AIBU to think children using the word fart is vulgar?

[Fizzielove]

DH and I have had a long standing disagreement regarding the DC using the word fart - I won't allow it and he has pointed out to the DC's that it is not a 'bad word but just one that I don't like them using.

AIBU? or is he?

I don't like the word fart. I teach in secondary school and don't let the kids in my classes say it either, it's just not appropriate for kids to be saying it; it sounds so crude. My niece and nephew say it in front of my dd, who is only very little and at the "copying everything people say" stage. I cringe when they say it as I really don't want her to say it. We say trump, which I'm aware is ridiculous sounding, and dh mocks me mercilessly for it! I likewise object to bum and talk instead about her bottom.

What do they call their bum?

Um, bottom. What else? I don't say bum, tbh, not because it's rude (I use plenty of worse words than "bum", believe me) but because it's just not a word I really use. I think it sounds horrible from dc.

We definitely don't say "front bottom" though. We say "girly bits" :-)

"Willy" is nowhere near as rude as "bum" or "fart" to me. In fact, "willy", I don't consider rude at all.

It's all so subjective, I would have thought willy and bum were very much on a par.

Shit is a word that you say neither in front of the queen nor your grandma.

Luis, us too and we have egg-ons, egg-offs, guffs, burnt tar ones (ew!) and Donald Duck (ones that sound like a quack). Tbh I think that I find it all far more hilarious than my 11 year old DS; he's getting fartoo sophisticated for my liking.

This thread is bloody hilarious though!

Not 'belly buttons' mitzi- only animals have bellies

sorry, mitzy

I think it's very twee to use anything else.

It is a fart.

I can't bear this gouging perfectly normal words stupod prissy names, like calling a vagina a foo foo or something ridiculous.

Trumping or pop off or whatever are just pathetic.

Actually when he was little I called them pop-pops. It seemed more elegant.

We use fart here. And we think very noisy ones are funny (shock horror!!) we must be awful people..

YANBU Pump in our house

When we were kids my brother used to call them guffs but in this house a fart is a fart.

Do all the pump devotees realise it's slang for 'shag' in Scotland? Much more vulgar than little old fart.

I've just realised. I don't think we have rules in our house. Or out of it. I'm not going to be a hypocrite and use words but say to my kids "now you're 8 you can say bum" or whatever. That's quite strange, isn't it? But my kids just seem to be able to self regulate. It's up to them.

I don't particularly like fart, but all the alternatives are much worse, especially pump, so fart it is in our house.

what I dont understand is why all these people who think that normal words like bum or fart are 'vulgar'. What do they think will happen to their children if they say them? Teaching stupid words to use instead like 'pump' (any idea how horrible that sounds?) sounds....I don't know.....so lower middle class, so catsbum mouthed

To me fart, bum etc are crude in a sort of wholesome childish way, while parp, trump etc are vulgar and twee in a sort of Hyacinth Bucket way.

The best fart thread on MN was the one where a teacher was dinged by OFSTED for allowing a secondary student to use the word in an essay where the assignment was to write about an embarrassing incident. The OFSTED inspector called it a swear word.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2213535-To-think-that-fart-is-NOT-a-swear-word

We were brought up to say trump, and DS says either trump or fart. I blame Despicable Me for the fart guns. He also says bum and butt.

When I think of what he could be saying, picked up at school or from my mother , I don't think it's too bad. I've heard one of the parents collect their child from school with the words "Take your fucking glasses off then dickhead" and seen one of the mothers stick two fingers up at a toddler who was ignoring her. Not her own toddler, her friend's child. And my mother has embraced the word 'feck' as her own.

So I think the odd fart or bum or butt is not so bad. I try not to forbid words though. We might not use them at home (although I am more sweary on here), but he's going to grow up hearing them whether we like it or not.

And I'm hoping that by not making a big deal about words, he doesn't think it's a big deal to say them. I mean not a big deal in the 'it's not big or clever' way. I believe my influence in this was Judy Blume, she mentions it in one of her books (Blubber?) that the parents don't forbid words so as a result the children don't feel the need to use them all the time like their school friends. At nine I was very impressed by this and I think it stuck

We said fluff when our kids were small, it made me laugh. They are now lanky teen boys and 'fart' is apparently hilarious. DH too, so no hope.