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Lesbian Auntie Wedding

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Janeymoo50 · 11/07/2015 22:27

ok....so I have you're attention probably. I am gay. 50 years old. Female. I finally met the love of my life last year, planning wedding for next May. My darling niece has two little girls, I want them to be flower girls........my niece is delighted. How do we "explain" a gay wedding to 5 year olds???

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BellsaRinging · 12/07/2015 14:18

My son went to my sister's wedding to her female partner at age 3. No issue. He'd known them both since he was born, so it was just 'x and y are getting married'. Tbh he was more interested in the cake and seeing his cousins.

He has had some questions recently (he is now 10), as he has realised, from speaking to others at school, that most of his friends don't have aunts and uncles who are in gay/lesbian relationships (he has both). He didn't realise it was something to be remarked upon.

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mugglingalong · 12/07/2015 14:32

Ds (5) has been known to correct other dc when they say that boys can't marry boys. We don't have any close friends who are in same sex relationships but it is all that he has ever known so it seems obvious to him. It is a non-issue at that age. I would just ask her without making it sound as if it might be unusual.

'Auntie janeymoo50 and x are getting married and we would love it if you could be our flowegirls.'

Congratulations.

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Littleen · 12/07/2015 17:17

Don't think you need to do any explaining... When two people love each other, they sometimes get married. My two very good friends got married (2 girls) and nobody did any explaining to the children, as they don't have the same ideas necessarily as adults might do.

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BananaInPyjama · 13/07/2015 05:03

5 year olds accept everything you tell them...fairies collect teeth, mums know everything, anyone grown up can marry anyone grown up.

My then 5 year old was confused why Tony Abbott, PM of Aus would not allow men to marry men here...she thought he was mean (and she's right he is an ignorant pig- even denied his own sister had the right to marry her long time female partner).
Have a great day- congrats on finding love, which can be an elusive thing!