to ask how many of you had a mum who was naked at home a lot?

[ladyrosy]

A couple of days ago, I had spent all day in PJs and no bra (my excuse being my beautiful DS1 is 9 weeks old and some days are trickier than others!) and I thought to myself "I am turning into my mum by not wearing a bra! No wait, I would have to be naked in the house all the time to be my mum. Wait... what?"

It was a moment of realising that something that was completely normal to me as a child may not actually be that normal. I suspect this will end up filed under "more evidence my mum is bonkers", but to make sure I am not being unreasonable, may I ask you if your mums (or either parent I guess!) spent most of their time in the house naked? She would do it with the curtains/blinds open, and it would be all day, not just a pre-shower moment, so pretty extensive nakedness.

I don't feel I can ask the people I know in real life. I suspect I'll sound a bit odd.

Grim that sounds like a good balance - naked all day seems to bring back cringing memories for many on the thread but occasional nudity encourages the fact that nude does not have to mean sexual which is very important to be comfortable with.

My two DCs I couldn't keep out the bath with me when younger but not now, they would run a mile given current teenage years

I never saw either parent naked. With my own cd we were relaxed as far as shower/changing went and didn't bother if dc saw us but never made a point of it and ,thinking about it, didn't go downstairs without clothes.
My own doc are adults now and are like us, relaxed but not starkers by choice unless in bedroom/bathroom.

My parents were fairly frequently nude at home. It never bothered me as it was normal. They did get dressed when we had visitors.

My toddler saw me naked for the first time last week and looked confused, I took my trousers off after work once briefly and he ran over with them crying and begging me to put them back on

Pepperoni my 19 month old peers round the shower curtain when I'm in the shower, pointing and saying 'mummy what is that?'!

Can't really remember seeing my mum naked. I was often naked or semi naked around the house until my DS reached about 9 or 10. Now I'm more discreet which I think he appreciates. Used to have baths together until he was 8 which for us was a good age to stop. My DP isn't his dad and always puts bottoms or shorts on in front of DS.

Never seen my parents in the buff.
My best friend's mum, when I was little, was a raving hippy and walked around Starkers all the time. When her own friends were over and the kids friends. She was ace.
I'm a bit of a nuddy now, as are my kids. But I draw the line at having my fanny out when their friends are around

Both my parents walked around naked. Not uncommon for me and my sibs to walk out of our bedrooms and see a naked parent rummaging through the hall cupboard for a towel.

I make sure I have some bedclothes on when I have kids in bed with me. I remember hating the feel of naked skin on mine, especially when it seemed to stick to me. As for children telling you, I never dreamt of mentioning it! As a kid you don't know there is any other way.

I used to be embarrassed if mum was sunbathing in just bikini bottoms, especially if a friend came around.

Peoples houses must be v warm who walk around starkers! I don't think mines that warm. We have neighbours close by too so I wouldn't ever wander around downstairs naked. Happily between bathroom and bedroom and open when getting changed etc but that's it!

Kids on the other hand happily strip down to pants often!

My parents wandered around naked if they were on their way to the bathroom and slept naked.

To be honest, whilst it didn't bother me at the time, I sometimes get flashbacks of my dad's willy and wish I hadn't seen it. Sorry.

Yes. My parents never wore clothes around the house unless it was cold, and my brothers and I grew up doing the same. So none of us had any hangups about nudity.

I'm sitting naked at my computer now, enjoying the warm air on my body. The skin is an excellent temperature regulator and clothes just get in the way.

Yes, they both walked around naked but I'm afraid it was a very dodgy household with a serious lack of boundaries and a lot of abuse went on. So not a vote for it there really!

I don't mind a toddler seeing me naked, coming in for wee while I'm in the bath etc., but as they get older (school age onwards really) I definitely cover up and make quite clear rules about privacy etc. I've probably gone a bit in the opposite direction but understandably I suppose.

Never. I think she was born fully clothed

Both my parents slept naked and walked from the bathroom to the bedroom naked, so I was very (appropriately) comfortable with nudity as a child. When I was older my mum also sat about in her underwear. No big deal to me. I guess if she was sitting on the sofa watching Lewis with nothing on that would be weird.

