to ask how many of you had a mum who was naked at home a lot?

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A couple of days ago, I had spent all day in PJs and no bra (my excuse being my beautiful DS1 is 9 weeks old and some days are trickier than others!) and I thought to myself "I am turning into my mum by not wearing a bra! No wait, I would have to be naked in the house all the time to be my mum. Wait... what?"

It was a moment of realising that something that was completely normal to me as a child may not actually be that normal. I suspect this will end up filed under "more evidence my mum is bonkers", but to make sure I am not being unreasonable, may I ask you if your mums (or either parent I guess!) spent most of their time in the house naked? She would do it with the curtains/blinds open, and it would be all day, not just a pre-shower moment, so pretty extensive nakedness.

I don't feel I can ask the people I know in real life. I suspect I'll sound a bit odd.

my mum was naked fairly often. One of her boyfriends used to wander round naked too. I remembee my aunt and uncle being naked quite a lot when they took me on holiday, theyd sunbathe naked. My mum did that on holiday too on the beach.

Im not a nudist but I dont care if my children see me naked particularly and none of them seem to be bothered. Its only bodies

I still see my DM and DDad naked regularly when I go and visit, and I am 45 now. Not social nudity, but I love sitting on their bed and chatting to them while they shower and get dressed, and it has never felt weird. I am the same with my DS who is 10, and he seems fine with it for now.

I sometimes wander around the house with little on or naked, but with a purpose, like getting clothes from the laundry room in the basement, or looking for my glasses. We have full length windows on the ground floor, so I try and make sure I don't frighten the neighbors.

The only time I remember being embarrassed with DM and DDad was when they took us to a nudist beach in the south of France with friends. Seeing you favorite "uncle" and "aunt" naked was very embarrassing. I read a book the whole time and refused to take my costume off.

sazzle41 my DM tends to not feel the cold. I don't recall her ever owning a coat.

pitterpatter unfortunately my milk never came in sufficiently to feed my poor DS, and despite my best effort (having his tongue tie cut, use of a lactation specialist, pumping, making and eating lactation cookies, drinking lactation tea, feeding virtually round the clock) after two weeks he was continuing to lose weight and had dry cracked lips and uric crystals in every nappy. We had to give formula to supplement. Unfortunately there has never been the risk of me leaking milk everywhere when braless around my baby.
DS has gone from being nearly hospitalised for dehydration to 50th entitle, yayyyy.

I think there is an appropriate time for nakedness, like boobs out for feeding babies, changing at the gym or home, bathing, sleeping etc. I am not convinced it is right for frying bacon (ow, surely), doing the washing up at the kitchen window at the front of the house, being in an overlooked back garden and so on.

It has been really interesting to read the spread of experiences and opinions.

Sorry to hear other parents have selective memories.

My DM still is at 74 and the last time I visited with my Ds (19) he rushed upstairs to see her when we got there, I heard a squawk, he came back down with a very shocked look on his face, my DM had tried to give him a cuddle and she was naked, he still hasn't really recovered the poor wee scone.
Im much more used to it as no one wore clothes when I lived at home, but my DH comes from a fully dressed up to the neck at all times family, and we had kind of found a middle ground naked wise in our home, that involves closed doors.

No, definitely not. I stopped showering with my dad when I was tiny and I've only ever seen him shirtless for a few moments while he changed his top. My mum will stand and chat to me in her underwear while getting ready but I've only had the horror of seeing her topless once, when I startled her while she was sunbathing in the garden.

My brother, six years younger than me, was a very naked child. The second he set foot in the house he stripped down to his pants and this continued until he was about 17 and my mum had to have A Talk with him. A small child running around in the scud is one thing, a hairy 5' 10" rugby player sprawled on the couch in his undercrackers - or worse, his mankini! - is quite another.

My mum used to walk about from shower to bedroom all the time naked, didnt bother me really untill i was older and thought someone might see through the windows!

My mum wasn't at all prudish, as in I remember sitting on the toilet seat talking to her while she was having a bath until I was probably about 10 and she would happily get dressed in front of me. Don't think I ever saw her downstairs naked though! Or indeed outside of the bedroom or bathroom. I am the same with DD who is currently only 19 months. I don't tend to be naked apart from in the shower and when getting dressed anyway, my boobs are far too big to be comfortable bra less!

Brickinit I said mine were prudes but not because they were never naked, they just were in general. :) The fully clothed at all times thing is just another facet of it.

Glad your baby is doing well now, OP!

Saying that my dad never would and think i once walked into their room when i was about 8 when he was getting changed by accident which was a shock for both of us!

