to think that a shop shouldn't be selling padded bra and knicker sets in the children's department?

[Thancred]

Out shopping today and DD spotted these while I was looking at the socks. Naturally she wanted one so she could "have boobies just like mummy".

Obviously some older girls will need a bra before others but these were padded bras in an AA and AAA cup size so designed for very small frames. They were also on the same rack as vests, socks, and knickers for much younger girls. DD is 3yo and they were on the same rack as her size underwear.

AIBU to think these are shit and no young girl should be padding out her chest? I was also at the matching bra and knickers set but realise that's probably just me as I don't see matching bras and knickers as a child thing.

Would I BU to complain?

My skinny 17yo DD takes a 34A bra and loves those Primark ones. We were in there yesterday. They have some mega padded ones. Those ones are just moulded.

Bra shopping with DD's isn't something to be worried about. It is just part of them growing up. Start off with cropped tops and then move on to bras when needed.

I'm a lot off this stage as my DD is still a pre-schooler, but I would think I'd rather go shopping for bras for a 12/13 year old in the children section than having to take them into a full ladies underwear section - at least that way you don't have to hunt out the small sizes, the plain ones designed to be worn under school shirts etc.

Can I be a pest and say cashew if your DD is skinny then she ain't a 34-anything. Get that girl a bra intervention!

Why shouldn't they be in the children's dept.?

At DD1's (yr5) sports day last week it was hard to miss that quite a few of them could make use of a bra when running down the track and that was just the boys

Cashew my 34A dd turned out to be a 28C.

When you have a 3yo these things can seem a long way off, but when you have a 9/10 yo you won't think they are grown up enough to shop in the adults lingerie section.

diploddycus I was thinking that too. I'm overweight and a size 32.

I was wearing a 30AA at the age of 18, and it was almost impossible to find anything to give a bit of shape and nipple concealment in those days.

Some girls need a bit of padding because their breasts develop at different rates and the padding evens it out for them. My DD would only wear slightly padded ones because she was so embarrassed about being lop sided.

I daren't say anything to my DD about her bra size. She is very private about these things and would curl up and die rather than discuss it!

They look fine. Not frilly and conceal far more than they reveal. A pretty sensible bra for a developing and self conscious girl.

And yy to girls in junior school quite often needing a bra and definitely not in need of something from the adult section. It's nice that shops provide them with their own selection.

Thancred they are fine. Girls of 9-10 May well need bra that use hence them being in the kids section. Moulded bras hide sticking out nipples - the areola/ nipple becomes prominent in early breast development and that's very embarrassing for some girls especially in the summer under stretchy light tops and no jumper.

They aren't wired push up " little miss naughty" or cherry themed as ive seen in the 9-13 section in new look. That I do find 70 shades of wrong ( though to be fair that's my grown up view , the girls just see them as cute cartoons)

I think they're a great idea! They're very plain, hardly like they're peepholes and leather!

My first bras were lacy and quite stiff and irritated the fuck out of my nipples. I have fairly big boobs (38GG) and tend to go for moulded or lightly padded where I can as I have quite prominent nipples and prefer that they aren't visibly poking out.

And I've always worn matching underwear sets, didn't realise that should only be an adult thing??

Those looking for small sizes - M+S Angel range starts at a 28 and goes from 28 a-c and 30 a-d

OP I would have agreed with you previously, I am the least likely person to allow DD (aged 8) to wear anything remotely 'sexualising' or too grown up, she doesn't wear high heels and I make her wear a one piece swimming costume as I don't like the idea of a bikini on a young girl, with bra-shaped pieces of material to cover her non-boobs.

However, she has recently complained of pain in her chest when being hugged by friends, it leaves he in tears it so uncomfortable. She has breast buds (DS had them too at that age, I was worried and took him the GP who confirmed that it was totally normal for boys to have buds too) and I have read on here that a lightly padded bra helps to protect them.

I trawled round looking for them (wish I'd tried Primark now!) and ended up with a couple of padded ones and a couple of normal crop tops for under her uniform (which btw also has an embroidered logo right on the nipple - ouch!).

I was so concerned that her teachers might think it was inappropriate that I wrote a note explaining why she was wearing them in case she had any comments while changing for PE.

I can understand why it might seem inappropriate to some, but if it helps my little DD to feel more comfortable then I have to go with it. Other people can keep their opinions on it to themselves.

And yes, cashew find the bra intervention threads and measure your DD properly - I am a hefty size 16 and take a 34EE. I was previously wearing a 38D.

Peacocks do similar bras as well, to the poster who asked. It's where I got my daughters first few bras from. I think they start off 28AAA (the old fashioned measurements) ,anyway they fitted her and she was tiny.

Honestly, any of you who don't get why your dd's might want a moulded bra need to get up to date.

an AA and AAA cup size so designed for very small frame

I was in 28AA at 16. Being told I had a very small frame would have made my day. I quite possibly did have a small frame, but naturally I didn't think so.

DD is 15 and wears a 32B. I go with her for buying bras as I make sure the fit is right (as per the bra intervention information ). She might need to go up a cup size soon.

I reckon AA and AAA cup sizes are for the pretty much totally flat chested.

I do hate seeing bra style clothing aimed at really young girls, but as quite a few girls do start to develop at 9/10, they do need something. As long as the fit is right.

I my Mum thought needed a bra at 10... I would of much preferred to of gone to the underwear section of a childrens department than dragged to a market bra store where my Mum announced.."she needs a bra, believe it or not under all that". (It was winter and I had heavy coat on)

Well, I definitely wasn't flat-chested. I was wearing bras because running had become uncomfortable without one.

Yes fry AA and AAA are for the totally flat chested. Think they represent something like your bust is 1" or 2" bigger than your underbust measurement. Hence why I was compared to an ironing board when I was at secondary school and couldn't fill my 28AA (AAA wasn't available then, at least I couldn't find one). The only reason I wore a bra at all was because otherwise I had to get totally topless when changing at PE, and you could see my nipples through my white shirt (couldn't get on with crop tops). I was noticeably later developing than the other girls my age, exacerbated by the fact that I was one of the youngest in my year. If they didn't do AA and AAA bras then I quite possibly couldn't have worn one till year 10 or so.

These sizes aren't just aimed at young girls, but at late developers, and petite girls too!

T-shirt bras have revolutionised my life. I don't like my nipples saying hello before I do, and I imagine young girls don't like it either.