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Aggressive and violent child at school. What can I do if school are brushing it under the carpet?

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Ducied · 18/07/2015 22:44

Hi,

I would really like some advice from anyone who has had a similar experience, or works in school/LEA/is a school governor or similar.

My son (reception age) attends a very highly regarded primary school. It is rated as one of the top UK primaries.

There is a violent and aggressive boy in his class, who has sought out my child for the entire school year and subjected him to being hit/pushed/shoved on a regular basis. Sometimes it happens almost every day, and sometimes it scales off then a very aggressive and serious incident will occur a week later.

Examples of serious incidents are head injuries, head stamped on, attempted strangulation, blows to the eye, hits in the face with hard objects.

I have spoken to the class teacher about 10 times over the year. Each time he insists my son is sometimes provoking (we had NO behavioural issues before at nursery - not a single incident). He then deflects from what I am saying by bringing up issues with my son, for example, my son's phonics work (or similar). These 'issues' with my son are only brought up after I have called a meeting to discuss my son's safety.

While I know this will sound unreasonable to some, my experience so far says the school are trying to give me the message that if I kick up a fuss about this, they will deflect by attacking my son.

My son's report came home 2 weeks ago. It says he is 'outstanding' in all 3 areas of the EYFS.

I am worried about next year when this boy will be bigger and stronger. I worry something serious might happen one day. The incidents happen at playtime, and the school are clearly not watching them closely enough.

When I bring up my concerns, they seem to nod their heads and not do anything to address the behaviour. If they are doing anything, it is not working.

What would you do next?

OP posts:
Scoobyh112 · 09/02/2019 08:31

Hi my son has been in exact same situation he has been attacked on a number of occasions I have had to remove him from the school we involved the police , the only head has been twisting it saying my son knows what happens if he provoke him so twisting it but a memeber if staff and a parent were standing right next to my son and his friend when the last vicious assault happened. He never spoke to this boy the boy in question ran from the other side of the playground and launched at him putting him a headlock and punching him in the side of the head, this child not only attacks but gives notes to children saying they will kidnap, torture kill and chop up children. Can’t go to Board as their mother is on the board and a senco worker, the children at Blisland Academy are in danger on a daily basis please help if you know what we should do

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