Never in my own childhood. I have 3 brothers and friends at school used to ask what a willy looked like because with 3 brothers I must have seen one. No I hadn't, I don't think anyone saw anyone in any state of undress in our house.
I was much more liberal as an adult and most of my DC are, although DD2 can be prudish at times, but goodness knows where she gets it from!

My mum was uptight about loads of stuff, but unfortunately not about being naked. I hated it

Totally agree with that. My DM was constantly naked it seemed, she probably wasn't, but it made me uncomfortable. She would wander round, boobs and bush on show, and the one time I asked why she had hair there, she said "because she's a woman". No further explanation. The same with a box of Tampons in the bathroom, I asked her what they were for, she said "because i'm a woman".

Personally, as a child I found the sight of a hairy fanny quite bloody disturbing, probably because I had no explanation from my DM why her body looked different from mine.

Some people on this thread have said their nakedness will teach their children to not be embarrassed about their bodies.
It had the opposite effect on me.

I had the pleasure of Visiting numerous nudist beaches growing up. My mum, dad and the friends we went with, all naked. Last holiday was around 14. I'm very relaxed about nudity how, but I don't think it would extend to public nudity!

My mum was naked a lot too, so was I. We never locked or rarely shut the bathroom door. We were just very open. Baths were a social event in our house I know its a bit now I'm an adult, but honestly a bath and a gossip with your sister is brilliant.

My mom was often naked, it was totally ordinary & quite boring to us. Even when my brothers were teenagers. We were called uptight prudes because we didn't also strip off. She said she went nuddy because the human body is beautiful & we had lots of nude statues & pictures around the house. She covered up if non-family people were around. My dad didn't strip off that I ever saw.

My mom & cousins (M or F) also sunbathed topless in the garden.

Next door both sides was young boys who peeked thru the hedge or fence (sigh).

I have a lot of issues with my mother but her going nude is absolutely not one of them.

Sorry to hear that rosy but glad he is doing better now.

I wish I could be braless. I have to wear one at night too, so I don't end up sleeping in a puddle!

Dh says his mother used to regularly to ask him if she looked skinny that day, as she pranced around naked in the bathroom with the door open. He left home at 18 and it was still a regular occurrence then. He feels rather about it.

My family were very private otoh!

Nope.

I hate the idea that it's "uptight", "prudish" or that you're "ashamed" if you don't want to see your parent naked, or wander around naked yourself.

"Don't look if you're offended" is also a stupid statement. Why should I have to consciously alter my gaze? Why can I suddenly not look left, or look right because your needs are more important than mine? Especially when being naked or exposed is not a need. It's quite simple to cover up, much harder to close my eyes and try and walk!

Honestly though, my body is my own private business. I don't feel the need to show it off but I'm also not ashamed of it. I also respect others right not to be "forced" to see my naked self (or alter their gaze not to) in a place where you would not expect to see it (obviously I'm excluding showers, nude beaches etc here).

The same as most PPs here really- between showers and getting dressed etc but not full on wondering around in the day. My stepdad however used to shout if I walked in by accident. Oddly he never did this with my brother or sister. The only reason I can think of is that they are his biological children. Used to upset me actually. Not that I ever wanted to see him naked, I think it was more the differentiation between us.

I am the same with DD and will be with any other future children unless they are uncomfortable with it. Baths are a social event here too
DH is less comfortable with nudity than I am but I actually think that's a self esteem issue.. He is certainly more relaxed about it now than he was when we were first together. He did laugh (rather than shouting to leave him alone!) the other day when potty training DD walked into the toilet and told him he had a floppy willy

I'm always pretty free and easy around the house myself. Recently my DH came home and told me our DS aged 11 had texted him at work to say I was playing swing ball in the garden with no pants on. Which wasn't true by the way - but the fact my DH believed him made me think that maybe I do need to cover up a bit more now.

my mom used to toast her tits in the garden in the summer i looked at her and asked her why she had those out for one day and she didnt do it again!

as a mum i suppose im on the fence my son is comfortable with nudity my daughter not at all and the toddler is well a toddler cool with anything as long as he has food

im just attempting to teach my middle son to knock before he comes into my bedroom when im getting dressed but he still comes in the bathroom when im having a shower flings the curtains aside when he needs to speak to me

My mum was constantly in her bra and undies. She's the least appearance-oriented woman I know. It has been a very good influence on us, not giving a shit. Great woman.

DH and I are constantly naked with our (small) kids. We have a nude hot-tub every day. Sleep naked. They don't mind; it's normal for them.

My parents were never nuddie.
I've shared a bath weekly with both daughters - the elder opted out at 11 and the youngest currently loves it at nearly 9. When she decides to stop too that's fine. I've found it useful for having chats about growing up to be honest.