I've gone on strike!

[AoifeBell]

My bf always asks me to wash his work clothes at ridiculous hours. The other night it was 12am I

No. Why ever would I?

Even if you'd been lying on a sun lounger all day, sipping cocktails, with full nanny support, that STILL wouldn't mean it was your job to do his washing for him. Why would it be?

He doesn't even live with you! He has his own home with a washing machine (I presume), he just realises if he goes to yours he gets his chores done for free, with sex thrown in. He's probably laughing at you.

"He's not angry he's usually very calm he just doesn't like doing stuff for himself" - Well, who the fuck does?

'have none of you Ever taken your dp/h shoes off?'

30 weeks pregnant in a manual job, with huge lace up work boots and hip pain. DH unlaced them for me once and I took them off myself.

So much mutual respect in this relationship.....in fact, he sounds like my dream, seriously can I have him? Absolutely gagging to take a man's shoes off "for" him.....

With you there, Pike. stupid boy

'I get everyday is a bit much but have none of you Ever taken your dp/h shoes off?'

No.

Please, do the Freedom Programme and figure out why you seem to think you deserve to be with a disrespectful pig and expose your child to such a twat.

I get everyday is a bit much but have none of you Ever taken your dp/h shoes off?

26 years and not once, not ever. Not even the time he was too pissed to find his own feet never mind take the shoes off. And until the day he's too inform to do it it's not an experience I'll be trying any day soon.

You sound desperate to keep him OP.

When I read that he wanted you to take his shoes off, I actually assumed that you were wearing them.

That was honestly my first assumption, rather than that an able bodied adult had asked you to undo his laces and remove his shoes.

No OP, I have never taken an adult's shoes off. To be honest it sounds really demeaning

"He's not angry he's usually very calm he just doesn't like doing stuff for himself" - Well, who the fuck does? This. In spades.

How can you possibly fancy or repect him?

I undo all his laces which pisses him. Childish I know but it makes me feel a bit better.

Yeah, you're really getting one over on him there

This is one of the strangest, saddest threads I have ever read on here.

have none of you Ever taken your dp/h shoes off? For a week when exH had back surgery. He was horribly embarrassed and I wouldn't do it near anyone else because he found it mortifying. Which, even though exH was a bit of a twunt, he was right to feel.

Grow a backbone. Leave and let him get his own bloody shoes and washing.

have you never ever taken DP/h shoes off ? No!!
What do you get out of being with this mysoggynist manchild?

Yeah at 38 weeks pregnant if I was wearing laced up shoes my husband would help(lace up and unlace not take on of off) but that's it in the shoe help department.

your partner sounds like an overgrown child.

If he objects to doing the washing up at yours then does that mean that he does it when you go to his?

"Oh for goodness sakes, don't go to the feminist board, you'll be eaten alive." No you wouldn't. You would get support. He's the one in the wrong. Not you. I know that is irrelevant to you OP as you haven't posted in Feminism, but I don't understand why that comment was even made. Just a bit goady.

I have never taken my husband's shoes off. He once had to put my socks on when I had a kidney infection but that is the only time in the 13 years we have been together we have done anything like that.

What are his good points? Why on earth is he taking his washing to your house if you don't live together?

I feel very sorry and sad for you.
And not just because of your bf.

Yes, I have taken DHs shoes off. When he sprained his knee and couldn't bend it. Only that foot, though, he was perfectly capable of doing the other shoe all by himself, what with being a grown up and all.

'Take my shoes off'

Also I stopped wearing shoes I couldn't slip on or off so think he did that twice.

I am worried that you think this is normal. I hope you can see how it isn't