to ask how many of you had a mum who was naked at home a lot?

[ladyrosy]

A couple of days ago, I had spent all day in PJs and no bra (my excuse being my beautiful DS1 is 9 weeks old and some days are trickier than others!) and I thought to myself "I am turning into my mum by not wearing a bra! No wait, I would have to be naked in the house all the time to be my mum. Wait... what?"

It was a moment of realising that something that was completely normal to me as a child may not actually be that normal. I suspect this will end up filed under "more evidence my mum is bonkers", but to make sure I am not being unreasonable, may I ask you if your mums (or either parent I guess!) spent most of their time in the house naked? She would do it with the curtains/blinds open, and it would be all day, not just a pre-shower moment, so pretty extensive nakedness.

I don't feel I can ask the people I know in real life. I suspect I'll sound a bit odd.

I'm surprised how many posters work to avoid nakedness in front of their children. I just don't see it as weird to occasionally see those you live with naked. Why is naked flesh shameful or embarrassing? I would not want to send that message to be kids.

Spam why do you say your DH covers up 'obviously'? Perfectly normal for small girls to see their Dad naked, surely?

And of course you don't need to cover up when you son is here, what a weird way of thinking about it.

How are children to learn what normal adult human bodies look like, if they never see their parents? Do you really want their only glimpse of an adult body of the opposite sex to be on page 3, or the front of men's health, or porn watched on you tube when they are 10 - or any of the other ways that they could see a complete unrealistic, air-brushed, sexualised version?

My parents were never naked and were total prudes. My mum once went topless on the beach in Spain but she made us all sit round her to hide her boobs from the world in my house now we are all happy nakeds apart from dh who prefers to wear his boxers. Sometimes I wish we were a little more repressed, there's not a day goes by that dd isn't shoving some part of her naked anatomy in my face to just check it's ok! Bring back the Victorian times I say

My mum always kept her figure (ie borderline anorexic) and paraded her naked body around a lot. I was once in the bath (age about 9) and she came in and did something gross and disgusting and it's affected me ever since.

I keep my clothes on in front of my children, unless I'm actually getting dressed and they come into my bedroom.

My mum was always clothed.

I am very relaxed over nudity. I will walk from one room to another with no clothes on. My dd often gets in bed with me during the night and I sleep naked (she is 6)

I have also had my children come to talk to me while I am in the bath. It's just not a big deal here.

I don't see the problem with being nude, I'm always walking around nude, my kids are usually nude at home but I insist on pants.

My parents were usually nude, we grew up in hot countries and clothes were not practical. Even now at 30 yrs of age I still walk around naked in front of people I know.

We went on nudist holidays when I was younger with my 3 sisters, meh to nudity!

No unusual ime, very relaxed 70's childhood

My mum was naked a reasonable amount, but mostly first thing in the morning walking to the bathroom, that sort of thing. Not just throughout the day.
I've just realised that I do that too, DS is two but maybe I should start being a bit more careful about it...

I never saw my DM nekkid (dont know why but i love that word/way it sounds). She was a total prude. Your DM must have had to have the heating on a LOT, the UK isnt the warmest place for 24/7 nekkidness is it?! Was it exhibitionism or an 'old hippy' thing OP? Or was she just very eccentric?

Tho' I met someone at work who never shut about it & went to Naturists camps A LOT . I'm really liberal but when he told me what went on re. teens there it was borderline abuse. Wont go into detail/I know you can't generalise but he told me it was 'normal practice' at all the ones he attended: it changed my view of Naturist camps forever i now find them sinister. I think its fine in your own home if thats your 'thing' & as long as you 'dont do it in the street & frighten the horses' or make others uncomfortable. I'm usually in a tshirt & knickers FWIW. With PJ bottoms only for visitors/ in winter.

Apart from in their bedroom, in the bathroom or the dash in-between, my parents were never publicly naked, but they were always available to us children regardless of their state of dress or undress. They slept nude then, and still do now, but wouldn't dream of spending a whole day starkers or ironing/cooking/cleaning in the buff. A generation on, and if anything has changed it is that we are now happy to make forays further afield in our birthday suits, like down to the dryer for some clean knickers etc.and we all like sunbathing topless when the weather permits.

Oh, yeah, lots of nakedness growing up, both parents. I definitely saw my mum naked more than I wanted to!
Ds still sees me nekkid sometimes when I am getting dry after a shower or whatever. He's 9, doesn't appear to bother him, and I see him naked most days.
I sit and chat to him in the bath, and help him wash his hair still. I think that's ok, isn't it? Or am I scarring him for life?
Incidentally, the poster who says her 7 yr old is "getting boobs"...do girls really get boobs at 7 ? I haven't noticed this!

