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to think that a shop shouldn't be selling padded bra and knicker sets in the children's department?

81 replies

Thancred · 27/06/2015 17:12

Out shopping today and DD spotted these while I was looking at the socks. Naturally she wanted one so she could "have boobies just like mummy".

Obviously some older girls will need a bra before others but these were padded bras in an AA and AAA cup size so designed for very small frames. They were also on the same rack as vests, socks, and knickers for much younger girls. DD is 3yo and they were on the same rack as her size underwear.

AIBU to think these are shit and no young girl should be padding out her chest? I was also Hmm at the matching bra and knickers set but realise that's probably just me as I don't see matching bras and knickers as a child thing.

Would I BU to complain?

to think that a shop shouldn't be selling padded bra and knicker sets in the children's department?
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Yarp · 27/06/2015 20:51

... and yes, I remember breast buds were really painful

knackered69 · 27/06/2015 20:55

Ah !! brought back so many memories ! I remember at 13 developing breast buds. My left one started first and it fucking hurt!! My chest had a sudden swelling on it that was painful and I thought I had cancer.

No-one told me about this and my mum was completely unapproachable. I thought I was going to die Hmm

Then the other side started and I finally twigged and asked my friends at school (I was a late developer )they laughed and told me it was normal and that I wasn't dying - I couldn't believe how sore it was though.

My first bra was a 28aa that I saved up for from bhs. Lacy to fuck and it was horrible. I washed it in the sink for weeks cos I didn't want to bring it to mums attention.
She never told me anything, told me off if I tried to broach stuff, so I was buggered if I was going to let her think that I was all growing up and she had some kind of hand in the process...

SorrelForbes · 27/06/2015 21:05

AA = same under but and across bust measurement. It's not really possible to be an AAA as that would mean having an across bust measurement smaller than your under bust.

CrohnicallyAspie · 28/06/2015 06:55

AA isn't the same over and under. I think you're getting confused with the old bra measuring method, where an A cup means you measure the same over the bust as the band size (but don't forget, the old method means you add 4" to your underbust to get band size, so A cup means your over bust is 4" bigger than your underbust).

I think AAA will be the same over and under, and AA is about 2" difference.

Mistigri · 28/06/2015 07:26

The only people who ever complain about moulded pre-teen/teen bras are people who haven't had a daughter going through puberty yet!

My daughter (14 and quite petite, 28B) will only wear moulded bras.

Emochild · 28/06/2015 07:39

My dd aged 9 spent the entire summer wearing jumpers because she was so embarrassed about her 'pointy nipples' -her words

I wrongly was of the belief that you don't wear a bra until you've got something to put in it thanks mum
Now at 13 she's a 32DD and lives in sports bras as that's what she's most comfortable in

By the time dd2 was at the same stage, thankfully I had realised that these moulded bras existed and they made her much more comfortable about her changing shape

FretYeNotAllIsShiny · 28/06/2015 08:02

I knew these were Primark bras when I saw the picture. Both my daughters wear them. I really hate sexy clothes for kids but these are probably the opposite to that; white, sensible and moulded for comfort. I can't think of anything wrong with them.

AuntieStella · 28/06/2015 08:30

For those who have them, or saw them in the shop, what size band are these bras?

My year 6 DD needs a 24C or 26B bra, and they are as rare as rocking horse shit. So if the pictured bras came in a small size, I'd be off to buy - they look like properly constructed bra that gives reasonable coverage.

diploddycus · 28/06/2015 08:36

Crohnically if there's one person on this site who knows what she's talking about when it comes to bra sizes, it's Sorrel.

2" difference is B cup. 4" difference wold be a D cup. (I think, Sorrel?!)

FretYeNotAllIsShiny · 28/06/2015 08:40

I think they start at 28AA auntiestella but I could be wrong. I think Primark also do some with ages on them, but they are just materiel and not moulded. Also, some Primarks have bigger ranges than others. For instance I can buy bras at the Leeds shop but not in Bradford because they don't have my size in the cheaper versions.

AuntieStella · 28/06/2015 08:46

28 band is far too big.

Posting on this thread has reminded me to measure her again, as it's been a while since I did. But last time I think she was 24 under and 27 at fullest.

chickenfuckingpox · 28/06/2015 10:18

moulded hell they are padded! my dd is 15 and doesn't need the "moulding" she is over a d cup

and personally i think two layers of fabric would be sufficient to conceal a nipple no need for "moulding"

can you tell its my pet peeve? my dd hates them she only has them at the moment because we failed to find a decent bra without moulding Hmm she now looks huge in them admittedly she is generously chested but still!

VirginiaTonic · 28/06/2015 10:24

I think they look perfect for newly developing girls age 8+! What shop is this please? I'd like to go there for my dd.

VirginiaTonic · 28/06/2015 10:26

chicken, two layers of fabric don't hide my nipples, I go for molding and padding every time!

Sirzy · 28/06/2015 10:35

I am an e cup but still much prefer moulded bras as they are much comfier.

AuntieStella · 28/06/2015 10:40

Moulding is a bit crap if your boob shape doesn't fit the mould.

But I embraced it with enthusiasm (despite moulded cups looking scarily vast in my size, seriously no need for 'padding' when you're a GG) when I tried one and discovered it was the only thing that concealed my nipples. Not that I mind a certain amount of show, but heaps better for the office to be hidden away.

Mrsjayy · 28/06/2015 11:02

Yabu girls develop they need and want a bra those bras are what girls wear they ard moulded slightly padded t shirt bras with pants to match I dunno what age your dd is but gasping at a perfectly normal item of underwear is a bit Hmm are you going to be tutting when its her turn for a bra

CaptainHolt · 28/06/2015 11:20

Anyone who thinks bras are sexualising like my mother does wants to try walking around without a bra in a white school shirt when they are a D cup.

Mrsjayy · 28/06/2015 11:27

Aww captainholt Sad

Original poster
Thancred · 28/06/2015 11:50

Mrsjayy, did you not read my earlier post?

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Original poster
Thancred · 28/06/2015 11:52

Copied and pasted for anyone who has not RTT

I haven't complained, I was asking if I would be unreasonable to complain. Also was not 'hoping' for anything and happy to concede I'm BU

Very glad I've got a good few years before I need to deal with DD and bra shopping

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CrohnicallyAspie · 28/06/2015 11:57

Fair enough diploddycus I just looked it up on my bra size chart but forgot to account for the fact that the band sizing is wrong, so the cup size will be relatively wrong too.

Though I clearly remember my 28AAs did have a bit of shaping, they weren't just a flat triangle of material like you would expect for a completely flat chest (like an actual child's bikini).

SorrelForbes · 28/06/2015 15:54

Yep it goes:

AA = same size
A = 1" difference
B = 2" difference
C = 3"
D = 4"
And so on

CrohnicallyAspie · 28/06/2015 16:34

So why do AAs have shaping?

SorrelForbes · 28/06/2015 17:05

Who knows? I would guess that many bras labelled as AA probably aren't!