deleted. It does not go away. It may disappear from your screen, but it is there and stored forever. There are servers dedicated to just copying what you have posted in the internet and storing it. You can never access or delete that content. The EU has passed laws (right to be forgotten) and Google will not delete content. They will only conceal it.

Secondly, anything you post on FB is their property. Their copyright. You have no right to tell them what they can and cannot do with information you give them. If they choose to use your baby's picture to advertise their site, sell your kids photo to The Sun after it's hit by a truck, or publish sisters photo is FB's Worst Dressed, you have no recourse.

Lastly, just because YOU can't access someone's FB account, and they selected the tick box, 'private', does not mean the vast majority of the computer literate world does not have access to a FB page. It's not like they have state of the art encryption or anything.

So post your kids photos online, and list their birthdays and their places of birth. I'm sure they won't be dumb enough to use their real DoB or place of birth when they open a bank account, and I'm sure DD, if you have one, whont be dumb enough to use your real Maiden name if you have one.

Play liberal with their personal information, but at the very least, teach them to lie about their place of birth, date of birth and mothers maiden name in future life. Otherwise you're just compromising their future security.

Computers never forget anything. In 20 years if someone wanted to know about Michael Andrew Jones from Wakefield, everything his parents published online about him will be on a database somewhere. All you'd need to do is know how to look.

Posts I made in 1992 are still available online. The sites no longer exist. Entire internet companies hosting those sites no longer exist. Yet they are still there, archived on computers around the world.

It will not be long before people start complaining that they cannot get a job because of stuff they posted online. Prospective employees may well be profiled (filtered) online the same way we filter out the incompetents and the wannabes with CVs today. Do you really want to adding to that information source without knowing how that information will be interpreted, or what it will be used for?

Yes fb will forever have the information that x's baby took a shit at nine am on this day. But if you think anyone could possibly care enough about that to try and track down, twenty years from now, the ancient fb account of a job applicants mother, youre crazy.

Yes, everyone should think about what they post online, who its available to, and how long it will last. People post too much information and too publicly. Sensible precautions should be taken. But dont go overboard with the paranoia, because honey you just arent that interesting. Likely no one cares enough about you to go to much effort.

OP, my DD is nearly 8 mo and I have never put her picture on FB. I feel that she can decide who has access to her pictures once she's old enough.

... Asuming of course the child in question will never amount to anything. Because it's not like our press would ever consider putting a photo of a celebrity, a public figure, a politician, or even a passing news story on the front page if they had access to one.

Point is, they can't easily get ahold of a picture of Tony Blair or Gordon Brown having a shit at 9 months old, but if they could, you'd be looking at it while you ate your Wheetabix in the morning.

Besides, if someone is bumb enough to post all their baby photos to FB, are you telling me their clever enough not to mention which hospital he was born in, when his first birthday was, etc. But then, why should they give two hoots about their kids online security? And why should we?

The baby has no concept of privacy. It's 6 months old. Get a grip.

You're worried about the "privacy" of a baby? oh stop it, I can't stop laughing, really?

Its a baby for god sake and if the parents what to do that then its up to them!

She sounds irritating.

As for her child's privacy when you have teens you realise that their lives are lived online.

It's saturated with personal details. That's life now. You can't turn back the clock.

Privacy settings are a joke as anything posted in fb belongs to fb so you are kidding yourself if you think they are in any way private.

Just hide her, it's irritating you. Privacy issues is a complete red herring, you're just fed up of seeing the pictures. It's her child, her Facebook and her choice.

I think it's weird some I see make me really uncomfortable, and actually think how embarrassed we all got as teenagers if mum whacked the baby photos out to CLOSE friends. Let alone a bunch of people they barely know from work/old uni friends Etc etc etx makes me very uncomfortable

lol what's up with EllieFAntspoo

always I just don't know, that's a rant an a half.

when you have teens you realise that their lives are lived online.

It's saturated with personal details. That's life now. You can't turn back the clock.

Absolutely. So if I don't like the way a teen conducts himself/herself online, then they can go elsewhere for employment. That's the way companies are beginning to profile candidates. It's not like there is a shortage of applicants. Is just that some will live on benefits and work in supermarkets because they don't suit business life. Your child's online identity will decide how employable they are. They cannot do anything about it, but they would do well to understand it.

Exactly a baby has no concept of privacy, it is the parents role to respect a child's right to grow up without every aspect of their life being on display. It seems nothing is sacred anymore.

benefits and supermarkets righto dear. We also look at applicants Facebook/twitter but it doesn't ever rule out an interview as there's more to a person than a picture on Facebook, especially when you're referring to a young adult/teen, social media is a part of modern life now.

I agree re: photos but generally think comments/statuses are ok when a baby.

I'm not too sure you can broach it though without causing aggro.

I have a friend who has posted 4 scan pics already and she's only 14 weeks :o pregnant, not the baby.

Her posting all these pictures of her child is getting on your nerves. She is happy and is sharing her happiness of being a mother. For whatever reason, it sounds like you resent her "overdoing" her happy mothering posts and pictures of her baby. It sounds like your family member is very, very happy. Why not be happy for her? Instead of being resentful of her, you should examine yourself and why you have these feelings against seeing her child each day. You can easily hide her posts from your newsfeed. Ultimately, it's not your call what she posts and how often she posts. She probably has her settings on private which you well know. It's none of your business really! If you can't be happy for her, then take her off your newsfeed, or better yet, be honest with your feelings and defriend her. There is a reason you are annoyed and it's not anything to do with "caring" about the baby's privacy. That's a common tactic, to say you are "concerned" about something, in this case supposedly the baby's privacy, when you are actually just resentful of someone else's success or happiness. That's how your post comes across to me. It is normal to have feelings like this sometimes, but be honest with yourself about your logic. If you're just in a bad mood and need to vent, then I agree with you that there's a lot on FB that is annoying, when people posts the same stuff over and over, try to be happy for her and get your mind on something constructive.

Facebook is one of the cleverest forms of data gathering there's ever been. It's insidious. We baulk at the idea of compulsory ID cards, yet we'll upload the details of our lives to social networks.

You should drop it into conversation about the world of baby role playing. Where people use photos of other people's dc to create an alternative life for themselves. Featuring someone else's baby.

My dh works in data security and develops privacy software for a living. If you knew just how vulnerable facebook's 'privacy' settings are, you wouldn't post any pictures on facebook at all, I would never post a picture of my child on facebook. Sharing with family is fine, you don't need to publish something on the internet to share it with distant relatives; once something is on the internet, you lose control of it.

Facebook is one of the cleverest forms of data gathering there's ever been. It's insidious. We baulk at the idea of compulsory ID cards, yet we'll upload the details of our lives to social networks.

You might. Some of us use FB without giving them any of our details. Your choice if you do, but then don't complain about it!

If you knew just how vulnerable facebook's 'privacy' settings are, you wouldn't post any pictures on facebook at all, I would never post a picture of my child on facebook

Sure, but again, what makes you think anyone wants a picture of your kid, to go to the bother of finding it, when there are billions of pictures of kids everywhere, online and off?