Are my dresses unreasonable for the school run?

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I wore the black dress yesterday (see pics) and got a filthy stare off a woman pushing a buggy on the school pick up. I don't think I had my kids with me at that point. I later wore the dress to a Christian youth group, in fact I wore it to the office earlier the same day and it seemed fine. Today I had both kids on the way to school, I was wearing the dark red dress with a black cardigan. I got another long glare from the same woman, it was her staring that made me realise it was her again! I wouldn't wear the dark red dress to the office and I have pinned it to make it less low on the bust. They are both soft jersey dresses. But are they really that bad and does it make a difference whether I'm a mother or on the school run as to whether these outfits are appropriate?

Oh dear OP you poor sausage! You should have posted this in S&B and people would have been nice to you.
I love S&B, it's a little oasis of kindness :)

I bet the woman recently got a Lost boxset and she's worried about if they'll ever get off the island.

If you don't like people staring at/judging your dress, why the bloody hell have you posted a load of pictures of your dress for people on here to stare at/judge?

There could be some Muslims reading, y'know...

I'm guessing you're a journalist taking pictures in a hotel. Well done for getting so many replies.

Is it my problem for dressing badly or am I dressed fine and should ignore other people staring or even judging?

neither. Just wear your clothes and stop thinking about what other people might be thinking, because they probably aren't.

"And no I wasn't staring first. I had a pushchair and holding a child's hand"

You said in the op you didn't have your children with you at that point?

Agree with derxa. "Young Christian woman going about her business in her summer dress made to feel uncomfortable by headscarfed Muslim woman. Whose country is it, anyway?" Tomorrow's DM?

I can't see this ending well for the op

I would probably make my bed before taking a selfie disclaimer have never take a selfie in my life

I was once seriously reproved by a colleague for my filthy, filthy looks at her.

Actually I was trying to hold it together because my partner had just left me. And no, I wasn't feeling particularly friendly.

It's quite a boring dress, btw.

The reason I mentioned her potentially being Muslim is because I didn't want people to think she was jealous, I don't believe that was the case. I've never had this before save the street preacher calling me a prostitute (and little boy of about eight who called me a slag in the supermarket - I was about 14 and loved make up but in an almost goth way, I wasn't wearing that make up today). I've spoken to friends about modesty within their faith and understand it, I know they were happy and different women had different views, but they didn't appear judgemental towards me or others, and definitely not jealous of how others dressed. She may have disapproved of me somehow, religiously influenced or not. She may have thought something completely different instead, mistaken identity or how I walked. But she was definitely staring and wasn't looking friendly. Perhaps I can ask if it happens again, although I'm hoping I won't cross her path again. But at least if I know I'm not dressed in a way that should attract negative attention it will help me ignore it instead of worrying.

You sound like you think you look like Jordan. You don't. I shouldn't think she noticed your cleavage.

Honestly, if you read the thread without looking at the pictures, you'd be expecting a Jodie Marsh belt-outfit, rather than a really average dress.

There is nothing about you that would catch my eye, or anyone else's I expect.

This probably isn't real anyway.

Gosh you have SUCH a high opinion of yourself....
Well if strangers are giving you looks of a 'different sort' and asking if you and your 5 year old are siblings, and even a muslim is jealous of you?!

Well I just don't think you have anything to worry about. Unless perhaps how you will fit your head through the school gates, but y'know cross that bridge when you come to it

Hold on! Maybe the muslim isn't jealous at all.... In fact I think she may fancy you

She might have been wondering how the hell you can stand wearing dark colours and nylon tights in this weather.

Yes let's hope you don't meet that mean old nasty muslim lady again.

Hoos cuntry dus she fink dis is anywai.

The reason I mentioned her potentially being Muslim is because I didn't want people to think she was jealous, I don't believe that was the case.

Because the other side of that coin is what? That as she's Muslim she clearly holds your Western values in contempt? That she clearly thinks you should also don a scarf and cover up?

These sorts of attitudes are more dangerous than overt racism imo as they are very insidious and permeate sensible discussion dressed up as 'observations.'

OP... Did you remember deodorant today? I ask because sometimes, if somebody very whiffy passes by my over-sensitive nose, I might forget my manners and turn to look at what-the-fuck has just assaulted it.

I suspect that people don't notice you and this is where the problem lies. Posting on a board isn't going to help you with that. You say that your husband doesn't give his opinions either... do you think that might be because you ask him too often? Or he's too honest in his opinions?

Wear what you want, really. If I were being constructive, I'd say that your boobs are better on display than your legs but definitely never display both at once.

Weird dress to wear in summer

She may have been thinking 'what is one so youthful doing wearing an adult womans dress. Surely she should be in a school uniform?'

After reading your latest posts, l'd like to ask, are someone who tends to overthink things?
Lots of what you've worried about would be considered non - events by most people.
Your dress is fine. Your breasts don't offend. Everything is cool.
From now on, go about your business without worrying about other people.
Not always easy, but you'll have an easier day.

Unless perhaps how you will fit your head through the school gates

Hahaha

Seriously OP, stop attention seeking. You look great in the dresses but not more or less so than most other people that wear dresses! Get over yourself and just admit that you've probably over embellished this slightly!

Looks really frumpy with the tights aswell