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AIBU?

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To be shocked that he has a kid?

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WanderWomble · 14/06/2015 21:30

A friend of a friend is a professional racing driver. I've followed his career on and off and even been to watch him race a few times.

I found out yesterday that he has a kid (a son). He's never mentioned having a son in the four or five years I've known him and it's blowing my mind. I think it's wonderful- I bet he's a great dad and his son has a wonderful life.

I just can't wrap my head around the fact and I feel kinda silly. Brain keeps going 'he has a kid?! It's just so weird to me because I've never seen him as a Dad before now. AIBU?

OP posts:

Vivacia · 15/06/2015 07:19

It's not necessary to continue pointing out apparent inconsistencies and bits were OP has been a bit silly. She's taken it on board and to continue writing aggressive posts is unkind.

AmberFool · 15/06/2015 07:35

You've been a good sport OP.

YANBU. I think it's weird if he has known you for ages and gives your DC presents and not mentioned he has a child.

CheekyNandos · 15/06/2015 07:39

If you've known a person for some time and they've not mentioned they've got a child, it IS then surprising to learn that they have one, as in your mind they're not in the parent category. So for that reason YANBU

RoyalMaybe · 15/06/2015 07:41

...I'm sorry, did you really say "hubs"??

That's adorbs

Itsraininginbaltimore · 15/06/2015 07:49

Yes I thought that too Wee

PMSL at 'major second hand embarrassment' I know exactly what you mean.

morelikeguidelines · 15/06/2015 08:48

I agree lots of men don't mention their kids all the time. Often at work I am surprised to find out a male colleague had kids (by colleague I mean someone in same profession I see regularly not someone I work closely with).

However you do sound starstruck as his job has nothing to do with the post.

arethereanyleftatall · 15/06/2015 09:12

Op, would it make you happy if we were to try and guess who it is? And then be impressed? (Us bunch of complete strangers?)
I think it's prince William.

TendonQueen · 15/06/2015 09:19

Pointless and juvenile to be mean about it.

I think men are socialised to mention kids less, sure. But it's the time frame that makes it reflect less well on him. You might work with someone and have no cause to mention your child, maybe for months, but it'd come up eventually. But four or five years? He's not an involved father.

19lottie82 · 15/06/2015 09:21

Sorry, OP, but to me, this thread also SCREAMS out that you fancy this guy!

firesidechat · 15/06/2015 09:27

I get the impression (it's hard to tell for sure because the op describes the relationship differently in each post) that the op only sees the friend of a friend at races and such like. So this is his place of work and he is schmoozing with the fans and the op is one of those fans.

In that case it's not that surprising that he doesn't mention a child. Many "famous" people do choose to keep their private lives private. Good for them.

I admit that my scenario doesn't explain the Christmas presents.

molyholy · 15/06/2015 09:35

Reminds me of the little britain sketch 'did you know I was molly sugdens bridesmaid'.

TwinkieTwinkle · 15/06/2015 09:46

Oh dear, I'm cringing reading this. Doesn't matter how you try and reason it OP, it's an odd thing for you to be AIBU-ing about. You do sound a bit star struck or affronted that he hasn't shared that he has a child.

SurlyCue · 15/06/2015 10:07

I suppose its possible this man's son is just a small baby, so perhaps it hasnt been 5 years that he has 'failed to mention him'. I have a friend who has just had a baby but is very private so when they announced the arrival on FB there were a lot of "i didnt even know you were pregnant" posts. She hadnt put any scan photos or little hints up at all so im sure it was a shock for some. It doesnt mean she will be uninvolved or be a crappy parent.

QuintShhhhhh · 15/06/2015 10:08

Do you also hope builders, or bus drivers, or financial analysts and hairdressers are good parents? Just like, out of the blue?

Or are you just shocked and saddened that you know him less well than you thought?

CheekyNandos · 15/06/2015 10:09

molyholy - that was by far the BEST part of Little Britain but no- one seems to hardly ever refer to it - only to the better known Vicky Pollard etc!Hilarious!

MrsKoala · 15/06/2015 10:17

Aaaaww OP, you've taken the ribbing well (i'm sure it's all good humoured). This thread has cheered me up. It really does read as bizarre.

I want to thank Worra too because now i will laugh whenever i'm at the checkout in Lidl rather than cry

FeijoaSundae · 15/06/2015 10:20

Lidl check-out guy wins the thread.

Donttellmewhattosay · 15/06/2015 10:22

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WanderWomble · 15/06/2015 11:33

Yes. Yes I have a massive crush on Clarkson. Twatty older men are my thing.

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QuintShhhhhh · 15/06/2015 11:33

JC is not a racing car driver! He is a gobby entertainer with an enthusiasm for fast cars!

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