I am a bridesmaid for a friend and she is having a rehearsal in the evening . I am having a childcare problem though and really don't want to have to take my young kids (2 and 1) as they will be a nightmare/exhausted. She had initially been casual about attendance but is now being pushy about it. My OH is really not up for me taking them as it means they can be tricky to get to sleep later on and he has work the next day.
Is this a big deal? I'm pretty sure that it's a standard format wedding. I've had to juggle childcare a number of times in the run-up to this wedding and I get that it is important to her but most weddings follow a similar pattern and if I need to check with one of the other bridesmaids I can. AIBU?