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To think this is a bit daft?

90 replies

Fluffcake · 18/06/2015 13:39

Just popped to Tesco to get some lunch and saw a woman pushing a trolley with a baby sitting in a car seat in it. The baby was about 4 - 6 months old, I would guess and facing the mum. There was an tablet facing the baby blearing it out Finding Nemo.

Is that not a bit too young to be relying on an ipad to be entertaining your child and is not a missed opportunity to by interacting with your child?

The child, quite rightly, was looking at everything going on around them and gave me a lovely big smile.

OP posts:
SurlyCue · 18/06/2015 13:43

Is that not a bit too young to be relying on an ipad to be entertaining your child and is not a missed opportunity to by interacting with your child?

She was in tesco. How much interaction was she likely to be capable of whilst doing her shopping? Or does every mother have to become fucking wondermother now with seven heads and attached interactive accessories? Hmm heaven forbid she wanted to get in and out of tesco as quick as possible and needed to distract a tired/hungry/clingy baby for 10 minutes!

princessvikki · 18/06/2015 13:45

That makes me so mad! It's just lazy parenting, don't get me wrong I'm no Mr tumble and my dd does watch tv , but electronic babysitters are not good at any age especially so young. The mother will be moaning when the child won't play outside in years to come

ItsTricky · 18/06/2015 13:45

Maybe mum is run ragged and too tired to 'interact' every second.

Maybe she's poorly and just popped the ipad on so she could get in and out of the shop quickly.

Maybe the baby is usually fretful in the supermarket so the ipad makes it an easier experience for them both.

You saw this child for a few seconds.

YABU.

Annunziata · 18/06/2015 13:46

Hells bells, thank God no one is watching me for missed opportunities interacting with my child!

Child has probably been up all night and the poor mum just wants a pint of milk and something to make her lunch.

Must be lovely to be perfect.

SurlyCue · 18/06/2015 13:47

The mother will be moaning when the child won't play outside in years to come

Grin Grin Grin

Oh please Hmm

findingmyfeet12 · 18/06/2015 13:48

I hope she didn't also take a swig from the babies bottle while she was there?

DoJo · 18/06/2015 13:48

I think it's dafter to think that you can make an assessment of what someone 'should be doing' with their baby based on seeing them trying to get their shopping done in Tesco. For all you know they had spent all morning at a baby group or similar, interacting the shit out of one another, and the mum wanted to keep the baby distracted for half an hour so she could get the shopping done.

MyGastIsFlabbered · 18/06/2015 13:48

Jeeezus when will people stop making snap judgements based on a split second snapshot of someone? We're not all Mary bloody Poppins.

FernGullysWoollyPully · 18/06/2015 13:51

Be careful. Those judgy pants of yours are so high they might cut of your air flow....

NerrSnerr · 18/06/2015 14:17

Oh ffs. You have no idea if they've just been to a group, or anything else. No bloody wonder some mums hate going out just in case they're judged.

Guessing you're perfect parent OP?

Mrsmorton · 18/06/2015 14:19

I hear judgy pants are BOGOF at Tesco this week. Don't miss out!

AuntyMag10 · 18/06/2015 14:19

Have you nothing better to do that run on mn and post about judging another parentConfused

Sirzy · 18/06/2015 14:20

Some people here are obviously perfect parents!

You can't judge on what you see for a few seconds.

Annunziata · 18/06/2015 14:26

The mother will be moaning when the child won't play outside in years to come

Grin Grin

Let me guess, you have a girl and not above 3 years old Grin

LashesandLipstick · 18/06/2015 14:29

She's doing her shopping, I'm sure you'd be more upset if the child was screaming it's head off and she made no attempt to get it to quieten down.

princessvikki · 18/06/2015 14:30

It's nothing to do with being judgmental! Or claiming to be perfect. It's a case of does a 4-6month old need a screen in her face....I don't think so, is it so hard to give the child a box, packet, toy or anything to look at and keep her busy. It's no wonder so many children are slow developmentally

QuiteLikely5 · 18/06/2015 14:30

The child might hate being in her seat or going to the supermarket so mum does it for an easy life.

Tbh I can't see why else she would bother doing it otherwise

BlackeyedSusan · 18/06/2015 14:30

not everyone wants to sound like Joyce Grenfell whilst shopping.

myneighbourtotoro2 · 18/06/2015 14:30

You mean she wasn't teaching her
Dc their times tables whilst doing her shopping ??

littlemslazybones · 18/06/2015 14:30

It must be awful going around judging people critically on the minutiae of life because you establish the illusion that everybody else is judging you against an imaginary perfect 'other'.

You must be exhausted OP Flowers

Sirzy · 18/06/2015 14:31

Of course it is being judgemental. Your proclaiming to know better what someone should do based on a couple of seconds snapshot - what is that if not judgemental?

joopy79 · 18/06/2015 14:31

YANBU I'm not in the UK but here they say no screens before 2 years.

myneighbourtotoro2 · 18/06/2015 14:34

Princess I'm fairly sure ( though no studies to back me up ) that 15 minutes on an iPad in a supermarket is going to cause a developmental delayHmm.

LashesandLipstick · 18/06/2015 14:34

PrincessVikki I'm sorry what? Children are "slow" because they use screens? What an ignorant thing to say.

I find this fear of technology kind of funny and also really sad. I don't know what you're afraid of - computer literate kids?

NerrSnerr · 18/06/2015 14:35

I'm sure Princess has some evidence to back up her statement about development problems? It's not like someone would just make up something like that is it?

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