My mum was uptight about loads of stuff but unfortunately not about being naked. I hated it.

So many people saying they hated it as a child.
Why do parents persist in doing this, when it makes their children feel uncomfortable.
It's bordering on abuse imo.

And why are parents that didn't walk around naked always labelled prudes?

I would have hated to see my dad's meat and two veg flapping around. The fact he spared us from that sight doesn't make him a prude - it makes him normal.

I have seldom seen my mother without full make up, let alone without her clothes!

There was just unavoidable nudity ie if we had to use the loo when mum was in the bath, or if someone had forgotten to take their towel into the bathroom. I once accidentally walked in on my dad trying to put his pants on over a plaster cast

There was never any social nudity though. Thank god.

My parents always fostered and so we had strict rules about sharing baths / always wearing Pjamas etc. I got such a shock aged 17 when my dad went to the loo in the night and I saw him in his y fronts ????

Ds is only 3 and we still bath together sometimes and stuff. I did wonder when Id have to stop being naked in front of him, but he will have to get a lot less clingy first so I am taking his lead with it

My parents would have been very relaxed about nudity. It never even occurred to me it was anything other than normal because it was normal

They didn't "parade around" naked, they were just naked like Fairy's parents, getting changed or going between bed and bath.

I honestly don't see what the problem is. If a child says they're uncomfortable with it, then change but why assume it's a problem? I honestly have no feelings about it at this stage of my life.

I never saw my mom naked - thank God

I sleep naked and go to the toilet in the mornings. I don't wander about naked.
I'm surprised so many of you see this as a problem.

I didn't see my parents nude - occasionally I'd go into the bedroom when my mum was getting dressed and I'd see her tum when she was in her bra and pants, and there was never a lock on our bathroom door (since my brother locked himself in as a toddler and my dad had to climb up a ladder and crawl through a tiny window to free him) so we were fairly comfy about walking in and out on each other in the bath and on the loo, but I don't think I ever saw her totally nude. If I did, it wasn't remarked upon, it was just 'there'. My dad was always totally clothed.

However we all ran round nekkid as kids and I still do to a large extent, usually in bed, in the morning or after a shower. DH is slightly more uptight but sleeps naked (with a pair of joggers close to hand in case DD jumps into bed with us).

DD has inherited the nudist vibe (to the extent that a friend of mine came around in the winter, walked into the living room to see DD jumping on the sofa starkers and said 'do you actually HAVE any clothes?') but now she's developing boobs has taken to wearing a crop top bra, long socks, rollerskates and... that's it. First thing she does when she gets in the house is strip. Tbh I'd rather have her like this than hung up about her body.

Oh good god no.

My very old fashioned Irish Catholic mother probably didn't even know what she looked like naked!

They didn't "parade around" naked, they were just naked like Fairy's parents, getting changed or going between bed and bath.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. As you say - it's a relaxed form of nudity.
But the OP and others have expressed how it made them uncomfortable as a child to see their parents constantly wandering round the whole house naked - nearly all the time.
It must have been stressful for tohse children -worrying that their friends might turn up unexpectedly and begging their parents to please put some clothes on.

Why would you want to stress your children out like that? Just to prove a point? To prove 'hey this is what normal bodies look like?''

My mum never minded being naked in front of us but she was rarely naked. What I mean is we could sit and chat with her while she was in the bath or getting dressed in the morning.

I've never seen my dad naked, if I walked in on him by accident changing he'd shout and scream to get out quick. I can only recall sharing a bed with him once too, and my memories go back to easily around 3 y.o.

This will seem strange but the difference between my mum and dad's approach to nudity actually made me feel very uncomfortable and I didn't understand why at the time but I think it made me feel like there is something wrong with boys or there is something wrong with girls, and that's why it's unequal.

For what it's worth, I'm a naturist as an adult.

I also sleep naked and go to the loo like that. I don't purposely parade myself but I am comfortable with this level of nudity. When I'm home in the day time and we don't have company the bra comes off, depending on what I'm wearing I may even walk the dog like that. My mother, when I was young would, after her shower, before going to work, wear a bra and pants under tights. She was like his while having her coffee and doing her hair and makeup. It didn't bother me, I noticed it but didn't think it was odd. The only other person in the house was her husband.

Frequently saw my mother in the buff, we were fairly relaxed in that regard.
My dad though, not after about the age of eight.
Something that bugs me now when I think about it, is the fact that my mother used to have a shit practically every morning when I was in the shower. Makes my skin crawl when I think about it now!