WWYD Would you go and pick your OH up from work late at night?
redgoat · 03/07/2015 20:48
DH works shifts and car shares with another guy. Work is almost an hours' drive away. It's the other guy's turn to drive this week.
Due to traffic and delivery routes (they drive), other guys keeps getting held up so DH ends up hanging about for over an hour for him to get back to the depot.
DH had mentioned about 4.30pm about me going to get him tonight. I don't want to. We have 2 DC (11 and 7), it's Friday night, I just want to chill and veg. It also negates the petrol saving of the car share and money is tight. He won't be due to finish until about 11pm. Other guy may not get back until after midnight.
WWYD, take kids and go and get him or go to bed and make him wait. (shocked face is the closest smilie to a yawn lol)
LibrariesGaveUsPower · 03/07/2015 20:54
No. I wouldn't put three of you through a two hour round trip to avoid him having a two hour trip (one hour wait, one travel).
If you do it then your kids are 'paying' for his one hour saving with four of theirs (plus your two).
I might without the kids if I was feeling extra nice and money wasn't an issue.
RitaCrudgington · 03/07/2015 21:07
What everyone else said. You're "spending" 6 hours of everyone else's time in order to save him (max) 90 minutes' hanging around. Not to mention the petrol. Put it that way to him and say "is that really what you're asking? Do you really think that's a reasonable request?"
redgoat · 03/07/2015 21:08
Thank you. That's my thoughts too. Sometimes he's had to wait longer. He can be a bit "woe is me" which in my mind makes him quite selfish.
He's just phoned while I was typing and is now in a huff because I've said I'm not going to get him. He's saying he is due back in the yard about 10 and his mate is 2 hours behind him. Ah well. I'm not dragging kids out of bed to then not get home till gone 11pm. Grrrrrrrr.
He does have a knack of making me feel bad. Standing firm.
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