Also, no bra with a 9 week old! Mine is 6 months and I can't imagine a time when I will ever not wear a bra leakage

I don't quite understand all the "yuk" posts at the thought of seeing your own mum or dad naked. I used to go and talk to mine when they were in the bath and if they needed clothes from the basket downstairs or something then if they were naked on their way to fetch them then they were naked.

I on the other hand was a massive prude and hated the thought of anyone seeing me naked from around the age of 7 or 8. But my parents nakedness didn't bother me.

MIL has even done the clean clothes from the basket dash while I was in the house, although she was in her knickers and bra. Still didn't think anything of it though.

I'm regularly topless at home at the moment due to bf on demand and walk around naked while getting dressed in front of my dc. I even still get in the bath with them (7 month old and 4.10 year old - the 4 year old would be most upset if I said he wasn't allowed in the bath with me!).

I suppose I'm just trying to teach my kids that our bodies are nothing to be ashamed of, but I do talk about the PANTs/underwear rule obviously.

my mother was body ashamed - for no reason other than some v weird messages from her mother

I am a naked one, not in a fancy showy off way but in a completely happy naked way

Oh God no - perish the thought. We were very sheltered about nudity and never saw any members of my family naked.

Probably because of this, my kids never saw me or their father naked.

I remember walking into my parents' bedroom once when DM was naked and she got really cross and tried to cover her boobs and muff with her hands. I think I was about 8 and I felt that I must have done something really naughty. I don't remember ever seeing her completely naked. Yet when I was an adult we'd go on holidays together and she would sunbathe topless. Dad would cover his tackle with a flannel if I ever had to get anything from the bathroom while he was having a bath.

I've always been far more relaxed than that about being nude in the house in front of DSs. I've started to cover up now as they say "Aw Mum!" whilst averting their gaze. I have no desire to parade naked in front of their friends or girlfriends. DH is more body conscious and would never venture further than the ensuite naked.

Yup, both my parents. And their friends, too.

We also spent holidays going to nude beaches. My mum is German, they're much less prudish as a rule.

I actually like it!

My parents were not naked parents, but there was a lot of nudity between bathroom and bedrooms as we had a downstairs bathroom only! And both my parents enjoyed long baths, so my sis and I would sneak in there to do our teeth/go to toilet whilst they were in the tub. It didn't seem like a big deal, and I actually wish I'd seen them naked more often as I have quite a shaky body confidence in myself, and seeing more "real" bodies would probably have helped in some way.

Now as a parent I am nude in front of my 2 year old DS often. Just for baths, early in the morning (I sleep naked). I don't want the first woman's body he ever sees to be some airbrushed model in his mate's dad's porno mag - I want him to know what real women look like, too.

No never naked but she would be more comfy in just her tshirt and undies if it was just us kids around. She has always ALWAYS stripped off when she got home from work, still does these days haha. As soon as she walks in the door the bra comes off and the pants come off. She tends to wear pj shorts now as visitors are always in and out...

Both my parents were quite casual about being naked, neither ever wore pjs so they were always naked in the morning!! My mum was also a non bra wearing and non leg shaving hippy liberal. She was really upset when I wanted to start shaving my legs age 11 or 12

I am pretty relaxed around my dd (9yo) most days she will come in and have a chat when I am in the bath or getting dressed.

My parents didnt hide nakedness. I normally roam around the house in knickers and the occassional t shirt. DD has seen me naked many times.

I want her to have some confidence with her body. I dont want her equating the human body/nudity with sex.

I don't want the first woman's body he ever sees to be some airbrushed model in his mate's dad's porno mag - I want him to know what real women look like, too.

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I want her to have some confidence with her body. I dont want her equating the human body/nudity with sex.

Bravo! Some very sensible comments.

I would love to be confident enough to roam around naked but I have far too many wobbly/saggy bits that are frankly more comfortable then they're contained! My 32H breasts are not at all comfortable without a bra.