AIBU to think children using the word fart is vulgar?

[Fizzielove]

DH and I have had a long standing disagreement regarding the DC using the word fart - I won't allow it and he has pointed out to the DC's that it is not a 'bad word but just one that I don't like them using.

AIBU? or is he?

we chose to say fart because all the alternatives are too prissy and/or ridiculous. I am by no means fond of crudeness but we try to encourage plain speaking with DS.

We use "fart" at home (when it's just me, DP and DD), but I wouldn't use it in front of my mum and dad, because I know they wouldn't like it. I'm a teacher and would never use the word in class and wouldn't expect the children to use class - but wouldn't pick them up on using it on the playground.

I don't think it hurts children to know that different words are suitable for different audiences and in different circumstances - words like "bum" and "fart" are an easy introduction to this idea.

I find "parp" or "trump" so twee and precious. I'd hate it if my kids used those. They remind me of grown women saying they need to powder their noses, rather than pee.

"Fart" is a perfectly okay word. It's just a word. It describes what it describes.

Having said that, the older one also knows to ignore farts (his own or other people's) if he is in any sort of polite company. And I'll teach the toddler the same thing, once she is old enough.

Mine say it and I hate it. I'm forever telling them not to say it.
Trump is far better.

Trump reminds me of Donald Trump. I'd rather not make a connection between my bottom and Donald Trump.

There's only one word not used freely in this house..... Cunt.... It does get mouthed though ( that doesn't read very well does it?) I have the opposite view of swearing to most, it's used in the house, the place where we are all relaxed and at ease but we are very mindful of our colourful language away from home. ( the car is an extension of home).

Have you seriously got nothing better to worry about?

I dislike the word intensely. Growing up, I never heard it used at home or in any formal setting and I don't recall anyone ever indulging in the activity in public or even around others at home. But we were so controlled, both self- and otherwise, in our behavior in so many ways (and gentlemanly and ladylike) back in the day.

Are you Scarlett O'Hara?

Tumped?
What sort of word is THAT?

Obviously a typo
Trumped*

No, but this is probably why everyone went crazy in the 70's.

So the fluff/pump/trump people--how do kids cope with using these words in non-fart type situations?

Like, do you not find that they start dissolving into helpless giggling at the Nellie the Elephant song, or if someone refers to a pair of high-heels shoes as "pumps" or says that they have fluff under their bed? I think that would be more vulgar/embaressing, surely? Like, you would just end up bringing the whole fart concept into a whole bunch of conversations where it didn't actually have to come up at all....

Loads of words have dual meanings.

It's not that we 'cant cope' with hearing the word fart, just prefer not to.

totally agree newstatesman - it just adds extra silliness doesnt it?
btw fart is one of the oldest words in the English language and has cognates in every Indo European language. It is in no way a 'swear word' = what is wrong with people?

"So the fluff/pump/trump people--how do kids cope with using these words in non-fart type situations?"

All I can think of now is the 80s/90s ad for toothpaste with the jingle that enthusiastically sang about "pumpin' Aquafresh".

OH GOD, TRUMPTON.

Seriously?

It's a fart. I fart. You fart. One farts. He, she, it farts. They fart (and depending on number everyone else runs from the room due to the smell). It does not require an euphemism.

However, in the interests of science, I've asked a couple of people the question as to whether 'fart' is a bad word/what they thought about the view it is a bad word. The responses were:

1. Bollocks is it.
2. How very middle middle-class.

Fart is the only verb for which the definition in the OED is 'emit wind from the anus'. Surprisingly trump, fluff and parp don't have a wind related definition.

Will never forget being in a car aged 9 with friends being driven by her mum. One of us exclaimed “ooh 1 of you has farted” and she went crazy, acting as if we said the worst possible swear words and really reprimanded me. I have never regarded her as anything else but stuffy, old fashioned, mean and a bit scary ever since for so completely overreacting.

I would just like to take this moment to share one of my favourite fart jokes...

A young man is visiting his future wife's parent's house for dinner. He is incredibly nervous and not feeling too well, but he sits down for dinner anyway. The family dog, Rover, takes a seat under him and they start dinner.

The guy has terrible wind and really has to fart, so he lets out just a tiny one. The girlfriend's father says, "Rover! Get out!". The guy thinks this is really great; they think it's the dog! He lets a little bigger one this time. The father says, "Rover! Get out of there!" in a little harsher tone.

Relaxing, the guy finally decides to really let one rip, so he blasts away with a really long one. The father stands up and shouts "For fuck's sake Rover, get out of there before he shits on you!".

I never heard my dad say fuck in front of me. In fact when ex h crashed my dads car causing it to be a write off, I asked husband what my dad said and he said, dad had said fuck. I'm surprised dad didn't punch his lights out, he never liked the little fat twat. Anyway

I said dad doesn't use that word. Oh yes he does my ex said.

So when my dad, obviously wanted me to be a little lady, was annoyed at the time mum and I were taking to get out of the house, he started to say ..

Come on Ethel, stop piss....( oops he realised his mistake ) fart ( oops there's another one)

By this time mum and I were nearly wetting ourselves with laughter and from then on , anyone caught messing around while others were waiting

Was told to stop pissfarting about. Don't know whether others use it? Dad was never amused.

Mum and I went on to spend several happy years working in a betting shop and by then dad realised it was game over.

Sweet revenge for him making me throw my chuddy on the fire when i was 15 lol!

Happy days.

We are a family of farters, fuckers.

I haven't graduated on to the Cunt word . No doubt I will before I shuffle off

Tess...you could never call what my husband and sons passed...trumps.

They were FARTS.

loud and clear.

I am another who did not know "fart" was rude. It's a perfectly workaday word, and less noticeable than the euphemistic alternatives. "Trump" is okay, but a bit comedic for my tastes.

I tell my dc that fart is not a nice word to use. We can pump, trump, squeak, boff in this house but we cannot fart!